I Feel Very Self-concious of My Height

Hello, I am fairly tall.  About 6'3 feet.   And it causes me a lot of distress.   I think in general because I had bad experiences in my youth, in any way being physically different from the general crowd causes distress. 

I have often obsessed about being tall and the low self esteem it causes, and it reallly has caused me a lot of depression.    Depression has occurred often in my family so I would probably be depressed about one thing or another.   However, for whatever reason my height self esteem issue really feeds a social anxiety and I feel helpless against it.  

Most people seem to laugh at me and say 'lighten up.'   But I feel like a giant freak all the time.  If someone makes a friendly joke about my height, I am crushed.  

I have a beautiful wife, and we have a great relationship.   I feel fairly confident in my job at a local grocery store.   But the distressing issue of the way I perceive myself seems to constantly distress me.  

I am wonderring how many other people might feel this way.   I have been diagnosed with depression, but I some times wonder if I have OCD or something. 

Take care everyone, and please remember we are all precious...and thanks all for creating/participating in this forum.


megiraffe79 megiraffe79
36-40, M
94 Responses May 1, 2008

I used to feel self-conscious in my teens (I'm 6'2") but got over it mostly.<br />
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Would echo other comments that 6'3" isn't that tall. I would say in the USA and Europe 6'6" or so is tall!<br />
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I love petite women 5'0 or so, I love the way it makes me feel protective and thus...maybe...wanted. The tallest girl I ever went out with was 5'9 and it didn't last long.<br />
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I have a buddy who is 5'5" or so...he loves tall women.<br />
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But why get hung up on it, we come in different sizes, shapes and flavours!

I know how you feel sweetie, i am 5"11 and i cant tell you how hard it is to meet a guy that is taller than me.<br />
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I think it is easier for men to be tall cos the girls seem to go for taller guys more. Maybe you need to go talk to a councellor or something as it is still very much a problem for you.<br />
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It was an awful problem for me at school cos i was always a head over evreyone else and i used to hate it. They used to call me BFG (Big friendly giant) it was a kids book i am sure you heard of it.<br />
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Dont bother me anymore too much.

I'm 6'5". Honestly it just feels normal all the time UNLESS i run into someone taller than me. That freeks me out a bit. The only time I wish I was shorter is when I hug a pretty girl. It's hard to enjoy a full body hug when you're a lot taller than most women.

i understand whare your coming from as a 6ft intersexed woman(yuk damm labels again!), i do take comfort in the fact that should i attract a comment at least they had to look up to say it, my standard reply to them usually is "Dont worry you'll get under it",and point out it appears more of a problem for tham so they might want to look into that, dont know if thats any help to anyone , just thought i'd chip in as i live with it too xxxxx

6 feet 3 inches is not particularly tall in my world<br />
besides tal men are so attractive :)

I can't believe you posted this, theirs amputees that don't ***** as much about self confidence in their physical appearence as you do. This was quite possibly the gayest thing I've ever read. Do us all a favor and go find yourself a 7' boyfriend to cry in his lap, because any dude that posts something like this obviously enjoys penis in and around his mouth.

look i' 6'5 and women dig tall guys...i never had a shortage of women just sometimes we dont fit in certain places...

If it makes you feel any better, I've been turned down by alot of women I asked out because I wasn't tall enough for them. I am 5'8".

I'm taller than all the girls in my family i'm 5'6 the tallest one after me is 5'5. But my guy cousins are 6'5 to 6'7. I love tall men they just don't like me because I'm to short :[ *cries*

I'm 6'3" too! <br />
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You should revel in your good fortune to be so tall. <br />
Tall guys earn more respect, tall guys are more likely to get promoted, tall people can reach that item on the top shelf, tall people can paint the ceining without having to go find a step ladder. I can find my wife easily in a crowded store, I find women smile at me in the street (in a good way!), people tend not to pick fights with me in bars, the list is endless.<br />
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Life is great being tall. By comparison short men are less trusted, always appear to be on an ego-trip, receive less admiring glances, appear to have 'something to prove'.<br />
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Enjoy being tall.

Haha...i hear ya. Living in southern Italy made me feel like a giant (i was 6'4" 220 in 1984) and EVERYBODY assumed i was a basketball pla<x>yer. I am NOT a fan of basketball, nor even liked playing. And just try to find a pair of size 14 shoes there...other than a military PX.<br />
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My wife is 5'3"...she calls me "Mile-High"...for a reason, hehe.<br />
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Love being tall!

man, I love tall men. I have this teacher 6'4 and when he walks the hallways, its not hard to see him.<br />
Im fairly tall, 5'8, the adverage woman is 5'6. I wish i was 5'11. Be proud of your height. I usually wear heels to be even taller (5'9-5'10)

why wold you be self-concious as a tall GUY??? i'm 6 foot four and i'm a 10 yr old girl and i'm not ver self-concious. and when you're a girl, you're not menat to be tall. you are supposed to be small and pettite. men are supposed to be tall. be proud!!!!

