Tryin To Get Rid Of The Ceatin Boyfriend

Hi neenee247.

Yeah, the guy who cheats on you, definitely get away from him. This may sound dorky, though I encourage you to try a small experiment with it to see how things could work for you, even just a little thing.

I've made up a list of traits that my ideal mate will have. I read it through every day, a few times a day if / when I remember etc.

I'd heard of something called "law of attraction" a number of years ago, whose premise is that your life is what you think about, basically. So, using that, if you keep thinking about this cheating guy, you'll have this, or another, cheating guy.

Thinking it was a bunch of whoo-haa after reading about this, I figured, well, why not try? So, in one book (Ask and It Is Given), I saw a suggestion to use a certain phrase, "Wouldn't it be nice if..." and then fill in that blank. The book's premise was that if you fill that in, using the wouldn't it be nice if, you could have no internal arguments to your final sentence. Unless you use the word "but," at the end of it to refute your own wish, you're good using this phrase.

The notion in law of attraction is that the more doubt you have or fear or anger, the less your desires will happen. So, I started using "wouldn't it be nice if."

My initial thing was really quite remarkable. In one week, I used these four statements -- Wouldn't it be nice if:
1) I were with someone really affectionate.
2) I had a great job where I loved it, and everyone there loved me.
3) Everyone I passed on the street would turn and look at me and smile.
4) I heard from some people from my past.

Now, every one of these things happened, basically or kind of.

1) I'd been dating someone for 1-2 years who was almost never affectionate to me. I had my #1 thought while he was over, and he came right over to me and started being really sweet and kissing me. It'd never really happened even once before then and not often after then. But it was unusual, and I had just thought this.

2) My resume had been hanging out on some site for years, and in this week, I suddenly got a bunch of calls about it and had a few interviews with great companies. I didn't feel like they were a match, then, though one of them probably would have been a great one to have accepted. So I foiled myself [with my own doubts].

3) One day at lunch I went out and thought this thought over and over and over again with no results, until about 30 feet from the building, where everyone started turning to look at me, smiling. I never smiled. On purpose, so as not to lead anyone.

4) This was the first one I did on this list. I just thought this and went to bed. In the morning, I checked my email and had 3 notes from people I'd not heard from in years.

Anyway, point being, I started doing this with some more focus after this experiment, since the results had been so interesting. And so, I keep a list of things for life, including finding a great husband, and at various points, all the things are turning up.

You're supposed to keep the thoughts up all the time, and in fact, even start to try to -feel- like you have the things and then start thinking how grateful you are to have these great things.

I keep figuring, well, it can't hurt, and, it's been helping. So, I do that, and it keeps my mind off any crappy things that happen along the way, too, which is a decent way to keep feeling pretty good.

You're a wonderful woman, I'm sure you will meet someone who values the beauty you are really soon. If you do try the law of attraction experiment, I'd love to hear how it goes for you, neenee247. : - )