Anyone?

My name is Kayla; I’m 20 years old and pregnant with my first child. I just recently got married and my husband is going to be leaving for Basic Training as soon as possible. I feel like I have absolutely no idea what I’m getting myself into. I want to be as prepared as possible for this big of a lifestyle change. I was wondering if any of you could give me a little information as to; When I will be able to move with my husband? When we will receive our first pay? When will we know where we will be stationed? How much do you think we will make monthly with Him, Myself, & a newborn? How to handle him leaving for a long period of time? Where are the possible bases we will be stationed at? How long does the beginning process is over? (when will we be settled, and in our house on base?) How to deal with leaving Family & Friends behind? If there is any sort of financial aid until he does receive his first pay check? How to cope with being a new mom, and a new wife? I just really have no idea what I’m doing, and I want to be as organized as possible. Any information you can give me will be helpful! I’m completely lost and confused.
Thanks,
-Kayla.
Kayla23 Kayla23
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3 Responses Sep 8, 2012

What Mrssgtallan said is pretty accurate, a lot of your questions do depend on his MOS, for instance my husbands MOS can only be stationed at camp Pendleton, 29 palms (where we are now), and I believe it's cherry point or Lejuine. You won't have access to his money till you get on his account, like mrssgttallan said, but if it makes you feel better, he will get his normal pay, pay for a dependent (they lump it up it doesn't matter if it's just you as his dependent or if he has 5 kids, the amount of dependents only really helps you come tax season) but you will also be collecting BAH while your at home since your married. There is A LOT of paperwork to do just a heads up, my husband and I weren't married before boot camp so idk if he got to do the paperwork saying he's married correctly yet or not, but once that paperwork is filled out you will collect back pay if you haven't collect the BAH for the place your living now during boot. <br />
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Honestly, it's hard being away from family, friends, and just your over all comfort zone, but you do adjust. :) You'll meet women and they will shortly become closer to you then your long time friends from back home, he joined a brotherhood and you'll find a sisterhood also. :) Your friends you'll meet are going to understand you on a very different level it's insane! I never thought I would connect with other marine wives like I have but you really do. And there are so many young moms that are away from their family also you'll be able to connect with. <br />
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Feel free to message me and chat if you have any questions or just need support :)

Everything she said looks right to me, i'd just add that if you look for the pay charts make sure its one that includes marine pay because they get paid on a different scale than the other branches and can be harder to find :) good luck with everything! and if you have questions or just wanna talk feel free to message me.

When I will be able to move with my husband? When he gets a Permanent Duty Station. If he's infantry it'll be after bootcamp and SOI. If he's not it'll be after bootcamp, MCT and MOS schooling (in most cases). Every MOS school lasts a different amount of time, and often there is a wait for schooling to start. My personal experience: my husband left for bootcamp in Sept 2008, and I got to move to be with him in July of 2009. It's different for everyone. Sometimes after bootcamp Marines come home and do Recruiter's Assistance for awhile. <br />
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When we will receive our first pay? He gets paid as soon as he leaves for bootcamp, but unless there is an emergency, you won't have access to his money until after bootcamp is over. They open them a new bank account, on the west coast it's with pacific marine credit union, and they start putting paychecks in it while they're at bootcamp, but the wife at home can't really access the money since she's not on the account. Since he's married he'll also be getting paid more than the unmarried guys. <br />
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When will we know where we will be stationed? At the end of SOI if he's infantry, or at the end of MOS school if he's not infantry. <br />
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How much do you think we will make monthly with Him, Myself, & a newborn? You can google a pay chart. There will be 2 columns, one for military with dependents (that's you guys) and one for those without. You look for it by his rank. That's his basic pay. Then his extra pay will depend on where you live. <br />
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How to handle him leaving for a long period of time? Write him every day while he's in bootcamp, he'll live for those letters. The being alone just sucks. <br />
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Where are the possible ba<x>ses we will be stationed at? The main ones are Pendleton, Lejeune, Quantico, Cherry Point, Miramar, Beaufort... <br />
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How long does the beginning process is over? (when will we be settled, and in our house on ba<x>se?) It's different for everyone. See the first question's answer. Also, you might not live on ba<x>se for awhile. Some ba<x>ses have waiting lists. If you live off ba<x>se (that's what we do) you can save more money. Some ba<x>ses' "ba<x>se housing" is also mostly off ba<x>se. If you don't live in ba<x>se housing you get a housing allowance (BAH), and if you rent somewhere that is much less than the BAH then you can keep the extra BAH you dont spend on rent. <br />
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If there is any sort of financial aid until he does receive his first pay check? Not that I'm aware of. I was 3 months pregnant when my husband left for bootcamp, but I worked full time. <br />
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How to cope with being a new mom, and a new wife? Remember it will get better/easier. How far along are you? I had to do all the newborn stuff by myself while my husband was at MOS school, and it was really rough, but you just do what you have to do every day, and take it one day at a time. <br />
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Message me if you have any questions. (Also, any other ladies on here feel free to correct me if I got anything wrong. )