Stuck On 73%To those great people who have been following my saga on EP thanks for your kind words and support. The latest news isn't news at all. My stbx and her sister in law lawyer are still asking for 73% of my net income. I no longer worry about it as the figure it so pathetic it needs no comment.
Why don't they just find a figure they think they will get from a judge and ask for a little more. It makes no sense to ask for so much unless she just wants to aggravate me and she no longer has that power.
My new love has moved in with me. My lawyer strongly advised against it and I am getting more flak that a WWII bomber from other areas but I am beyond caring anymore. Stbx knows about it too so I no longer have anything to hide.
The fact is she needed a place to stay and I never though the divorce would drag on this long. It was supposed to be a quick dissolution remember?
We have gone back to church, and I am trying to mend fences with both of my boys but am starting to get comfortable with my new situation. I have someone who cares for me and will stand by me. She also is training for a new job. Our financial life is a mess now but now that she is moved in there will be much less driving to her apt 34 miles away. That should ease the stress and save a ton of money.
I also have something called intimacy in my life again. I didn't think it was possible for two people to get as close as we are ever, much less in a few months. Being older makes a huge difference that few people can realize. We have both taken our lumps in life but instead of expecting each other to be "the answer" for each other we realize that we can't be that person to each other. It is a trap few people escape. I told her right up front I will no longer put on my red cape and try to solve everyone's problems. I will not put such expectations on her either. We are just looking for someone who has the will and the capacity to stand by the other when times get rough.
We are just simple people with simple, reasonable expectations of each other. The results of this understanding are incredible! The level of trust and desire for each other is off the charts!!! We know we will have our troubles and will let each other down but we are both willing to talk things out and work through things. That has been completely absent in my life for many, many years. I am so glad it is back. I now have the basis to rebuild.