My Father Was An Alcoholic And Now My Brother Is An Alcoholic - And He Lives With Me

My brother is 53 years old and is an alcoholic. I am writing today because I am at the end of my rope with him. He moved in with me because he had lost his job (from drinking) and I had just divorced and needed someone to walk my 8 year old son to and from school and take care of him until I came home from work. That was 14 years ago. Within those 14 years, he got his drivers license back (because he had so many DUI's that they were taken for a long time) and he got a job - so now he is a "functioning alcoholic". Because of the economy, his job cut him down to 4 days a week instead of 5, so now 3 days a week he is constantly drunk. He urinates in his clothes and once he did #2 in his clothes. It is embarrassing to me but he does not seem to care. Even when company comes over, he will drink until the last beer is gone and pee in his clothes. Sometimes he will get in his car and go get more (the liquor store is not far away). Sometimes I wish he would get pulled over and get locked up so he can wake up and see what he is doing to himself. He has two grown children who don't know what to do about it. Like me. I realize that he is probably depressed and also that alcoholism is a hereditary disease because my father was also an alcoholic. I drink beer every now and then but am afraid of losing control of myself because I know that it could happen to me. Also, I am afraid to leave my brother home alone because he drinks so heavily and then goes to sleep. I am afraid something will happen to my house during this time. I decided today that when I get home I am going to tell him that I will not allow anymore beer to be kept in my house. If he wants to drink he will have to go outside (and its' 15 degrees today). I don't want to put him out in the cold. He works 5 minutes away from my house. If I put him out he would have to live with our mother who is an hour away. That would not be good for him, he would probably lose his job. But he is doing it to himself but driving me crazy in the mean time. If anyone has any suggestions PLEASE tell me. Thank You
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Jan 22, 2013