Gay, Celibate, Christian Just Wanting To Find That Someone To Hold At Night

it only proves that being gay isnt a choice.

Mate your a Christian, so I presume that you believe that God also created you. Well God also gives us all, straight, bi, gay, our orientation too. We cannot change it any more than we could change the colour of our skin.

Our Heavenly Father loves you and has a plan for you. Believe me. He also expects each of us to be responsible with our lives, and not throw caution to the wind and do silly things. Celibacy can work for some, but not all. For us as humans it is not normal. Most of us do need that love in our lives, we need to be held, and to express physically that love as God intended for a loving committed and monogamous couple. Pray to God each day for him to lead you where He wants for you to be.

God Bless

Follow your heart

Are you serious? You want to have a celibate relationship just because you're Christian? You were born gay so it's natural, you were raised a Christian... if you had been born to agnostic, open parents you wouldn't feel this way, so I'm sorry.... but seriously find a man and **** him, there's nothing wrong with that

Hey u think the same way I do its crazy. We should talk one of these day ;)

That relationship is called "best friends." There's nothing wrong with that, but it's harder to sustain because finding someone who also want to be celibate and so for their whole lives is... well, not easy. I am currently in a relationship like this.

I personally believe in abstinence, but not necessarily celibacy. But that is also because I consider myself a theistic freethinker rather than binding myself to a religion that doesn't necessarily feel compatible with who I am at heart. I've "been feeling gay" ever since I can remember, so I say that I have been gay my entire life, for I AM gay. Sorry, I get a little wordy on all this stuff. Even if when I was a practicing Christian, there is much interpreting that ought to be done before one writes off Christianity as a religion that condemns homosexual acts. I urge you to read a bit about this issue in the link that I attach. Please message me if you have any questions or even if you want to talk to another man-loving man who values moral integrity. :)
http://www.religioustolerance.org/hom_bibl.htm
http://www.religioustolerance.org/homglance.htm

I have to agree with arod 800. I can't help I'm a man and had have some adventures, but ultimately just a one monogamous relationship!

This really is what I've been looking for! I'm so glad to find other people in the same boat! I feel it's definitely possible! Thank you!

SORRY THAT YOU ARE HAVING A HARD TIME! I WAS IN YOUR SHOES AS WELL ONCE. I JOINED THE MILITARY THINKING I WOULD TURN STRAIT! BUT ALL THAT DID WAS PUT ME IN AN ENVIORMENT WITH A LOT OF MASCULINE MEN THAT JUST MADE ME MORE ATTRACTED TO MEN... WELL IM 32 KNOW AN HAVE CAME OUT AND ACCEPTED IT. IM WORKING AS A LAW ENFORCEMENT OFFICER AND AM HAPPY WITH MYSELF. ( STILL SINGLE THOUGH) ... I HOPE YOU CAN FIND HAPPINESS ONE DAY... ITS A VERY HARD LIFE TO LIVE BUT ONLY WE MAKE IT HARDER ON OURSELVES!

YO might like this blog: Catholic, Gay, and Feeling Fine - the author is Steve Gershom. I'm not saying the blog will solve everything. But it's good.

You can have anything you want and be anything you want.You will find what you seek and I wish you the best.

There are scripture passages that indicate we should not violate our own conscience. There are also scriptures that indicate that no one is on his own able to go and meet God. The point of the Gospels is that man can reach God through God's grace. No one gets to heaven on their own goodness. It is a gift from God. Everyone is a sinner who has committed something that was wrong, yet God chose to accept us anyway. God's mercy works on God's time table as to when we see a need to accept God's grace. Grace is forgiveness for no reason except God wanted to grant it. There is one condition. The person must accept this divine healing from Godl



I don't believe being gay has anything to do with drag queens, or being feminine or any other indicators except one:: preference for your own gender. Paul did say that some should not marry. Perhaps you are in that boat.



This is a situation where ultimately, it comers down to what you believe God expects you to do. Keep in mind that God has different tasks in life for each person. I admire you desire to be totally in the will of God. You are human and will fail to do that on occasion. When you do confess and try to "fix" whatever the problem is.



I can give my understanding of the various scriptures, that no one human being is infallible, that is has 100 % of the truth and never sins against God. The Bible makes it clear that we all sin. For all have come short of the glory of God so the scripture goes.



May God bless you Your abiding faith will serve you well as you live your life in the coming days, months and years. Don't lose sight of the fact that God may show you knew information at any point in your life. Look at Moses. Moses was given a great commandment to go and free the Israelite slavers. That happened at age 80.



If I can provide any support, private message me or ask on a public forum.



Jay

Everyone needs someone to love and you should be at peace with yourself about who you are.I would rather have a soulmate with whom I could relate on the most intimate levels. Maybe I'm just an incurable romantic who happens to be gay.

I fought liking men all my life because during my formative years it was illegal still in some parts but not all of the UK, a bizarre situation covering nearly a whole generation and still very much taboo everywhere for years afterwards. No education, and very much on one's own with no one to confide in.

Much less so now, and refreshingly the lesser so. I am really pleased with the changes in society since.

But, boy, I've still a lot of hang ups to deal with.

i like you jenning...i hate liking a man either and i cant help the fact that i still like it! :( really nice to find people who can relate with...........and also, its better to be close with others so that you can tell everything about you openly

If we ever met and told me about this, I probably confessed to you that same way I would feel. I understand that you want to choose a different life or want, the fantasy of stopping such feelings to come out. I probably married you if the situation actually came.

