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He Just Left For Deployment

Hi! Here is my story... It is kinda long haha.

I have known my current boyfriend for years. We went to a community college together and I met him and a bunch of his friends. Over a year ago him, his twin brother, and a few of their friends joined the Marines. His twin didn't go active like the rest so I became really good friends with him. When my bf got home on leave, his brother through a party. Well, slightly drunk, we started talking and flirted... After he had to go back to his base, he texted me. Almost everyday til today. I think he didn't text me three or four times in the past ten months. We were just friends until July Fourth when I asked him if he wanted to be official. Yup, I asked him! Haha Well actually his friends voted and told me to do it and they helped ask for me. They said he was too scared. Which could be true since a while ago I had said I wasn't ready for a relationship. It was a lot of fun. He also didn't really want to be official since he was leaving for Afghanistan (which was yesterday). I told him even if I was still just a friend, I would care about him almost the same as I do now. So he has been my boyfriend for two months.

Now for all the bad stuff... I have only spent a total of two weeks with him out of those ten months. Him being stationed in Cali and me having moved from MN to Texas. So it hasn't been easy opening up to each other. We really don't have much beyond a surface relationship.

He was deployed yesterday. I haven't really talked to him about how the whole communication thing works. It will get even harder in two months when I go to Basic Training for the chAir Force. Yes I get a lot of jokes from him about that :)

Any advice? On communicating while he is overseas? Or just on getting beyond a surface relationship? Most of my friends are in the loveydovey phase, and my boyfriend and I aren't ready for that.
gillen0105 gillen0105 18-21 6 Responses Aug 26, 2011

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I'll definitely try Motomail. It sounds good :) Once I hear from him, I'll let you know where he is. He said something about training somewhere else for a month in the Middle East before going into Afghan. <br />
Thanks again for your help :)

Depending on where he's at in Afghan he may or may not be able to communicate very often.<br />
Have you gotten an account with Motomail yet?<br />
https://www.motomail.us/create_account1.cfm<br />
It's spirratic sometimes but it usually gets to them pretty fast!<br />
My boyfriend got deployed to the phillipines early this year. (he's back now) but while he wasn't out on missions, he came back to a camp where alot of different branches stayed, he had crappy internet but it was enough to call for a few minutes at a time. <br />
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Try motomail definitely, let us know what camp or FOB he's at and I can get you some information, Wes has been deployed to Afghan before as well, before we were dating.

Thank you both for your advice :) It's great that everyone here is supportive of each other and knows what it's like to go through this. In my letters I'll try to open up, hopefully it will be easier. How did you guys write your Marines about what was going on while they are gone?<br />
He was able to send me a short message yesterday, which made my day. <br />
Thanks again :)

He will get to call whenever the Mobile Unit comes around which can be speratic!!!! He can get online my Marine gets on everynite when he can!!! Dont fret yu will get to hear from him!!! If yu need anythin my Marine is in Afghanistan just message me if yu wanna talk or anythin!!!!

He will get to call whenever the Mobile Unit comes around which can be speratic!!!! He can get online my Marine gets on everynite when he can!!! Dont fret yu will get to hear from him!!! If yu need anythin my Marine is in Afghanistan just message me if yu wanna talk or anythin!!!!

You can read my boyfriend and I's story on my page. But basicly, before last month we had only been together in person 28 days out of 10 months of serious dating. We "talked" for 14 months before dating, just getting to know each other and saw each other 0 days.<br />
Communication is KEY! :) Yall've gotta learn to communicate while he's gone. Skype, facetime, email, whatever yall can. Learn to talk about your feelings, open up to him about your heart. Be honest, and let your relationship grow where it needs to grow:)