Hello everybody.  My name is Kipp.  I am a database administrator from South Carolina.  I've been reading your stories, but this is my first post.  My fiance has signed up for the marines.  I'm 33 and my fiance is 28.  I'm quite nervous about all the changes that will come.  Seems most of you are younger than me.  If there are some ladies out there who already had established careers and were comfortable where you were before marrying into the marines, I'd like to hear from you on this:  Are we just expected to quit our jobs and move somewhere new once a year or what?  Is it hard to find a good job when you move or does the military help you?  How about kids...I don't have one yet, but am ready.  What's it like going through all that without your marine?

My main reason for posting today is Jared found out today that a couple short lines going up his neck from a tattoo have to be removed before boot camp.  What is that all about?  I've seen lots of marines with visible tatoos.  Is this just for boot camp?  Anybody have suggestions on how to get around it?  I think laser removals take months and he is hoping to go to boot camp next month.  I wonder if it's possible to cover it with ink the color of his flesh.

KippS KippS
31-35, F
5 Responses Mar 23, 2009

its not bc he has tatts its bc they are on his neck. thats a no no no matter what job

Hi Kipps! I am in the same position you are! My fiance and I are 27 and he leaves for boot camp in Sept (we will be married in July). I don't have any real advice to help you...just wanted to let you know that we are going through the same thing. I have been teaching for 5 yrs and will be giving up my job to move with him after a year is over (I plan on staying home and teaching for 1 yr while he goes through boot camp and SOI). My plan is to have a child and be a stay at home mom for a few years. It gives us the opportunity to start a family (something we are really excited about) and then I also have the option of going back to work if I want to (I'm very lucky that there are teaching jobs everywhere-but you will be able to find many different jobs on and off base from what I've heard). The message from friends/family that has really helped me is that the most important thing is that the two of us are together. It's great you are helping him live his dream. Of course I am terrified and I know that he will end up deployed at some point. I try to think of it as a great experience and something that not many people get to do. Look on the positive side of things and it will make it so much easier for you. Don't get me wrong, I still worry like crazy! Remember, the marines are the best and they go through such extensive training.

Thanks, ladies! I feel much better knowing it's normal for me to be upset. I felt like it was very selfish. He's the one that's going to risk his life and work his butt off, not me! This is a great opportunity for him. He is going to grow up so much and gain self esteem. <br />
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What a relief to know marines don't have to move often! That's been one of my biggest worries.<br />
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Thanks everybody!

I'm not sure if he is an officer candidate. He has a culinary degree but does not want to cook. He is also certified to repair Panda-Fischer generators (the generators all of the military use on land and boats). I've seen other comments on here about going in as an officer and wasn't sure what it was all about. I will make sure he asks his recruiter about it. Thanks!<br />
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Wow, I just put my first post up here and already had two responses. I think I'm going to get a lot of support and new friendships out of this group when he finally gets everything lined up. I'm going to need it. I've cried every day since he decided to do this. It's so scary, for me anyway. Glad to know you don't have to move all that much and it will be possible to find another job I like just as much as what I have now, or maybe even more.

i'm pretty sure it's just for boot. <br />
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i dont think it matters after... in fact most get some after i think..