What To Do???
I'm really stressed out right now!
My boyfriend and I have been together 3months. I'm married (have applied for divorce), and he has a child with his ex partner. His daughter is pretty ill, she has retinal dysplasia amoungst other problems. His ex and him haven't spoken for a while and I think that it's because he's with me, she rang him and told him she wanted to change their daughters surname to her surname rather than it staying at his. needless to say he was pretty hurt and angry and hung up the phone and they didn't speak for a while. Now she's rang his sister saying that she'll be coming to visit either Friday or Saturday - and his mum is now coming too. My boyfriend and his sister want me to meet his little girl and mum and be there, his ex has a new partner that will be there also. However I don't want to go!! I really want to meet his little girl and his mother, and I know that at some point I'll have to meet his ex - all thats fine, but I just can't be dealing with meeting them all at the same time, it's just too much. They'll all know each other and I know I'll end up feeling like a spare part. Also I think he needs time to discuss things with his ex without me being around, they need to sort out proper arrangements for whenn he can see his daughter etc and that's not really my busines. I know that if I were his ex in the same situation I wouldn't appreciate the new girlf (ie me) being around whilst we spoke about this kind of stuff.
The thing is I don't want my man to think I'm not interested or don't care because I do. I just want him to have the chance to see his daughter and I don't want my being there to cause a problem. If his ex wants to be funny about us being together then thats her problem, I'm not about to start creating problems and making things worse - especially as theres a child involved.
I really am stuck as to what I should do?? Should I go anyway and show him my support? or should I stay away for now to avoid some kind of confrontation??? Any advice would be appreciated...!