Pretty sure it won't work out

If this is your real name, I would go change it immediately. You never know who is reading what is posted here. For those who want their Experience identity hidden from the person's real world, one does not need to use his real name as the user name.



I agree with the pastor and Need to Go. However, there is a verse that says we should not violate our own conscience or something like that. My point is that you are wise to stay celibate as long as you believe you have committed great sin having gay sex.



I hope you can come to terms with your gayness. Being gay is who you are and have been all your life. I remember some discussion about butts when I was somewhere in elementary. Some of the boys were talking about how cute girl's butts looked. The teacher got on to them, but was even more upset with my comment that boys had better looking butts.



There are many guys raised only by a single mom who have taken many women to bed and wouldn't think of being sexual with another man. Being feminine or masculine isn't a factor either. Several pro football players have announced they were gay.



There have been boys raised only by their dads that were gay.



If being attracted to other men is a choice, then when did all the striaght people make a choice to be straight? Ask straight people. They do not remember making a choice.



Keep in mind that some people are bisexual. God loves bisexuals as well. There is where comes the confusion. Bisexuals may remember when they made a choice when they fell in love with a person either male or female. Forsaking all others would mean a choice has been made.



You give no indication that you are bisexual. There has to be a sexual attraction to both genders for that to be the case.



Finally,you have your values which were your parents and others in your church etc. The comment in Leviticus isn't applicable. For one thing there are many,many instructions that not even the Jewish people within 200 years followed. Leviticus gives the laws for the people of that time much like our US Constitution is for us.



The story of Lot in the "wicked cities" is very misunderstood. God was angry because the invading army wanted the young girls to de-flower. Instead, the elders sent the young men to serve the invading army's sexual needs which most likely was anal sex.



God didn't mean for the elders to send anyone for that purpose according to that ancient book as well as according to any other book in the Bible canon.



As for Paul, his comments can be taken to mean the male prostitutes that were in the fertility temples that performed sexual acts with men who of course left an offering.



There is some speculation that Timothy was more than a young man that accompanied Paul on some of his missionary journeys. Paul doesn't appear to have a wife and family. Paul appears to be anti-female. Jesus, however, treated both men and women the same.



Do message me if you wish for more discussion about this. I suspect that if you find the right man, you will know what to do. I don't believe it will just be holding hands.



Don't listen to the homophobic people who will try to lead you to believe that committing a homosexual act will automatically send you to hell. Even if by chance having sex with a man is not what God really wants, consider how many people have had a bad divorce and done things that if you think about it would be worse than having sex with a man. Sexual activities are not some super mortal sin that make Hitler's murder of six million Jews seem a minor sin.



Please don't find a "nice girl" to marry to please Mom and Dad. Your parents aren't going to have to live with her until death do you part. Some men pull it off well. Others falter. It is tragic when a man gets married, has children and then when they are tweens or teens, announce he has a new partner and he is a man. The mother and children deserve better than that.



Listen to Need to Go, the pastor and me. You were born that way. I don't know why. I do know that God loves all his children. There is a place in heaven for the gay people as well as those that are straight.



Listen to God. That is the hardest part of praying.



Peace Be to You.

Your sexual orientation is largely determined at birth. A religious person would have to admit that you are gay because God made you that way. Once you are able to accept it, you will find that others will as well. Your parents may find this difficult, so it may be easier for them and for you if you are out on your own as soon as is practical.



Yes, it may be possible to find a male life partner who will forego sex, but that's not necessary. The term "lust" has a selfish, evil connotation, and that's not appropriate in the loving relationship that you seek. Your sex drive is part of who you are, and it's no sin to express it with love that is sincerely felt.

As a pastor I would tell you that being gay is not a sin, it is a gift. Very few truly love their own kind. Being celibate may be more sinful than trying to lie to yourself through non-commital in a relationship. 1 Corinthians 13 is a chapter all about love. When read after understanding Jesus' two commandments "Love God and love your neighbor as yourself" (my paraphrase) then we come to the realization that love and committment are the fruits of a true and faithful relationship. Within that relationship we were given feelings in our bodies to make intimacy pleasurable, thus drawing us closer to one another. Most of the animal kingdom does not enjoy this intimacy-it separates us from them. This committment-one to another-is the example Jesus used to teach how our committment to God must be. Jesus always tried to remove the glory from himself and place it where it belonged-to God. The idea of a committed relationship, whether between those of opposite genders or of the same gender, is the lowest level of committment we can have to God. Dietrich Bonhoeffer suggested that the committment to God must be so great that all other love committments must seem hateful in comparison. The idea of finding that one special person is truly Christian, whether that one person is of the same sex, or of the opposite sex. Know that there are thos of us who lift you up and support your continued search.



Hugs,

Regina

I knew I was different from an early age.

I had a normal childhood, did normal boy things.

When I reached the age of 13, I started to notice boys instead of girls.

It just all came naturally to me. It wasn't a life-style choice.

I am an observant Jew and believe that my gayness is a gift from God.



Being gay is one of the most basic things about you.

It is up to you who tell and when you decide to tell them. It is also up to you who you share your body, thoughts, feelings and emotions with.

Please do not fall into experiencing guilt, fear or shame.

Be bold, be proud and be yourself.

Good luck with being gay.