After over 30 years of marriage, I am now on my own and truly loving every moment of it. My husband presented me with divorce papers and if I could, I would tell him that he gave me the greatest gift the world could give. I could no longer deal with the lies and the deception on his part. Now, I don't have to. I now know what is going on. He is so angry because he thought he had a maid for life. Well, I stayed at the dance far too long. My expiration date had long since passed. I stayed 30 years too long. I knew 6 hours after the wedding that it was a mistake. However, like many, we stay for the children. He threatened to take them out of the country many years ago and so I stayed. If you have to stay because of the threats, you are definitely in the wrong place. However, I have spoken to my two adult sons about this and they said I made the right decision to have stayed when they were young, however, they are totally supportive in my leaving 5 years ago. A statistic I read says it takes one year for every five years you have been married to recover. I think that is quite an accurate statistic. When we are in the midst of crisis we believe there is no hope. However, I now am beginning to see the rainbow, and what a beautiful rainbow it is. My best wishes as you begin treading in turbulant water. The waters will settle and you will be amazed at the "new" person that surfaces.