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Hi. I'm Jordan. My boyfriend of a year and a half leaves for basic tomorrow and I am looking for people to talk to that might be able to help me through these 13 weeks. I'm trying to adjust to the fact that when he graduates we will be in a long distance relationship for at least a year. I'm also slightly stressed about how often I'll hear from him while he's in boot camp. I know it's mostly letters, but he told me he probably wouldn't have time to write every week. Is this true? Do you think he'll get more than one phone call? Clearly I have lots of questions. Any advice would be great!
BelleofBroadway BelleofBroadway
22-25, F
8 Responses Feb 12, 2012

I have started a support page for all military girlfriends and wives to show support for each other :) Whoever wants to dedicate their time will also be able to be an Admin with me!! :)

You ladies have been so awesome! I do feel better coming here and getting to read the messages from everyone and just have someone to TALK to. I just got a text from Ian's mom. He called her at 1 AM last night and had a 15 second phone call to just say he was there. She said she didn't get to say anything, he just let her know he was safe and said bye. So I guess it begins! I've already got two letters ready to send him. I just wish I had his address right now! I hate staring at them on the kitchen counter. I will admit, these past two days have just been terrible. I'm trying so hard to stay busy, but any little bit of down time I have is pretty miserable. I feel like I can't do anything to get him off my mind for more than five seconds. I know it will get better, I just want it to be better right now! I hope everyone is having a great day and thanks again!

Hi Jordan! My name is Kansas! My boyfriend, Alan, just graduated from basic training on the 3rd. Saying goodbye is hard at first, but those 13 weeks really aren't going to be as hard as you think. Write everyday and stay busy. What helped me while Alan was at Parris Island was working out. I knew he was going to look different (in a good way) when he graduated so I wanted to do the same. I know Alan was able to call on Christmas Eve because he was a favorite of one of the DIs there and he got a call the next day because he read a book and wrote a report on it. Make sure to stay by your phone on Liberty Sunday (that's the day after he finishes the Crucible) because I missed the call from Alan. You'll get through it, I promise. Just stay strong and positive!

So i think they covered everything I'm Storm and AJ is my fiance he's currently deployed and we getting married when he gets back welcome and good luck with everything!!

Girl you've come to the right place to help you get through these next 13 weeks. If it wasn't for the girls on here I don't know how I would've made it through my fiance's boot camp. Jordan (my fiance) wrote to me several times a week in Phase 1. (You'll have to wait about 2 weeks before you get your first letter from him.) But as he got into Phase 2 and he wasn't able to write as much because he was so busy. By then he was writing once or twice a week. He wrote whenever he could, because he knew how much it meant to me to hear from him. I wrote to him everyday to keep him going. He was very homesick at first, so try to be strong for him. Unless there is a special circumstance, he won't be able to call other than the one day on Liberty Sunday. Unfortunately Jordan wasn't able to call that day because the lines for the phones were so long. I'm not going to lie, some days are going to be harder than others, but that's what all of us girls are here for. My fiance is currently stationed in California finishing his MOS training and I live in Ohio, so I'll be the first to say that it is difficult to have a long distance relationship. But we do talk on the phone everyday, so that helps. The first month of boot camp seems to take the longest, but I promise it will go by faster as the months go by. And I guarantee that you will be so proud of him when he graduates. Stay strong girl.<br />
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PS. My name is Dawn and if you ever need to talk to someone I'm here to listen. Feel free to message me anytime. :)

Hi Jordan! My name is Jordan as well haha! <br />
Tomorrow is going to be a hard day for you, but try not to look at it as a good bye, it's more of see you later. The first week or so is going to be the hardest adjustment, but look at his training as your training also, to learn how to occupy your time while he's a way and stay positive once he deploys. We all know how painful it is, and we are all here for you to help support you through the pain. Some days are going to be easy, others are going to feel like your heart is being ripped out. But your communication and appreciation for each other is going to grow so much. Stay focused on your love for each other, try to remember the fun times you've had instead of the day you guys parted, that will help carry you through the hard times.<br />
My marine Tyler and I got married right before he deployed (he deployed about 2 in a half months ago), what the girls already said is pretty dead on to your question so I'm not going to repeat them, but if you have you're going to have tons of questions to ask and I'm always here to try and answer any questions you have. You can private message me with questions, advice, venting, or just in need of a pick me up. Us girls understand more then anyone, and we are always here for each other. <br />
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Thanks for the quick responses! You've seriously cheered me up for the night. I guess the most frustrating thing right now is a few of my friends doing the whole "And you're staying together?" thing. Well. Duh. I love him, why shouldn't I try? I'll definitely write him every day. I told him to try and get me one letter a week. That's all I need!

I hate people like that! Ignore them! They're just jealous. They want to see you fail. Just stay strong and in the end prove them wrong (: They wish they had a strong relationship as you do. Tell them if they were really your friends, they would be supporting you lol and then see what they say. Cause all of my friends are behind me 100%. Just ignore them though. All they're doing is adding stress and you don't need that with your boy leaving and all. Are you going to say bye to him tomorrow??

The hardest part will be the first few days or so. My boyfriend left about a month ago. You won't get a letter for probably about 2 weeks. And you'll probably get his address about a week and a half after he leaves. Write him as often as you can because he'll love him. Try to stay as busy as possible. It really does help. Be around positive people. Ignore negative comments and people because you will get that. Just know he loves you and misses you like crazy. And he's possibly crying because he misses you so much lol. Send him a letter as soon as you get his address! Also send pictures with your first letter! He'll love that. It'll help him get by. Stay as strong as you can and let him know you're being strong and everything. There's a lot of things you'll be surprised to find out while he's there lol. It goes by pretty fast after the first few days. Working out is what helps a lot of people pass time. Just know it passes fast. I can't believe it's already been like a month! You'll do fine. You have a great military family to back you up and talk to <3 Message me anytime!