Stubborn Or Unforgiving!

I know I'm stubborn, especially if it's something I feel passionate about. I've always been this way it's just who I am. To me everything is black and white with no shades of grey. I'm not a might be or not sure person, I am either a yes or a no. I know what I like and don't like and,if someone does something that affects me in a really bad way, like being disrespectful,selfish or being what I call a fair weather friend( you know the type who only want to be with you when they have a problem, are newly single, want to borrow something or have nothing or nowhere to go). I don't necessarily have an argument I just walk away and never talk or think about them again. I find it easy to cut off from people, and I'm the same whether it be family or friend.

I don't hold a grudge I just stick in and get on with my own thing, I don't have feelings either way for that person, I am quite happy not to see or hear from them again, and in most cases it makes my life a lot better. I know this stubbornness is an inherited thing, and to be honest I like having it, it serves me well. There are times of course where I do compromise, but when it is something I feel strongly about or if I don't agree I won't budge. In the past I've had ex boyfriends call me hard and unforgiving, but it's not that at all, I just don't believe in wasting my time on something I know I don't like or agree with, just for the sake of it. If I don't like someone or I don't want to talk to them I won't, I don't see the point in pretending to be interested when I'm not.

I know there are different kinds of being stubborn, we aren't all stubborn for the same reasons, but I would rather a stubborn person than one who gives in to things just to "keep the peace" when really they don't want to but feel they have to. I have never pretended to be anything other than what I am, I say what I mean, keep my own counsel, and if you cross me you only do it the once. The only second chances that you get with me or ones that are earnt, and it takes a lot to do that, and it happens rarely.

My stubbornness is the one thing that has helped me overcome a lot of things in my life, and whether the people I know or have known, have disliked it in me, is beside the point, because I know it is the one thing I can count on and defines who I am as a person. Being stubborn is much the same as being passionate, I think they go hand in hand. It shows you feel things deeply and have thoughts and opinions and won't be battered down by other people's thoughts and opinions. That's why we have free speech, and if you look back over history a lot of things have been accomplished by people who are stubborn and refused to give in.



Wotserface Wotserface
41-45, F
Jul 18, 2010