Help Please?

My boyfriend's been in boot camp for three weeks now. At first I didn't think it would be that bad, because my friends were trying so hard to cheer me up. They all have boyfriends, but for a few days just us girls hung out. But somehow they have this idea that I can't hang out with them AND their boyfriends since mine is far away. They think they're protecting me, but really, I'm just sitting at home alone while they go on their mass group dates.
And then my family thinks it's funny to sit around and share this lovely conversation with me:
"I'm sure he has about three other girls he's stringing along while he's in boot camp."
"I bet he dumps you the second he gets back."
"He doesn't really want to read all those letters you're writing him."
"You're just after him for the uniform and the muscles, aren't you?"

They keep mocking me for writing these letters, and everytime I get one in the mail, they make fun of me or try to hide it. I don't brag about them, or go on and on about how cute and romantic it is. I DON'T think it's cute or romantic. I'd much rather have him home than have to communicate via letter. I don't know why they're so pissed off about this.
If anybody has advice for how to deal with this, or how to convince my friends that they don't have to choose between me and their boyfriends, I'd really appreciate it.
lauren27 lauren27
1 Response Jul 18, 2010

I understand what you are going through 150 percent! I went through the same exact thing you are going through right now. My parents told me the same things and i ended up not having anymore friends. It sounds like your friends boyfriends arent in the military, if I'm right, they will never understand how u feel. You can try to explain it them but they will never get it. My boyfriend graduated boot camp on October 31, 2008 and he's been a marine for about 2 years now. I was with him the whole way. From a year before he swore in until now. And I dont regret it one bit. I wrote him like novels every single day he was at boot, sent him pics every now and then. It was hard but it was nothing compared to deployment. I have only one friend who has a civilan boyfriend. All my other friends are marine wifes and gilfriends. They know what you are going through and they understand. I understand where you are coming from. It gets very difficuly, it wont get easier, but dont stop writing to him, he needs you more then ever. And honestly sweety if you talk to your friends and tell them how you feel and they still treat you that way then you need to find new friends. They should stick by your side not leave you in the gutter. And your parents comments. Again try talking to them and Just ignore them. I KNOW its soooo hard. I ended up leaving my parents home to live with my boyfriend when he graduated. Stay strong girl! You're not alone. If you ever need anyone to talk 2, you can email me, any questions or concerns or you just want to talk, I'm here. My email address is and my name is Victoria! Just stay strong. It doesnt take an average girl to go what we go through! :D