Me a Submissive?

Submissiveness is looked down on by the world as a whole.  From feminists, to women's rights advocates, to even the every day "Joe".  Yet most religions see women as the submissive,  submit to your parents, submit to your husband, submit to authority, and mostly submit to God.

Is it any wonder then that submissiveness comes naturally to some of us?

My husband encouraged me to join Alt.com, and EP to explore and discover.  What I discovered thus far is both a surprise and not a surprise.  I am a submissive.

When I am serving my husband it is as natural as the sun rising every morning.  Simple things such as making his meals, cleaning and folding his laundry, to massages, and of course sexual activity, are all seeing to his needs.

My fantasies have always had me as the submissive.  Some fantasies involve BDSM elements, others do not.  My dreams at night, when sexual, have me under a Dominant male, and craving him and the sexual feelings he gives me, almost following him like a puppy hoping for another rush of *******.

I finally confronted and made peace with my sub nature recently and have been trying to come to grips with it.

I am both excited and scared at what I have finally admitted. 

Seanachai Seanachai
36-40, F
2 Responses Mar 11, 2009

submissive is a relative term. <br />
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The reality is a shared trust and balance in the most complete and intimate way.

People may confuse submissive ( sexually) with weak. I would be quite surprised if you consider yourself weak. My wife is one of the strongest people I know and I worship her. But in bed..<br />
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Its trite that many sexual submisives are so because they are damn tough otherwise.