People Can Be Pathetic

We all know the people who always have something negative to say about your relationship. isn't it just so annoying? Anyway, here it goes ... there is this guy at work who used to be a really close friend of mine, then feelings started getting involved and i had to stop it before it was too late... plus i didn't want to ruin anything that i had going on with Nestor, my now future husband. we distanced ourselves for a while and he got involved with someone from work & now they are having a baby. she was away for almost 2 months on vacation with out him. and THAT'S when he started talking to me again. he said he missed our friendship bla bla blaaa and i admit i do to, but its just not worth being friends with a guy like him. so i told him "i bet you that once she comes back you will stop talking to me and act like i don't even exist at work, which is cool i understand." and he said that no it wont happen. well it did because the second she came back, he acted just how i expected. so this past weekend at work i decided to just tell him "see, i told you.. i was right about you not talking to me once she came back" and he said friendship is a 2 way street .. i just laughed and didn't make it a big deal. but THEN he randomly attacks me with this:

"Do you really want to know the reason why i stopped talking to you?... i think your making a stupid decision about moving with this f****** guy to Virginia. you barely even f****** know him Natalee. and you guys are getting married? from knowing each other for how long? like 1 month.. your throwing your life to sh**."
Okay i immediately got offended and blew up on him! in front of the chefs, servers & one manager. i didn't care who was around listening. i just wanted to shut him the f*** up! so i said:
"Seriously?! wtf is YOUR issue or concern about wtf i do with MY life?! i'm happy with him and i love him and i am 100% sure with the choice i am making, i'm going to do it whether others like it or not. and no it wasn't 1 month, it was almost 4 months before he left for boot camp. plus i don't need to be with a person for yearsss to know i want to take the next step with them. so how about you stfu and stop talking sh** about things you don't know."

He went on about how he thinks i'm stupid for what i'm doing and i was soooo close on telling him that hes the idiot for f****** someone he didn't love and getting her pregnant with out any responsibility because now he is unhappy and miserable. but since i'm not a b**** to that extent i had to hold that back. So that was that and he can go to hell because i don't need negative people in my life right now. ... AND then today his gf, baby momma w/e she is to him lol ... she approaches me and sees my ring and asks, "ohhh so is this the engagement ring?" and i replied with an awkward yes because shes BEEN knowing about the ring. well usually when people ask that question they would compliment it or w/e but she didn't lol.. she just stayed quiet and walked away all weird? idk i got annoyed by her stupid question. She was also the one, and ONLY one, who told my dad (he works there too) that i was too young to be getting married and she thinks i shouldn't at my age. people are stupid. i hate when they get involved when its NONE of their damn business.. and with my dad?! seriously?

AND this is where my dad comes in. let me just say that my mom, sister, step mom, friends are fully supportive of my decision. (except for those 2 mentioned above lol.) they say i need to find my own happiness and that they wish me the best of luck in the new life i'm about to start. they all love Nestor so it makes things easier. well back to my dad.. he hasn't been taking the news about me leaving to go move in with Nestor too good :( .. He keeps telling me that i'm not going anywhere, that i'm his little girl and that he doesn't think i will make it out there alone etc... i told him i will always be his little girl no matter how old i get, but that he NEEDS to understand that this is something i need to do for myself to be independent and also because i want to be happy with Nestor. i am not 15 anymore i am about to be 23 in a month and if i don't take the opportunity of leaving my house now especially with the person i love , then when? when i'm 28, 30?? he agreed with me and said i made a good point. but i just don't know how to make him UNDERSTAND and REALIZE that its going to happen, and very SOON. i don't want to leave in bad terms with my dad... i just want his 100% support with my choice :( ... HELP ...