When my aunt first found out I was engaged to someone in the Marine Corps, she wasn't happy. Instead, she got really tense, which for her is unnatural, and said a bunch of stuff along the lines of "if he hits you, I'll hurt him" and started looking up numbers for support lines for domestic violence. I'm pretty sure the only reason she reacted like that was because he's in the Marines- since her father was in the Army for most of her childhood, and is one of the most mild-mannered men I know, it shouldn't be a fear of military relationships. So, what should I do to ease her fears? I know he would never hurt me or anyone (unless they were hurting one of us) and I need her to understand that just because he's in the Marines doesn't mean he's violent.