Why Do So Many People Want to Kill Themselves?????????????????????????????????????????????

I wrote this for a 16yr old on this sit but I thing I need to share it with every one!

Why would you want to do that? There are some many people out there that love you and would be very hurt if you did. Suicide is one of the most selfish things anyone can do. Your young and there is a lot of this world that is worth seeing and worth share with other people. Like you family (Mother, father, brother, sisters, Aunt, uncles and so on and so forth), your friends (school mates, co-works, or people you know a church or other activates). Can you tell me that you have been all over the world and seen everything there is to see? Can you tell me that you have experienced love? Not the love you get from your parents, but there love from a life partner, or when you’re older the love you would have for a child you just had. Life is so worth living there are a lot of people worth meeting, a lot of think worth doing. Have you ever gone Mountain climbing, surfing, ski diving, skiing or been to anther country and so much more that I can’t even describe, how many people do you know that have been to Iraq, Kuwait, Jordan, Korea, Germany, The USA, Mexico, France, England, and many other countries. I am from the USA and I serve in the US Army and I would have never been able to do this if I had committed suicide when I was 17 years old. I would not have my loving wife or my two boys who I love more then anything. I would do anything for my family. Life may suck for you know but it will get better. Trust me I used to think like you do know. All I can say is find something you love and do it every day. Find a true friend like the one you told and hang out with her ever day. Look at things from anther person point of view, there is a lot worth living for but you just got to get out and do it. There are all so other websites like this one, with people who truly do want to help you and many of them like me have been though what you are going though. All you have to do is ask. Try millions of different thing but don’t kill your self it not worth it.

nb0898 nb0898
26-30, M
18 Responses Dec 24, 2007

We came here to die and it should be our choice to live or die. When someone tells you that you are selfish they are trying to make you feel bad/guilty. We are emotional beings so taking our own life to an emotional body would seem sad or mad or whatever other feelings come out. In this society people (cops) can kill other people and that seems more acceptable. Fear is the main reason why people do not accept suicide. Depending on your belief system and ideas this is one of the most trickiest thing to explain or accept. If we were not a slave to this society and did not have ideas such as religion or make someone feel guilty because they want to leave this dimension. If you were living a life of freedom you will then see that you are no different than any creature on this earth - but having the EGO that we have it gets in the way of what the "truth" really is. If you are a very emotional person then my statement may not go well with you - I truly understand that. When people say they have "lost" someone when they passed from this dimension, is that not saying that they feel they had ownership? Do we have ownership? We are all connected to each other - each and every one of us but ideas have separated us and as you look around at mother nature today she is doing her best to get rid of over population and do her own clean up of this world thru devastation/earthquakes, volcanoes, weather system and wars. All she wants is someone to care for her and in the long run all we want is to know that someone cares for us and with the "lack" of true harmony in this world as we know it now (because it changes and change is inevitable) many people will at some point and time feel they want to leave. It should be YOUR choice.

People are maggots, you can't run from them, you run.. they chase you. Courage for an entire lifetime or courage for a moment? You dislike something? "this is the society" ..such replies i get.. well **** society then, nobody will keep me from doing what i want, be it the most selfish thing, i don't care about anybody else anyway. Hell knows.. maybe i'm ill too. Too bad i'm still too scared to die, maybe other time..

Sure, it'd be nice to go places, do things...all you need is money. What do you do when nothing interests you anymore...

Good for you OP.<br />
My life has not been worth it.<br />
I've had my share of failures and successes.<br />
And none of it has been worth it.<br />
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And even if I kept living I still would not get to do everything and visit every place.<br />
I should have killed myself years ago instead of wasting all this time living for nothing. But that is to be remedied by the end of this year. After my mini retirement and debauchery I am done with this mortal existence.

Yes I constantly battle with Major Depression, Hypothyroidism and other illnesses. I have medication and see Doctors all the time to "maintain" them. But still I know it's a constant battle daily for me with depression. I am now in my 40's and as far back as I can remember I have always suffered from it. There are a lot of times where I feel positive and happy about the future but it doesn't last, I end up back suffering and trying to find ways to kill myself without causing hardship to the people I love. I just want an end to the suffering, sleep and just roam the universe without the pain and misery I have. <br />
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I keep saying another year and I'll be gone.......thank god! <br />
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My family know I suffer, I tell them. But I don't say I'm gunna kill myself cause I know they would probably try and put me away and I don't wanna break their hearts. They do try to suggest things and give me advice but I've suffered it long enough to know it doesn't work for me. The only thing that will, will be the final act of death.

I wish I was the one asking this question. Lucky you my friend.

**** you. How dare you try to make people feel like **** for being depressed?! "Selfish" is expecting someone to put up with an ungodly amount of pain for their whole life just so that YOU don't have to experience it for a while.

**** you. How dare you try to make people feel like **** for being depressed?! "Selfish" is expecting someone to put up with an ungodly amount of pain for their whole life just so that YOU don't have to experience it for a while.

**** you. How dare you try to make people feel like **** for being depressed?! "Selfish" is expecting someone to put up with an ungodly amount of pain for their whole life just so that YOU don't have to experience it for a while.

Thank you very much for posting this. I never really thought about how suicide could effect so many people very negatively.

I am suicidal. For me the reasoning isn't that I feel unloved. In fact, I feel very loved, I know that If I walked up to anyone in my family (and some of my friends) and told them that I wanted to kill myself they would do everything in their power to help me or get me the help I need.<br />
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I don't though. I don't because I feel that I don't deserve it. I have a running tally in my head of all the times I screwed up or screwed them over. I can't trust myself to react the same way to them that they'll react to me. So I hide it all away and it continues to build. I know this is the wrong way to deal with it, but somewhere along the line in my head I get convinced that I have to deal with it myself or I will NEVER deserve the love they have for me. It really sucks.

I lost my daughter 6 months ago. She was intelligent, articulate and loving. She tried to die many times over a 2 year period and everytime except one we were there to stop her.<br />
Since she died I have realised 2 things, 1, Once suicide becomes fixated you cannot stop it, and 2, its OK to feel relieved once your loved one has gone.<br />
Number 2 needs more explanation. <br />
Everytime she tried suicide we died. She didnt die but we did. We felt guilty everytime we had her sectioned/commited. We blamed each other for our failings and yet we always agreed that she was ill. The only stable relationship in her life was pushed to the edge of instability by her illness. We were the only people who cared whether she lived or not. <br />
If you are a parent reading this my advice to you is this; she hurts you because you care. She cannot hurt anyone else because they dont care. She doesnt want to hurt you but no-one else is interested. If she dies you are the only ones who will feel guilty. She will push you to the edge but you must stay together.<br />
Once she is gone your relatives will come to visit for 2 weeks, after that the only people who will want to talk about her will be her parents. <br />
We never gave up hope that she would become well and yet we still lost her. If you lose your child my heart goes out to you.

there is always a solution you just havent found it yet.and the solution is not suicide.you already know what wonderful things are out there,but you cant be part of it until you are at peace in your own mind.your mind is amazing but sometimes is working wrongly.if you can calm the mind and change your thoughts to benefit you then you can be happy whatever your problem is .not easy but it can be done and you can escape the bdd maze.trying to help hope i have a liittle.

I`ve some suicidal feelings that are developing too fast,.<br />
I don`t see it selfish, it`s rather a sick last solution.<br />
Sometimes the people that love you the most are responsible for these felings in a way or another.

