...but I Love Them and I'm Trying Not to Be Judgmental...

For years drinking was super fun.  We would all go out, get hammered beyond belief, act like freaking retards, cab it home in a haze, call each other in the morning to rehash the hilarity.

It's not funny anymore.  It's not cute.

We're too old to act like children.  We're too old to make excuses for each other.  For every action there is a reaction.  People have started to drink too much, all the time, in inappropriate circumstances.  I used to be one of the worst in my group of friends, but I quit drinking six months ago in order to, among other things, be more healthy, have a better marriage, be a better employee.  It's unbelievable how much grief I've gotten for it.  It's not like I'm walking around all sanctimonious about it.  I've never eaten meat and no one gives me crap about that or makes comments about it.

At first, when I decided to quit, I thought, "I just have too much to lose now that I own a house, have a degree, etc."  But I see now that the alcoholic haze has cleared -  there always has been too much to lose. 

If we cannot control our impulses, our passions, our addictions - we have no control over the people we become.  I just don't want to take the risk of becoming the kind of person I despise - of doing something I absolutely can't take back or fix.  So, I'm done.  I no longer drink and I will not change my mind.

sunnyday sunnyday
31-35, F
2 Responses Jul 11, 2007

It took me longer than you two to give it up - but, I'm so much better off now that I was back then being a crazy person. I'm so glad you are determined to make your life better!<br />
Congratulations!

Bravo! I agree. I know exactly what you are saying. I've been around them. I haven't quit, but I don't drink to get drunk anymore, neither.<br />
I've drank probably five beers in the past eight months and all at different times. <br />
I got into trouble. I could have gotten Public Intoxication and let go, but I took charges that weren't even mine to help my "man" (joke) out, and in the longrun, he came out scott-free (except for a PI) and 10 years later, I'm still paying for it. Worse than I was back then. That guy and I split up two years later. I am very proud of you. I'm sorry your "friends" feel and act the way they do.