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To The People In The Closet For A Long Time

I am a 20-year-old gay guy in the closet.
I have denied it over and over, but now I have internally accepted who I am.

I do not know what my future would be like in terms of relationships.
I do not want this to affect my other aspects of life - jobs, friendships, family-relationships, etc..

At first, I thought of living my life as a closeted person. I might get married to a woman (since it is not like I am appalled by women) and live a normal marital life. In this way, I can avoid all the stages of conflicts that I have to face with my family, friends and other groups of people.

But then, I was not sure whether I could handle that all by myself.
So I wanted to ask you who have gone through it.
How did you cope with it? And if you were to live your life again, would you choose to live in the same way as you did?

Thank you for your insight and tips in advance.
wonderboy1992 wonderboy1992 18-21, M 7 Responses Feb 9, 2013

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I am 19 and feel the same way. I am also in the closet but am coming to realize who I really am. I never actually realized how many gays were married to hide who they really are. I would never do this and think you shouldn't either. When (and if) I find the right person I will come out. Otherwise I probably won't. Best wishes!

hey ..please read my story about being in the closet all my life and being married with kids...please..it might help you buddy.

I feel for you but should you get married that would be so unfair on your wife just to protect yourself? I came out years ago its been tough painful even but I have hurt nobody, they may have been disappointed but its their issues and small mindedness. I understand why you want to remain closeted but don't involve someone who one day you may hurt. Good luck to you

I am unable to accept this part of me, and I am alone, and closeted at 28 years old. The only people that I can count on would stand by me but it would humiliate them if I came out so this is where I stay. I would feel less of a man if I came out, but that is just me....can vary by person. It has to do with how I grew up I think.

im in the same situation but i just dont know how long i can actually stay in the closet for. i just live it as one day i will have to come out and live with the consequences of who i am and just be proud of who you are!

I'm 17 and I guess we have the same situation. I don't know how long I could handle this

I'M STILL CONFUSED TOO. I KNEW A LONG TIME I WAS DIFFERENT-- GAY OR BI. TURNED OUT BI AND I'VE THAT WAY FOR 60 YEARS. I'VE MORE GAY AS I'VE OLDER BUT AM STILL IN THE CLOSET. STILL DON'T KNOW IF "RIGHT OR WRONG"