New To The Military Girlfriend Thing

Okay so last year this time if you told me I would be in love with a Marine I would probably laugh. I've fallen completely head over heels for my Marine, and come to learn that Marines are just regular normal people, and they're not all the stereotypical guys that I've heard stories about. A lot of people have been doubting our relationship lasting because he is deploying to Okinawa in a week for 6 months and we've only been dating for 3 months. But me being a Christian, I know when God makes things happen in our lives for a reason, and I know he has put Scott in my life, for a reason. I feel so heartbroken because God has put this wonderful man in my life and just 3 short months of finding him I already have to let him go. It seems like every time I hear someone say anything about the end of February or the beginning of March I find myself in tears. I've already lost 5 pounds from stressing, and he's not even going into a combat zone! I feel really selfish about feeling like this because there are soooo many other girlfriends, wives, boyfriends, husbands, and children that their Marines ARE in combat zones. He actually told me about this blog that you could chat and blog with other, other halves, of Marines (: I'm really scared because I've never had to deal with a military deployment and I'm not sure how I'm going to be able to cope. I've researched until I am blue in the face how to deal with deployment but nothing I've read I could ask questions and receive feedback.I would love to hear some coping skills from... the experienced? Or other girlfriends/wives/fiances going through their first deployment!

God bless!
lcstroud lcstroud
7 Responses Feb 28, 2011

I know how it feels to be new to the whole marine thing. Mine is currently at SOI in NC, I got through boot camp and I felt like it brings us closer because he depends on my support to get him through the hard days.

I totally get where you are coming from. My Marine has been stationed in Oki since the beginning and we met on his predeployment leave, 4 days before he was going back to his station. I fell in love pretty face and it's one of the best relationships I've ever had. We had a month and a half before he was deployed. We skyped each other each night, it was about midnight my time since it was a 16 hour time different and we texted all the time since we both had iPhone we simply got an app for free texting and it made our life so much easier. So trust me, you can make it through just about anything these days with all the technology that they have floating around. We used to do skype dates, like watching movies together on our lap tops, just cute stuff like that. The deployment was a little harder and we stopped dating for a while, which was his choice, but now we're back together and I'm as happy as ever. He gets back to station soon so I'll be able to see and talk to him all the time again. <br />
So if you ever wanna talk or anything, feel free to message me. :)

Hey im julia :)<br />
Even though you havent been dating long, dont give up. He will love and appriecuate you unexplainibly for being there and supporting him while hes far away. Its tough to wait, but his deployment isnt as long as others. Sometimes they are 1 year or more! My marine isnt deployed right now, but hes far away and i wont get to see him all the time. We've been together for almost 1 year and 5 months and we've grown so much more while hes been away. I know that sounds strange but its true! Ever since he left for boot camp we've been so much better, and even while hes away we still talk and are in love all the time. The distance doesnt always make you apart, sometimes it brings you closer :) You have to learn to be strong and this is TOUGH. So you will have bad days, worse then others. And you will cry a ton, but we are allowed to as marine girlfriends, fiances and wives because regular people dont have to wait like we do. I hope that everything works out with you and him, dont give up, and dont listen to what other people say or try to bring you down. Do what you beleive and makes you happy :). I think its fate me and my man met, and i know that we'll always be together. You can message me if you would like to talk :) or vent or anything. SEMPER FI!

awhhh! thats cute. yeah i understand the christian view because im one also:) and i do not doubt God put my marine in my life without a reason:) he wouldnt have u fall in love with him if he knew u couldnt handle it lol and i know how hard that can be. i only got a month and a half out of nine months to actually be with him:( we started dating a month before he left for bootcamp bt every second was worth it:) and we're stil going strong best wishes to u and ur marine. im here if u needa talk:) SEMPER FI

i have a support page for umsc ladies going through their first deployment join in & recieve advice & support from other ladies going through it as well,!/pages/Semper-Fi-Ladies/174758205903833

My marine left for Okinawa about 3 weeks ago now. I got a phone call from him when he first got there but none since then cause he said that people with phone plans are rare. He said that he was going to get one soon though. My marine and I as of now are communicating through facebook messages. He told me that they were going to be getting internet in their rooms soon so then we'll be able to talk and skype way more!!! The one hard thing is that its a 15hour difference for me, so when im getting up in the morning hes going to sleep and vis versa. <br />
The only thing to help keep your mind off of everything is to keep busy, and surround yourself with people that will support you and who love you!! This is only going to make your relationship stronger in the end and it just makes the time together so much more special. Make sure that you guys are completely open and honest about everything. Feel free to message me, if you ever need anything! :)

Thank you so much! I needed that after today! (: