I Know That Things Are Survivable NowIt took me a long time to come to terms with what happened to me as a child. I am still struggling with some of it. However, I think that it made me stronger. When you have been through something serious the little stuff doesn't really matter any more.
The perfect example: My brother was dating a woman that had had no real hardships in her life. He told me about when her niece was born with a genetic defect and was declared legally blind in one eye. She had sight (good in one eye, bad in the other eye) and it was some what correctable with glasses, just not enough. Her and her family got so upset and she was talking about how her nieces life was already over. Instead of being supportive to the little girl they treated her like she was crippled.
If any of them had gone through something troubling at some point in their lives then they would understand that she had something tough to deal with but nothing catastrophic. Her life isn't over, she just needs to make adjustments. I feel so bad for that little girl. They were taking a challenge and making it so much harder for her to deal with. They should have been telling her that this was something that she could deal with, not treating her like it was the end of the world.
Hardships teach you that things are survivable. They show you that you can be strong. I would prefer that no one had to deal with tough things, but it does make you stronger.