Please Please Help Me :(

So Alex is superrrr close with his family. I love my family but I'm not nearly as close to my family as he is to his. His uncle has cancer. The nurse just told them he is gonna pass today or tomorrow... He's so upset and I don't know what to do or say. I'm at a loss on how to handle this. It seems like he always has the right thing to say to make me feel better.. I feel like I should know the right thing to say, but I don't. I'm hurt for him, I'm feel so incredibly bad that something so horrible is happening to such and amazing man. I want to fix it and I know I can't but I don't even know what to think. I can't just not talk to him because he needs me. But I don't know how to go about all of this. Please please please help me :(
ashbear101 ashbear101
18-21, F
5 Responses Nov 30, 2012

No one knows what to say in these situations. my dads in hospital and AJ is constantly saying i dont know what to do how can i and really him just being there is more than enough you dont have to say anything the phone call the text that you thinking about him in this time is more than enough just be there thats the only thing you can do!!

yeah you guys really helped me :) he's actually staying at my house right now because hes back on emergency leave. i just hate seeing him so upset. but hes doing a lot better now :)

Yes. Sometimeswe gurls dont know what to say. But if your there by his side trust me thats more than enough! They dont really need us to be talking they just need some1 to confrt them!! Just be with him even if your just hugging him . Pray for his family tho God is the only that will heal their hearts and give him and his family the stregth to got throught this.

Just stick by his side and let him know your there for him. Even if its just to sit and stare at a wall, to hug and to have a shoulder to lean on. No words can really help its your actions that he needs.

Just hang in there, stay strong for him, give him that person he is gonna need to talk to and just listen and if he needs anything be there to help him out and like i said just stay strong, that's really all you can do right now is just be there to be his support. I hope this helps, wish there was more i could do to help!
Semper Fi <3

I really wish I could help you out on this one. I had sort of the same situation except it was his grandma and I did not really know what to say besides for just listening to him and giving him some space I guess :( I hope you get some better advice but for now hang in there!