Ease My Mind Please!!!Ok, so my ex and I have two daughters together, and he wants me back. Which is BOGUS. But he hasnt given up in over a year and even though he has a pregnant girlfriend, he asks me to dinner, asks me to stay the night blah blah and I ALWAYS SAY NOOOOO!!!!
Well, when he found out about Ian last November, he freaked out and texted him saying we were still sleeping together, (Ian was in NC I am in IA)
At the time Ian and I werent together for very long so Ian got upset but mostly just because he didn't have the time to deal with a jealous ex especially when he is far away. Well, Ian is deployed and I have been doing everything in my power to make Ian feel as loved and supported as possible. I write him EVERY day just normal daily emails. I send packages at least once a month, well tomorrow he has been deployed for two months and I've sent three packages already. ANYHOO-- my ex tried to grab my butt when I was picking up my kids from him and we got into this HUGE fight because he is NOT allowed to touch me. EVER. So he retaliated and ended up finding Ian on Facebook and messaged him that we have been sexually together before he deployed and several times since. WHICH IS COMPLETE AND UTTER BULLSHIT. :'( Well... I ignored it because #1 I didn't think Ian would even READ the message when he saw who it was from #2 I didn't want Ian to think I was stressing about it because if I am stressed he will stress for me too, and #3 I honestly didn't think Ian would believe him or care. Well, after he read it Ian posted on his wall, "doesn't f*@$#&* have time for this at all! >:[ " So I messaged him asking if he was ok, and he was very short and disconnected in his message back and since it was on FB I could SEE when he read my reply. I wrote I love you. and he saw it the same minute but didn't reply ANYTHING back. I've written several emails and messages since then and he has seen them but still hasnt replied. Today makes day FOUR... with NO contact. I'm freaking out because I don't know where we stand. Like does he believe him? Does he NOT want to be with me because he cant handle my ex and the drama he causes? I dont want to freak him out MORE by freaking out but I need to know whats going on in our relationship. Anyone have advice about what I can do to ease my mind about this?