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Almost Half Way Through

I am on month six, during this, me and my soldiers first deployment of thirteen or fourteen months. By the time he gets home he will have missed both my twentieth and twenty first birthdays. Also, if they keep him the full fourteen months he will also miss both our first and second anniversaries. He has no clue when he's coming home. It can be either September, October, November, maybe even December, (he says they pushed his deployment date back sixteen days). It's been really hard not having an actual cut off date, but that's really not what I'm concerned about in our relationship. He's been gone since September, and we talked all the time before he left for Afghanistan. Even though he was over 300 miles away I still felt our connection. When he went to Afghanistan everything changed. The first couple weeks he called once or twice a week. Then, it turned into once a week at the most, and now it's been almost three weeks since the last time I talked to him. Yes, he sends me short inattentive Facebook messages saying he loves me and shortly answering a question i might have asked him in the week or two since hes messaged me. But one time, I saw him online, and he just wouldn't talk to me. Like he was ignoring me, then I saw a new status up on his page, when I'd been messaging him for ten minutes. It hurts to think that he would just turn his back on me like that. I'm really trying hard not to '*****' or create a fight between us. So, I haven't brought this up to him yet. But with all the questioning, and the feeling ignored, and just the straight up loneliness that comes along with deployment, I'm sick of it. I'm sick of him acting like it isn't hard for me, and like I was overreacting about him leaving, just because no one else in his life was crying or telling him how much he means to them like I was. Did he ever stop and think that I am the only one who is completely alone in this? Does he know that even when I'm surrounded by a million people I feel completely alone because none of them understand me the way my boyfriend does? He has his friends over there who all miss someone too, who can understand what he's feeling, but me, I have no friends that can even begin to understand what I'm going through. I have been so alone for so long, but I really love him. I just want him to understand that this is hard for me and acknowledge it! Although I'm supposed to be his support system, shouldn't he care about what I'm going through? and whats going on in my life? Shouldn't he tell me I'm beautiful and that he couldn't live without me? I haven't heard that in such a long time, my self esteem is definitely being affected. How can you keep waiting, and keep your faith in someone who seems to have left you in the dust? How can you explain yourself to countless people who ask how you can wait for someone for a year, when you really don't know the answer yourself anymore? I feel so hopeless, like I'm stuck. I need someone to help me. I can't do it myself anymore.
alyssabraun alyssabraun 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 11, 2012

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Thanks. :) I definitely will message you if i need someone to talk to, just so you know, I'll be here for you too. Maybe add me on facebook so we could talk more? :)

that sounds good what your name on facebook ?

Alyssa Braun its the same :)

Im in the same boat .My boyfriend over there to .I think the guys just get stress just hang in there.My tell me oh I dont know why you with me or why you cant find someone better but then he will be better a hr later and tell me he loves or or something .I think it might be all the stress.Try putting your self in his shoes .But I dont think they know what we go throw when there away .Try to stay busy time will fly by faster .Have you try to tell him whats going on in your life or something ?Like emails of what happend home the good stuff .Maybe he talk more .I tryed that with my boyfriend it help .Or try posting picture on facebook or send some to him .Try sending him letters .I know its hard .My boyfriend gets stressed really easy over the stupid things .If you need to talk I know what your going throw inbox me or somethign im here for you