My Mother Won'T Accept I'Ve Left The RelationshipMy mother has bpd. I decided a little over a year ago that I was done with the relationship. I am almost 30 and couldn't handle her constant need for attention. I could t handle the blame she assigned to me for her problems, her self-deserving attitude, or the fact that she wanted so badly to be in my life that she pushed others out.
I've told her I'm done. I've told her I'm done in writing, on the phone, and with a counselor. She refuses to accept it. She showed up at my work, she waited in my parking lot for three hours until I came out of the office. She threatened to show up at my finance's parent's house (a five hour drive) if I didn't start communicating with her. She now says she is suing me for familial abandonment. I am trying so hard to stay strong.
She makes me feel like a terrible person. I hate her. I understand she has an illness, but I hate her. I hate how she has made me feel, I hate how self conscious I am because of her, I hate that I didn't experience a happy childhood because of her.