Be Stronger Than The Doubt!!!!

Recently, there has been doubts as expected and warned by many, but I've learned a valuable lesson that I think everyone involved in a relationship with a marine should.
I know your story is different, but we all share common issues, some exact. It has taken me awhile to understand why some days my phone is blowing up with texts and calls, while at other times, it may be a week before I get so much of a hi! About a month ago, he called me. The usual playful conversation started but something was different in his voice. The main thing he talked about was missing home and how much he couldn't wait to be done with his service. I found it strange, but tried to understand. Long story short, after that call, I didn't hear from him for a week and a half. I was obviously irritated as would any girl. I tried everything to get something. Nothing worked. I think I received a few "hi" texts in that time but he never continued the conversations. I talked to everyone I knew searching for the right advice, and in the end, I went with my gut of playfully asking what the deal was.
Just by simply asking, I learned something important about his character. He assured me that he was still all in as we talked about my plans of dinner with his family. He told me that he gets so caught up in his stress that he shuts the world and everyone in it out. I obviously didn't like that so I pushed on. He explained further saying that he has so much on his plate and had learned in the past that sometimes, it's best to disappear from the stress in fear of hurting the ones that are closest. Then he jokingly said " you know marines aren't supposed to be" After talking I explained that he didn't have to shut me out, I knew what I was signing up for. I let him quickly know that I needed him to feel comfortable sharing even the bad days and that if he couldn't, to just give me a heads up. Aparently I didn't see the heads up which he claimed he tried to give me.

SOOOOOO.... here is what I learned

1. Sometimes our marines have so much stress, they would rather just have a beer and go to sleep, or get in a fight etc, than talk about whats going wrong in their lives.

2. We DO jump to conclusions... go figure lol

3. And most importantly, jokes aside, If we could just learn to tell them what we need, and what bothers us, we may actually learn something about the man we are falling in love with. After all isn't that the whole point of finding the one?

It is so easy to get lost in the doubts that society tells us to have when it comes to a relationship with a marine, but it is far more likely that we will stand by their side, as they do for our country. Looking back on this text, it sounds crazy but only a woman who loves a marine could ever understand. I'm really tired if anyone happens to read this and it makes no sense LOL

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2 Responses Dec 18, 2011

It definitely makes sense! Great point of view! Having a relationship with a Marine is wok but so is every other relationship, The only huge difference is that sometimes we have to be separated from our Marines for a long period of time, Some may call it crazy, especially if they get deployed but to us it's just a part of our lives. It's not crazy when you love someone :) You learn to be strong in those times and your there by your man through it all. and yes we do over analyze things big time! I think it's just a girl thing, but like you said just straight up tell them how you feel and what you're thinkin and you will get your answer! lol That's something I have definitely had to learn cause I would sometimes keep my mouth shut cause I didn't want to be naggy. But I learned if something is bothering me so much that I can't stop thinking about it then it needs to be brought to attention! It's not naggy it's just what's on my mind and what's bothering me, they can't fix what's wrong if you don't tell em!

it makes complete sense. there is not a lot of people that understand what a woman's feelings are while her man is away serving the country. great point! :-)