How Do You Cope, As An Adult Child Of A Bpd Mother?A couple months ago I was given a copy of the book Understanding the Borderline Mother, which I'm sure many of you here are familiar with (and if you're not I would recommend it). I was absolutely blown away by this book. So much of it hit so closely to home. After all these years (I'm 30), I finally had a name for what was wrong with my mother and some validation that there's really something wrong with her. It truly felt like she was the subject of many parts of the book. It sounds weird, but I was excited. I had always felt like my sisters and I were alone with this problem.
It's been a year since I've spoken to her. I just couldn't handle the nastiness, the anxiety I felt, dreading holidays, dreading listening to voicemails, any of it, anymore.
It's fascinating to be a part of a board where so many others can relate. It's incredible how similar the stories are to my own. I'm curious to hear some feedback from others who have cut their borderline parent out of their life. It's a bit of a struggle for me at times. Sometimes I feel guilty. It's also sad for me to look back on my childhood and struggle to call up any truly happy memories. I suspect I will go through my entire life feeling this way. I've contemplated going to a therapist, but I'm not sure what I'm looking for. Growing up with this person has always made me feel like I could never completely relate to people around me. I feel slighted, knowing that I will never get a normal happy childhood. I'm not angry, just saddened. Any advice?
llrrcc 26-30, F 13 Responses 3 Aug 22, 2012