Questions And Answers: When Is It Okay To Break A Promise?
Thank you MizShagtastic, for posing such a thought provoking question in the Jackassery Forum of Questions and Answers. My apologies for turning what's normally a precise if not curt response into a Mini-Novel, but those thoughts inspired this story assigned to me as a writing challenge several months ago. It's one I was not able to previously write.
~ thank you for breaking the chains ~
Who hasn't broken a promise?
Who hasn't told their child, "I promise to take you to McDonalds after school", then unexpectedly you're late getting out of work, have to run to the dry cleaner, in traffic and barely make it in time to dance practice. By the time every errand and chore is complete, the only food offered are disappointing Hot Pockets over Happy Meals. Is that so wrong? We've all been there.
Or, who couldn't forgive a friend for telling a secret she Promised not to share. Even if it was a pretty big secret, most people have enough compassion and empathy to make allowances for at least one faux pas.
Sure those broken promises are wrong, technically they all are, though they are at least forgivable. However, the marriage promise is most important to me and it's one I ultimately broke after nearly 17 years. Some would say marriage vows are unbreakable; nothing but an affair or steady *** whoopin' could excuse.
I suppose if this Ultimate Promise of My Forever wasn't so important, forgiveness wouldn't be a struggle right now. Yes, I'm the the one who gave up... and it WAS VERY WRONG; though it's a decision I don't regret (which is the conundrum I face).
I keep working through the reasons and rationalizations; telling myself I did try hard enough. Asking myself the same question 5 minutes later, "Did I?". One thing I do know, is I never see marrying again because I NEVER want to be in a position to break a promise that strong EVER AGAIN!
Marriage is sacred in my eyes. I don't know if breaking that promise is unforgivable or not.
I'll let you know someday if I ever forgive myself.