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My name is Hannah. I am 16 almost 17 years old. I will be a junior this year. My boyfriend for 8 months (Cyrus) left for basic 2.5 months ago. I love him so much. He has really helped me overcome a lot in my life. But the one thing is I felt like he didn't love me when he went to basic when he left and a week afterward I slept with my ex (Dominik). Well come to find out I am pregant; I don't know whose it is and my mom's about ready to kick me out. W/e her excuse is she didn't raise me to be like her (she had me young) but why the ***** going to kick me out?! I mean that really isn't going to help the situation. She said that I should stay with Cyrus and not tell him that I don't know who the baby belongs to. Cuz Dominik is a dead beat. Been in and out of jail for domestics and robbery, but I know he would take care of the kid. But mom said that I should just tell Cyrus that the kid is his and get married cuz we will have medical and dental and he will get paid based on how many are in his family. I kind of feel like that is shady but I just wrote Cyrus a letter telling him I am pregnant. I just need you guys to help me decide if I should tell him that I don't know who the daddy is. I mean my mom is right about D and Cyrus is a good guy. I have thought about the other options but I don't know if I was going to do anything it would be abortion. Cuz I don't want anyone else to have the baby if I can't. I feel like I am going on, but I don't know what to do. I am so worried. I had plans of finishing and going to college being the first in the family. I hate Cyrus for leaving, if he would have never left this never would have happened.

 

XOXO-Hannah

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this is just horrible im sorry cheating is bad but on a man who is giving up everything to serve his country and he probably did love you but was trying to make leaving hurt less so he pushed you away that is just wrong im sorry i would never cheat on my marine EVER! my marine did the same thing but he loves me im still with him its been two and a half years and we are getting married for love do not marry him tell him the truth and get some help! wow

First of all you don't love him if you could do such a thing to him. Second it's not his fault for leaving...it's yours for not being able to wait for him!! Soo you should tell him what you did because sweety karma is a b****! and I'm not sorry if he decides not to be with you anymore. Ithink that if your a cheater then why should you deserve to stay with such a great person.

First of all you don't love him if you could do such a thing to him. Second it's not his fault for leaving...it's yours for not being able to wait for him!! Soo you should tell him what you did because sweety karma is a b****! and I'm not sorry if he decides not to be with you anymore. Ithink that if your a cheater then why should you deserve to stay with such a great person.

Your 16 for Gods sake!!!!!!!!!! you are a baby your self, no matter what you think you are not ready to be a mom you need to think of the baby and give it to some COUPLE that will love it and care for it the way you will never be able to....Some times the truth hurts.....

No offense, but if you really do love him then you wouldn't have slept with your ex... And you would support Cyrus because this is what he wants to do, and you shouldn't be blaming him for anything because you chose to have sex with your ex.. That's all I got to say. Sorry about your pregnancy.

Hi, so I just read your story and please dont get mad at what I am about to say being married to a marine and having a brother as a marine I have seen many girls come and go with marines and one thing you need to ask yourself is this "do you love him?" to be honest it doesnt sound like it at all. if you think boot camp is hard honey you arent going to survive the tours! Alot of girls think they can handle the departures because the guy is getting paid so well its worth getting married I get lots of money. But as you will see no amount of money is going to keep you his wife while you raise a child that is not his while he is gone. Know that becoming a mother while he is in the Marine Corps YOU WILL BE A SINGLE MOTHER he will hardly be able to help out being tired alot and being gone he will miss out on so much and it is so hard on the guys because they usally dont know how to help out since you do most of the child caring they dont want to get in the way causing lots of fights between and if you know its not his child it will eat at you more and more thinking why am I here just because he makes money. And that money that sounds so good now will quickly be blown away just on needed things. Usally the cost of living next to a base or on a base is expensive. Unless you absoultly love him and this is his child DONT MARRY HIM. Know he is training for life or death and he needs to stay as focused as possible and he either needs a wife that will stay be his side as a helper or leave now before you break his heart. Yes he may have helped you through a lot and thank him for that but dont destroy him he deserves better than that and you know he does. I am sorry for being so blunt but I have seen to many girls miss up Marines and they get hurt not just emotionally but phsyically. This is the down to earth truth take it or leave and just pray about it is all I can say good luck!

he's gonna come back hating you. i can't even believe i read some BS like this. how could you do that to him? how could you sink so low. my fiance has been there for 10 weeks now and the thought of cheating on him or talking to another guy hasn't once crossed my mind. a week later your sleeping with some other dude. wtf. a WEEK later!!!! wow pathetic little girls. this is why there so scared to leave. girls like you is what my marine is fearing of but he has nothing to worry about because i'd NEVER cheat and get prego by another guy. wow. good luck.

you are the reason that Marines are too scared to leave there loved ones.. jody's got your girl. how pathetic.

wow i can't believe it. You're the girls in the movies who cheat on their boy friends except you couldn't even wait a week. That's ridiculous. You're the reason our Marines worry, because of stories like this. You have to tell him the truth.

