Looking For Words of Encouragement

Well, I just got an account on here because I really need someone who I can connect and relate with. All of my close friends have boyfriends and they will never, ever understand what I'm going through.  They see their boyfriends practially everyday and when they aren't together they are either on the phone or texting. It's so frustrating when they complain about missing thier guys... but I bite my tounge instead of asking them if they are kidding me.  I just can't find comfort in talking to them about missing my Marine because they don't get it.. AT ALL. (I'm sure you all know this feeling).

So, my story is that my Marine is in boot camp right now and doesn't graduate until April 24th (or around there).  We are still young, him being 19 and myself 17. I really hope that when reading this that you know even though I'm only 17, I really am in love with this man. I have a tough choice ahead of me and that's what really pushed me to find someone I can talk to and get advice from.  I have one more year of high school left and after that year, he wants me to marry him and move on base with him. The hard choice isn't whether I want to marry him or not.. it's just leaving everything behind. I have colleges from all over wanting me and I've worked so hard my whole life to get into a great one. I used to think I knew what I wanted and that was all, but now my viewpoints are changing.  I want to be a Marine wife with every fiber in my being.. but I was hoping for some words of encouragement. I want to go be on base with him after I graduate, but I'm not even sure what my life is going to be like there. How college is going to work out.. and just day to day routines. If anyone has any advice/comforting words, i could really, really use them.

usmcwlbh116 usmcwlbh116
18-21, F
8 Responses Feb 15, 2009

Hearing everyone's stories and advise makes me feel so much better. I feel like I'm not alone any more.. because I've been feeling that way a lot lately. I just don't know what exactly I'm going to do. I mean, I'm willing to hold schooling off for a bit.. or going somewhere near base if I choose to move there right out of high school.. I just know I will pursue going to college, no doubt. I want this Marine wife life, though. I know that for sure. I know it's what is best for me because I do love him so much. I just really want to make sure I plan this all out right. ya kno?<br />
you girls rock, by the way =]

hey im new on here too. im 17 and my boyfriends 19. he finished basic at parris island in august and hes not at cherry point for the next year. so im here if you need to talk. I'm going through the same thing with my friends. alot of them freakout if they havent seen them for less than two days. and it gets really hard still being in high school and not getting to do the normal things. <br />
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my AIM is xxgabbyyy im on alot so feel free

hey im new on here too. im 17 and my boyfriends 19. he finished basic at parris island in august and hes not at cherry point for the next year. so im here if you need to talk. I'm going through the same thing with my friends. alot of them freakout if they havent seen them for less than two days. and it gets really hard still being in high school and not getting to do the normal things. <br />
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my AIM is xxgabbyyy im on alot so feel free

its hard to move away from everything youve ever known.. trust me i know i just moved from SC to AZ... this life is a lot harder than you think. im 19 & my school has been put on hold for a lil while because that is what was best for me! make sure you you know this is what you want... & i agree with kali (hardcorps) about them being deployed for a how ever long & you still might not know anyone. & that makes it harder! but im here if you have any questions i would be happy to give my opinion! :)

Well, I guess that's one thing on my side. Ha.<br />
He's going to be a MP

I'm definantly not thinking about whether I want to be with him for the rest of my life or not.. I'm for sure I do. But like you said, it's the schooling. I mean, sure I do still have a year of high school left, but I've always been one to think about the future and plan ahead of time. Especially what I want to do with the rest of my life. This is probably the biggest decision I'll make, ya know? He won't know until the end of April where he is being stationed. Then problem is that I don't even know for sure where I want to go despite this situation. That's why it's all fair game to me. Him and I have talked about this all many times before and we both really want to be where ever the other one is.. but we also both know that if I get a full ride scholarship to somewhere I'd want to go, that I'm going to take it. I love him with everything and he feels the same way and we know we can make it through whether or not I move on base... it's just that we want to be with eachother. I know I have some time before I make a decision.. especially since he doesn't know exactly where he'll be stationed at.. but I need to do some thinking on my own as well before hand.<br />
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Thanks for your girls' time.<br />
It really helps and means a lot.

If you want to marry him do it, buttt if there is any doubt in ur mind...DONT. You dont want to marry him and think later on "what have i done" But if all your worried about is schooling, im sure there are ways you can still go, whether it be online colleges, or going to a college near his base. But dont forget ur dreams for your own life. If you want to wait and he loves you then he will wait.

Well my man is almost out of boot camp and we are both just barely 19 and we have been together sense we were 15 so i can relate to you if you ever need any questions answered then just message me. It is way hard i cant lie but i have fallen more in love with him gone and i didnt think that it was possible to love him more then i did but its a learning experince and if you want to marry him do it! you can go to school in a few years or find one close to the base i wish i would have taken my own words of advice but you also need to put you first, because you do need college. Well message me if you need any thing