So i have been married to my husband for two months and he leaves to go to Iraq in two days. I don't know how to deal with it. This is his 3rd tour so he acts like its nothing but this is the first time I have had to deal with anything like this. I need to know how to keep my sanity. How do i go through with my everyday life? How can i be his rock if I am about to have a nervous break down?

sibby sibby
22-25, F
1 Response Sep 2, 2007

Oh goodness, do I know how you feel. I went through this last August. It's now April and he comes home next month. It's been long and hard, but I got through it, just like he millions of others who have before us. It seems like you're going to lose your mind, sometimes, but you get through it, because the bottom line is to support your spouse. It's hard to accept that he wont be there for all of these milestones in your life. It's hard, but you will. And, those milestones are mere mile markers in the lives that you two will have. It may seem sad that he misses Christmas, or your birthday, this year, but it just makes it all that more special for you next time. As for losing your mind, it's important to be the strong one and to remember that they are feeling the same thing... but they're trained to ignore it until their free time. I don't have much advice for you in relation to missing him, but to keep yourself busy. If you don't have kids, start a work out program, take up a new hobby, get a job... Go see some family. There are many things you can do. And, once you're half way through, it goes by so much faster, and a little smoother. Make the time to send him care packages and talk to him as frequently, with any method, as possible. It makes the morale for your Marine soar... and, it does the same for you. And, a final piece of advice: Make sure that you tell him you love him every time you talk, because even if you're pissed off at him (which you will be, at some point), you never know how important it will be. If you need any support, feel free to contact me. I know what you're going through, girl; just stay strong!