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I Think We Have A Winner!!

So Mr Chaplain has been busy after i could see past the tears and actually read the words - needless to say I love this!!!

Hi Storm,

I’ve been thinking a lot about yours and AJ’s wedding and what a privilege it was when you both asked me to be the person to marry you. Seeing you two grow as a couple makes me believe that in our corner of the world love truly does exist. With in both your families all of you hold the hugest amount of love and respect for each other if we were all like you all we’d live in a happier world.

Since you came to me with idea of writing your own ceremony – which I fully agree with I’ve been thinking a lot about you two and came up with an opening remark based on what I’ve from you two – I’m sending it you to read through please don’t feel like you have to use it because you don’t have to and I will never feel offended if you don’t.

Take care Storm and my prayers are with AJ’s safe return home.
Regards
Chaplain Richards - USMC  
 
A wedding does not depend on flowers, bells, or candles, choirs or lace. It does not need music or magic. It’s about the two of you having the courage to leave one life and finding another together -trusting each other for true patience, strength and love to face the future together whatever that may hold.
To be capable of real love means you need to become mature, with realistic expectations of each other. It means being able to accept responsibility for our own happiness or unhappiness, but never expecting the other person to make you happy or blaming that person for your bad moods and frustrations. Mature love is the type of love you see in long-term marriages. Signs of mature love include acceptance, emotional support, commitment, calmness, respect, caring, kindness, friendship, and consideration. Mature partners have learned not to expect perfection in each other. They know that acceptance has its own reward. Each person's differences test the other's capacity for acceptance, forgiveness and understanding. They never dance around issues. When necessary, they discuss their imperfections, lovingly, with care not to pass judgment with harmful words. Acceptance and tolerance hold hands in the presence of unconditional love. Mature partners -- partners who love unconditionally -- develop a knack for side-stepping resentment and focusing on the good they see in one another. They have evolved to a higher level of understanding, one that transcends taking notice of the imperfections of the other. Mature partners permit each other the freedom to pursue their individual interests and friends without restriction. This is when trust is probably the most important thing. Mature love has no distance or limits every minute apart brings you closer to each other and reaffirms the love you will always share there’s no beginning or end it lasts forever and never fades.  Marriage is a commitment to life, to the best that two people can find and bring out in each other. It offers opportunities for sharing and growth that no other human relationship can equal; a joining that is promised for a lifetime. Within the circle of its love, marriage encompasses all of life's most important relationships. A wife and a husband are each other's best friend, confidant, lover, teacher, listener, and critic. Marriage deepens and enriches every facet of life. Happiness is fuller; memories are fresher; commitment is stronger; even anger is felt more strongly, and passes away more quickly. Marriage understands and forgives the mistakes life is unable to avoid. It encourages and nurtures new life, new experiences, and new ways of expressing love through the seasons of life. When two people pledge to love and care for each other in marriage, they create a spirit unique to themselves, which binds them closer than any spoken or written words. Marriage is a promise, a potential, made in the hearts of two people who love, which takes a lifetime to fulfill. Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens. It must be created. In any loving relationship, the little things are the big things. Love is never being too old to hold hands. It is never going to sleep angry. It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives. People in love do things for each other, not in the attitude of sacrifice or duty, but in the spirit of joy. It does not look for perfection in each other, but works to develop flexibility, patience, and understanding. Love is a relationship in which the independence is equal, the dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal. It is having the capacity to forgive and forget. It is not only finding the right partner; it is being the right partner.

Ultimately there comes a time when a decision must be made. Ultimately two people who love each other must ask themselves how much they hope for as their love grows and deepens, and how much risk they are willing to take. It is indeed a fearful gamble. Because it is the nature of love to create, a marriage itself is something which has to be created. To marry is the biggest risk in human relations that a person can take. If we commit ourselves to one person for life this is not, as many people think, a rejection of freedom; rather it demands the courage to move into all the risks of freedom, and the risk of love which is permanent; into that love which is not possession, but participation. It takes a lifetime to learn another person. When love is not possession, but participation, a solid marriage will unfold.

AJ and Storm it is this day you make that giant step of courage, of commitment, to communicate, to love, to understand and to grow. When a commitment this strong is made by two people, the force of that commitment, of that love, of that courage, reaches out and touches all of us around you, so that our lives are changed and we share a part of your love. Like a stone dropped in a still pond, the ripples of the love from this celebration extends and changes the world we live in. Unknowingly the love you two share has rippled into all the lives of the people you know and care about Today we put aside the workaday world, the ordinary, the dull routine. Today we set aside the sensible, the practical. Today we celebrate. Today is a day of dreams. Today is the beginning of a new adventure for both of you. Today you are now taking into your care and keeping the happiness of the one person in all the world whom you love best. You are adding to your life not only the affection of each other, but also the companionship and blessing of a deep trust as well. You are agreeing to share strength, responsibilities, and to share love.

For those of you gathered here today, you have been invited here because it is the most significant times in life that we wish to share with those we love. Every marriage needs the love, nurturing and support of a network of family and friends. You are the community with whom this couple will celebrate life's special moments and to whom they will turn to in times of need. Each and every one of you have shared and contributed to their lives in the past, and by witnessing their marriage, ceremony today, they would like you to share in their future with you as well.

I should like at this time, to try to speak of some of the things which many of us wish for the both of you. We wish for you a home, not a place of stone and wood, but an island of peace, a place from which you will receive strength and support that stays and carries with you throughout your daily lives. We hope that your home is surrounded by the beauty of nature, that has within it the elements of simplicity, beauty, silence, and color, in line with your dreams and aspirations. We wish for you a home of books, poetry and music, a home with all the things which represent the highest ideals for both of you. We hope your marriage will stand, not by the authority of the state or by the words of the minister, but by the strength of your love and the power of faith in each other. Storm and AJ, at the end of this ceremony, legally you will be husband and wife, but you still must decide each and every day that stretches before you, that you want to be married. Make such a decision, and keep on making it, for the most important thing in life is to love and be loved. Remember this day for rest of your lives the way you feel for each other now may it never end and may it never be forgotten.
Storm25 Storm25 26-30, F 7 Responses Feb 10, 2012

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wonderful!

oh wow that's beautiful

That was so beautiful and true! I kept thinking about my wedding day and how special it was, It brought tears to my eyes. You're going to look back at your wedding and remember all the love that was shared, not only with your husband but with all your family and friends. Congrats! You're wedding is going to be beautiful! :)

that is AMAZING!!!! :) i wish you two the best!!



-Sarah

I absolutely love this. THIS MAN SPEAKS THE TRUTH!!!

This is amazing! So sweet too :)

That's beautiful!