As a woman, I am particuarly tall at 6 foot. And I find certain things hell...like finding trousers long enough! But when it comes to men, nobody under 6'1 even features on my radar...apparently because women like to feel 'protected' and a tall man instantly gives us that impression. My boyfriend is 6'4 and its brilliant, I can actually wear heels and still feel normal. My brother is 6'6" and is a babe magnet. I wouldn't worry in the slightest, its a great thing to be. Just take advantage of it.

Being tall does not cause depression. The two tall men I know, one slightly over 6'3" and the other one 6:9" are both pleased with their height, so don't blame your depression on your height. I suggest you seek counseling and I wish you the best in resolving your depression.

Hi Me! I found your story VERY interesting! I would have never thought a man would be "bothered" by being tall. I guess I just assumed that a tall man was a good thing? I hope you can work through this and end up feeling confident with yourself and content in who you are.<br />
I am sorry that ppl tell you to "lighten up". PPl do that when they don't understand or can't relate :(<br />
I am sure the ppl here will try to help you in your journey; from the responses, it looks like they already are/have.<br />
Good luck, take care.

Just Roll with it bro i am, 6' 2' and almost 300 lbs i can't hide and when i was young i was self conscience ,but we can't hide i know ,we stick out all the time but once you have done a little extra in your life , schooling , trade etc people will see you for more than just the big guy... Plus we have more natural authority being bigger people often look to us and once you feel comfortable you can use this to your benefit when getting thinks done or even helping people:) Long term its good man just consecrate on rest of your life and enjoy :)

6'3 really isn't overly tall for a man---it is seen as very attractive, get out there and know it !!! <br />
I am not sure where you are living but any where from 6'1-6'5 is a really really good thing .<br />
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If someone told you it was not ,they have some really serious problems.<br />
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I am tall , but 5'10 was not uncommon for many other girls who I went to school with -- I have run into so many short women who have found out that models are tall 5 10 5'11 and over and now they need to tell me how bad I need to feel about myself -Where is that coming from

Aw :(<br />
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Sweetheart, I just left a relationship with a man who was 6'3" tall. I am 5'4". I absolutely adored his height... I found wonderfully masculine. Many women prefer tall men, and many men wish they were taller. I know lots of men taller than you, and I assure you, there is nothing wrong with any man's height (at least in my book!) whether he is 5'4" or 7'4" tall. I wish you well :)

May dads 6.3 grandfather 6.2(< --these two on mothers side-->) great grandfather 6.7 and I'm 6.8(I had horrid stress issues when I was in school) so trust me it's not so bad. And no I don't play Bball!

May dads 6.3 grandfather 6.2(< --these two on mothers side-->) great grandfather 6.7 and I'm 6.8(I had horrid stress issues when I was in school) so trust me it's not so bad. And no I don't play Bball!

Oh darlin, don't you know most women love a tall drink of water?? Celebrate your height! My husband is also a tall man and I think it is incredibly sexy. At least you can reach things!

hey i am also 6'3 but lot girls admire me for that and I love it....only reason why i get serious is my family....so dude i think you just need to find the right balance....gud luck

oh man, i wish i was that tall, you have a boon please enjoy it brother

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Wow, I guess I'm small-minded, but i never thought guys had a complex about this... All I know is I'm another short girl who LOVES tall guys. My first love was about 6'2"... :) Your wife is very lucky lol <br />
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I guess this doesn't really change how you feel about yourself though, which is of the utmost importance. But all I can say is, remember that you have a beautiful wife who loves you, and I'm sure family and friends who do too. So please try not to feel insecure. Things could be worse, who could be horribly ugly or something... -- i have to remember this for myself too, although i don't have a man who loves me :(<br />
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Good luck megiraffe79! Remember that women like tall guys! :)

Tall men are hot. Thats all I've got to say. :P

Not to be insensitive, but you're a 6'3'' guy. That's well within desired height for a grown American male. In fact, it is the desired height of an NFL quarterback. Next time, you think that you are a giant, just think and feel like an NFL QB, a man that is respected and lauded enough to be handed the keys to the team! Also, sure beats being my height, I'm a guy too, and I'm 5'3''. Don't feel down, stand up straight, and people just won't be able to help, but admire your commanding presence.

Tall men are sexy to me since i am 6ft. I have only dated 1 guy taller than me and during my time with him i was in heaven. i love being with men that are taller than me. (my brother is 6' 7)

Man your wife loves you . Why do you care what people think ?<br />
Don't put your self in situation that you are not ( like depression I mean )

I have alot of issues with my height im 6'1 an for a girl it really sucks I have been this tall since middle school so I understand how you feel I was always the one that stands out an I have always hated it.

Most people probably envy you a great deal!

6'3" isn't that tall for a man around here. It's tall, but not extreme.

Most places in western world 6.3 is only average lot of lady's that tall here in south alberta