Fantastic Description Of The Submissive In A Relationship
I don't know if this has been published here before but...(from : Holipsism's Haven - http://holipsism.multiply.com/journal/item/79)
The Dominant Man - (written by a man sick of both sexes misinterpretating Dom/Sub relationships "due to the fact they use as a reference the warped and perverse European version of what it means".)
In an ancient African/Eastern tradition the relationship between DOM and sub is symbiotic. They are both playing mutually beneficial roles. The greatest gift a woman can give a man is not sex. It is her submission. A real woman will only submit to a man she respects and TRUSTS. A woman can have sex with you and be intimate with you and you will NEVER see her submission so it is deeper than just penetration. A real man, as a DOM, views the woman's submission as a precious jewel or a treasure and a living testament to his strength and dominance. The stronger the woman the more valuable her submission.
To the European the submissive is a dog. The sub is considered conquered ground not worthy of respect because she had the audacity to submit to a piece of **** like the Dom who controls her. Their dysfunctional co-dependent relationship has not respect and trust as its foundation but disrespect and fear instead. Their relationship is also a living testament to the insecurity of the DOM.
The DOM/sub relationship is special and unique and deeper than any vanilla relationship can ever be and it produces REAL MEN and not boys with dicks. If a man is to truly be a man and run with the globe his woman has to submit to him and trust him enough to place herself in his hands and run things. If a woman is into convenient submission (wants to submit in bed but run things and challenge his dominance outside of it) then what you will get is a convenient MAN.
I love this and it describes perfectly how I feel.