All Of The Blame...none Of The Credit

MY STORY IS SO SIMILAR TO EVE7"S ITS UNCANNY...YOU CAN ONLY GO SO FAR AND TAKE SO MUCH FROM THOSE YOU LOVE...A LITTLE RESPECT EVERY NOW AND THEN WOULD BE APPRECIATED....MY BIGGEST DELIMA IN CUTTING TIES WITH MY PARENTS (AND MY HUSBANDS) IS I'M NOT SURE HOW TO ANSWER THE QUESTIONS FROM MY CHILDREN...THEY DON'T UNDERSTAND THE STRESS I'M UNDER WHEN I'M AROUND MY PARENTS OR INLAWS....WHAT DO I TELL MY CHILDREN????  I KNOW THEY WANT TO SEE NANA AND PAAP, BUT I DON' WANT THEM EXPOSED TO ALL THA NARROW-MINDEDNESS.....AM I WRONG?????  ANY ADVICE WOULD BE APPRECIATED.....EVE, DO YOU HAVE CHILDREN?? IF SO, HOW DO YOU HANDLE THE QUESTIONS???   THANKS TO ALL FOR SHARING.......

LOSTLAMB3 LOSTLAMB3
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2 Responses Mar 16, 2010

I wish I had a answer but an advice. You do not "test" hot lava. I assure you that is still burning. Keep strong control of the situation and don't be afraid to to look bad because according to them you already are. Do not let your sense of guilt make you vulnerable to their sick needs.Good luck, be strong. Remember there is no way to satisfy those people, they are human black holes.

this is a most wise reply...a difficult choice to cut people out..would be worse to go back now...forge ahead...is my motto

EVE7, THANK YOU FOR SHARING AND FOR YOUR ADVICE..MY REAL CONCERN AT THIS POINT, BECAUSE OF THE CHILDREN, IS THEM NOT GETTING TO ENJOY THE "GRANDPARENT" EXPERIENCE, OR A LEAST THE LEARNING EXPERIENCE THAT COME WITH IT. IT'S BEEN OVER 18 MONTHS SINCE WE HAVE HAD ANY CONTACT WITH MY HUSBANDS SIDE OF THE FAMILY, AND I'M BEGINNING TO WONDER IF MAYBE I SHOULD "TEST THE WATERS" AND SEE WHAT HAPPENS....ANY THOUGHTS ON THAT??? SOMETIMES IT'S JUST SO CONFUSING..DON' KNOW WHAT TO DO????? THANKS TO ALL ....GOD BLESS