My Mom Was Just Taken To The Er Because Of Her Drinking.

My mom has been an alcoholic for at least 20 years. I'm 35 now and the first time I recognized it was when I was about 15. For many years I banged my head against the wall of trying to get her to change... all with absolutely no effects, except to build up my anger and frustration more.

We lost my father about 10 years ago very suddenly. I thought that somehow that might make her sober up since she was now going to be all alone in the house. Of course, it didn't.

Last monday was the first time she has been taken to the hospital because of her drinking. She was all alone and ended up in the ER after dialing 911 on herself, thinking she might die on the bathroom floor. She and consequently my sisters and I thought she might have been having a stroke or heart attack, until we got the toxicity levels back. It was very scary.

My sister told her she couldn't go home until she checked herself into a program. So she did. But, the program she chose consists of counseling only one day a week. I call to talk to her and she just pretends like nothing has happened. When I ask her about her program... she says "that's my business".

I'm really tired of pretending like nothing is wrong and don't think I can do it anymore. I want to support her in getting help, but I dont know how to if she isn't willing to talk to me about it. I don't know how to interact with her anymore. Has anyone been through this before?
Zardozza Zardozza
1 Response Aug 2, 2012

I have had an alcoholic father in law and an alcoholic spouse, however, my heart goes out to you in your case, having to go through this awful situation with your mother.<br />
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I did learn that, unfortunately, we are not able to help someone that is not willing to help themselves.<br />
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Also, everything is possible, and it has been many years that you have been going through this and I would recommend that you try to help yourself cope with this and not focus so much on trying to have her change. <br />
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As hard as this sounds, it is possible and very necessary for your own inner peace.<br />
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Meanwhile, I will have you in my prayers... :o)