Can We Be Friends?
I met a guy who was younger than me but we hit it off really well .we chatted everyday for a few hours and would text at lunch times. We told each other things we'd never shared with anyone else and acted as support for each other. It was wonderful! I had finally found a friend who I trusted and who enjoyed being with me.
Things were going great! We'd meet up occasionally for a meal or a drink. It was a cool friendship. We went out once and met some of his friends and then BANG! Suddenly he stopped communicating! Nothing for over a week! In the end I sent a text saying whatever I'd done to upset him I was sorry...cos of course I must have done something wrong! He keeps swearing I've done nothing wrong. He told me I couldn't expect that we'd be in contact everyday for ever. I didn't but I had thought we'd transition! The kicker is it was alwys him who initiated contact! I didn't want to push things so I let him lead!
Since he won't tell me the truth I make up my own stories. I think his friends told him I was some kind of cougar or something. The funny thing is I would never have thought about him that way...until recently! When he went weird it was purely devastation about losing my friend but now....I realise I am devastated about never taking that next step. I also wonder if he was starting to feel the same way and it scared him.
So I decided to try to move on. He wasn't replyin gto my texts until the next day even if I was replying to one he had just sent. I decided that I didn't need this juvenile behaviour in my life and since he rarely contacted me I figured it would be easy. So I stopped texting. Two days later he sends a friendly text like nothing had happened. I took my time replying and the usual behaviour started again.
The trouble is I can't take that final step. I can't just say it ends now. I can't ignore a text from him and yesterday he popped up in a chat window....didn't say much but I'm just confused. I'm still trying to get over the loss of my best friend and the loss of a possible boyfriend. I read all the advice and I just don't want to follow it. I would rather have the crumbs he throws than nothing. I am heartbroken.