Questionnss!

Ok for the first question, definitely not. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years and we've been through a lot. If anything, it'll make him love you more because he's away from everyone he loves. Just have faith (:

For the second question, it all depends on the guy. My boyfriend was used to getting yelled. I mean it was hard for him, but he was pretty much used to it. As long as you're writing him and stuff like that, things will be totally fine. There are the few guys who do change, but other than that I'm sure you'll be fine. My boyfriend became more appreciative of me. Especially knowing after boot camp and the rest of his training, I stay faithful. Don't worry though! I had the same doubts as you. Stay positive! (:

Personally, it depends on your work schedule. If you're working full-time, don't go to school full-time. It'll kill you lol. I've been going to school full-time(even throughout summer) for 3 years straight, and got a temporary job full-time and almost died from not having any free time. But if you decide to go to school full-time, only work 20-25 hours at the most. I'm saying this for your own good lol. As for when my boyfriend comes back or when I go to see him, I take off certain days of work. And for school, I make sure I take my tests ahead of time and talk to the teacher about it. And get the notes when I come back from a student. When he comes back, I usually don't take off of work since I'm only working part-time. As for school, I go to school and then I hang out with my boyfriend as soon as I get out of class. Just make sure you have time for yourself and to hang out with friends and stuff like that. Don't overwhelm yourself though. You will regret it later lol. Make sure to take off for his graduation though (:

Hey girl! Ha Just talked to you on another page but I thought i'd toss in my two cents. :)

1.) Nathan (my recruit) and I tearfully joked that it felt like we were getting a divorce. It definitely hurts a lot and is scary but honestly the only thing your man wants is to have you back in his arms again. Stay positive in your letters and never let him forget how much you love him.

2.) Truthfully...some guys can't handle it and do change. I think it's safe to say that this is a time when the men stand out from the boys. They will change when it comes to their lifestyle and attitude towards authority but his love for you will always be the same.

3.) My suggestion to you is go part-time school and part- time work. Or take online classes. Usually school and even more so work, understand that you need some time to be with your man. Request homework early and ask for days off from work in advance so you don't have to worry about it when he gets home.



I hope I helped! I'm totally going through the same thing. I've had the mini-heart attacks, and the sleepless nights.

I got into doing yoga though which has calmed me down so much, it's amazing and also i'm working two jobs to stay busy and save up some money for when Nathan gets home.

My boyfriend is at bootcamp right now, we're about two weeks in, I'm going to school fulltime and working part time. One reason I'm going to school fulltime is because I'm almost done with school, by the time my boyfriend is all done with his training I should be graduated, in my opinion i'd hurry up and get it done because you don't know what'll start happening down the road. As for the falling out of love I fall more in love with him every day that he is gone, but I do know how you feel because for awhile I had those thoughts too and even had bad dreams about it the first week. I haven't received my first letter yet but when I do I'm sure my boyfriend will reassure me that he is not falling out of love. I am also scared about my boyfriend changing too, we talked about it before we left and he assured me if anything he'll be a better person, I wouldn't really worry about serious change until deployment I think thats when it gets scary. But also other girls on this site have said that at graduation when they first see you they'll be a little different especially in front of their DI but afterward when they're dismissed from bootcamp they're the same boys that you knew before they left. I think it's natural to worry, but like other girls have said to me, instead of using your energy worrying about things that are negative, put your energy into supporting your boyfriend. He needs it now more than ever.