At A Loss...Hello, I have been dating my Marine for nearly 2 years now. I met him through a mutual friend while he was still stationed in North Carolina. 4 months into our relationship, he was sent to Afghanistan. Saying goodbye to him was the hardest thing I've ever had to do. I didn't see him for 9 months, then he had a 2 week R &R that went by way too quickly, and 3 more months in Afghanistan. We communicated mostly via email, and sometimes Skype when he was able to get internet service. We stayed true to each other and I'm happy to say he returned home to a more than ecstatic girlfriend. We had our squabbles, which seemed much worse over email.... but nothing more than any normal couple. We've been planning to live together ever since he got back, but he hasn't found a place to buy yet, so we have to commute about 45 minutes to his or my house to see each other. Recently, he got a pipeline job, so he is usually gone all week (only home on the weekends) unless they are working close to home. So when he is home, he has a bunch of things he wants to get done, or people to go see. If I want any time with him, I have to drive to see him, and that's if I fit into his plans. He no longer compliments me it seems, and we never have alone time. He was coming home the other night and I told him I would be at home alone, so he should come by after work. He got off work at 5, and I was expecting him to come over... but at 7 when I texted him, he told me it was pointless because he would only be there for an hour before he had to drive back home. This is the third time this month he has foregone coming to see me while I have the house to myself. Also, he would only have to get up maybe an hour earlier if he came to stay at my house, and left for work in the morning from here. I have gone to stay with him multiple times when I had to work in the morning, and my job is 50 minutes closer to my place than his! I woke up 2 hours early to leave because I just wanted to stay with him. So I don't understand why he can't give me any of his time, and why the compliments or the affection have stopped. The last time I saw him, we watched TV, went to sleep, and he didn't wake me up to kiss me goodbye like he normally does in the am... in fact, we never kissed at all that night. I don't know what to do... Could it really be time to give up on the man I waited a year for... not even sure he would make it home to me? I just haven't been happy lately from the lack of attention, love, and time. I'm desperate to fix things between us, but I'm not going to be unhappy either. Any advice for an aching heart? Thanks!
EquineHeart1 18-21, F 5 Responses 0 Aug 1, 2012