My mother has told me for years to pray and all the bad feelings would go away.<br />
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Mental Illness isn't that easy. It is a sickness, just like cancer or something else that rips your body. <br />
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I get so angry when people do not take mental illness serious! They jump on their high horses and feel the need to say "but you are so smart...but you have a roof over your head..." so that automatically means you aren't supposed to be mentally ill. Let's not forget that fact you've been hospitalized twice and been on all the meds under the sun. =/

The writer of this really doesn't get it at all. I consider depression to be a cancer than doesn't kill..on it's own. It just eats you alive, keeps you in constant pain, but won't kill you. <br />
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It's not like the suicidal person is a healthy, energetic, well adjusted person with a ton of friends, family , hopes, wishes and dreams who just decides to be a jerk and kill themselves thumbing their noses at all that. Seriously, do you think someone who felt they have a life of joy and opportunity ahead of them would want to kill themselves?<br />
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You don't get that they DON'T have that, they have mind numbing pain, panic attacks, self loathing, no energy, no one around them who understands or can help them get free, they watch their relationships deteriorate, their jobs suffer, their friends and families become more and more alienated.<br />
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People don't come over with casseroles, offer you time off work, or to help out like they do if you break a leg or get the flu, they tell you to get over yourself, say "what's wrong with you? you ingrate", and lecture you on pulling yourself together. They kick you when your down, make disparaging comments on "mental" people, etc.<br />
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I had a friend tell me she wasn't interested anymore because I'm not the woman she came to know and love. I supported her through 8 months of hell while her mother was dying and her friends were taking advantage of her, let me tell you, she wasn't fun to be around. But now, when depression robs me of my joking habit, she's tired of me. See, she feels like she deserved support, because she was going through a hard time, but me...what's MY problem?<br />
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So, no, you don't get it. We dont' have a wonderful life waiting for us, why don't we just run out and live it. We are debilitated and often without support.<br />
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We want to die because that is what people in dire pain with little hope feel.<br />
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now, do you get it?

Telva I did live with that burden for quite a few years,around 10 to be exact. You say you need to be loved but don't you realize that to be loved by other than your immediate family(unconditional love) that you need to be able to GIVE too. I reallize the way you feel right now with your"cold, little, broken heart." that you'll probably see this as another criticism,it's not believe me. It's something that I also had to learn.But you have to get help and get better so you can participate and love someone and they love you back in a healthy way.<br />
You can do it.You have to want to do it and you CAN do it.Come on,life has a lot to offer.

I am currently suicidal (or at least thats what my doctors keep telling me) so I think I can answer your question, if only a little, or for myself. <br />
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ElleMeza actually hit the nail on the head. I DON'T feel loved, truly loved. I feel like its all for pretend. I DO feel lonely, unwanted, unloved, not cared about, SEVERELY depressed, and a lot of others that I just don't feel like naming right now. As I'm trying to ignore them. And I have been sexually abused. <br />
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Right there. Think about it. Everyday you feel all that, and more. It weighs a ton. Like your burdens have gotten too big for you. That everyone else have easier burdens to carry. That everyone is whispering, and everyone wants you to die. Then when you get in too deep you can't turn back. The nagging that of just ending it all is always there. And if you ignore it long enough it turns into a small voice. It says 'Do it....Do it....End right now......Right here, and now........No one REALLY cares.' <br />
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If you had to deal with that for a YEAR I would not be surprised if you gave in. Try living with it for 5, almost 6 years. That's what I have had to suffer. <br />
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Though I will not tell my doctor this; I will tell you. All I want is to be LOVED. Truly loved. That is what I LONG for. Someone that I can love with all my cold, little, broken heart. And be loved right back. <br />
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I think that's what a lot of suicidal people want. To be loved, and cared for. And be able to say without a shallow of a doubt that the love that they get, and feel is real. <br />
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If you know someone who is suicidal, or depressed....Just...just talk, and listen. But mostly listen to what they have to say. We all have our own reasons that have driven us to the edge, over it, and back again. So much that we'er just.....sick, and tired of it. So listen, and try and help. TRY to be that person's light at the end of the tunnel. Because, hunny, what I see when I look down the tunnel is pitch black. No light what so ever. And...its killing me inside, so much that I just want to kill myself.

Count your blessings. I was overdosed with a prescription drug that left me without energy and a layed on the floor for 16-18 hours/day for 17 years. I don't know this world, have no family or friends but somehow get out into the world.

OMG, are you serious? I wish I could give you/do something for you! I can send you a postcard or parcel from where I live, if you give me your address! xxx