Ok first off, reguardless of weither or not you "thought" he loved you or not, cheating on him is the worst thing that you could've done. If you were unsure, and knew that you couldn't be faithful to someone who is in training to defend your right to be free, or in this case sleep with whoever you feel like sleeping with, then you should've broken it off before he left. It is completely disrespectful and gives all of us FAITHFUL marine gfs, fiances and wives a bad rep. and I am not going to be the one to be told that my husband shot himself on the range because I couldn't keep my legs closed for the 3 months that he was gone! Now that I've said that I'd like to say that throwing away a problem that you've created isn't the best way either, nor is being selfish in saying that if you can't have the baby, then no one else can... What kind of bs is that? You should've at least been careful enough to protect yourself if anything. And lastly, being a Marine is a lifestyle that calls for a lot of responsibility. It's the lifestyle that your boyfriend picked just like you decided that you wanted to go to college. I really am disturbed that put all of this on him at the end of your entry, saying that if he wouldn't have left, it wouldn't have happened... did you ever consider what would've happened once you were away at college? Are you completely certain that you would've been faithful then? I can almost promise you that I know the answer to that, and guess what, you would be in the same situation that you are now. I highly suggest that you don't throw that babys life away especially not knowing or ever knowing whose it is. Honestly this is your screw up and there is only one way to fix it. I also suggest that you wait until Cyrus is out of bootcamp because it is probably a very stressful point in his life and him knowing how badly you screwed up and how you doubt his love for you would only make it worse. And lastly, do us all a favor, don't screw up our rep, keep your legs closed, and grow a brain!

Ok first off, reguardless of weither or not you "thought" he loved you or not, cheating on him is the worst thing that you could've done. If you were unsure, and knew that you couldn't be faithful to someone who is in training to defend your right to be free, or in this case sleep with whoever you feel like sleeping with, then you should've broken it off before he left. It is completely disrespectful and gives all of us FAITHFUL marine gfs, fiances and wives a bad rep. and I am not going to be the one to be told that my husband shot himself on the range because I couldn't keep my legs closed for the 3 months that he was gone! Now that I've said that I'd like to say that throwing away a problem that you've created isn't the best way either, nor is being selfish in saying that if you can't have the baby, then no one else can... What kind of bs is that? You should've at least been careful enough to protect yourself if anything. And lastly, being a Marine is a lifestyle that calls for a lot of responsibility. It's the lifestyle that your boyfriend picked just like you decided that you wanted to go to college. I really am disturbed that put all of this on him at the end of your entry, saying that if he wouldn't have left, it wouldn't have happened... did you ever consider what would've happened once you were away at college? Are you completely certain that you would've been faithful then? I can almost promise you that I know the answer to that, and guess what, you would be in the same situation that you are now. I highly suggest that you don't throw that babys life away especially not knowing or ever knowing whose it is. Honestly this is your screw up and there is only one way to fix it. I also suggest that you wait until Cyrus is out of bootcamp because it is probably a very stressful point in his life and him knowing how badly you screwed up and how you doubt his love for you would only make it worse. And lastly, do us all a favor, don't screw up our rep, keep your legs closed, and grow a brain!

WOW...so this is apparently the story i missed. kind of wish i still hadn't seen it....<br />
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1) who did Cyrus blame when he cheated on you? did he blame you, or wasn't his out that easy?<br />
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2) you want to let a man just think it is his child when you know it may not be his. you must not care about him or that child at all. you know that attachments are made right? how you going to take the chance of breaking his and the babies heart like that.<br />
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3) put the baby up for adoption. you are no role model for a child, your mother is no role model for you. break the cycle now. <br />
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4)you think you are grown, then let your actions show it. do what a real grown up would and acknowledge your faults so that you can learn from them. <br />
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5) start using some form of protection before your not only spreading kids around your spreading AIDS too.

Wow!! This is so crazy!! I don't see how youo could even give lying about something like this a THought!!! And the fact that you don't know if its his kid and you just want money!?!?! I'm speechless!! My bf is graduating bootcamp in 1 week and never once would I ever think of being unfaithful!! Why would you want to when you have somebody that is wanting to protect so many people in this country! But most of all you!! I'm pretty **** proud to say my guy is A Marine and my Hero!!!

I hate to say but I think you already know. Noone forced you to lay with this man so you can't blame someone for your actions. My daughter is the mother, she unlike most teen mothers didn't give up on herself her child or her future. She had the beautiful boy got married to the father 6 years now finished college and has her B.S. in business and finance. We have all the support she wanted and needed but it was all her doing.Hannah its time for you to grow up play time is over you wanted to be an adult welcome to her world. Good luck and take care of the child time to quite being selfish.

I'm sure you have tons of great advice already but I don't mind adding my two cents. Be honest with everyone and make plans to take care of yourself until you decide where you want to end up. It's so important to take 100% responsiblity for all of your actions, you are in control of your actions.<br />
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Take your time making any life long commitments, especially abortions cause that can not be undone. In the mean time take confidence that you will make the best decision possible and forgive yourself for any mistakes you've made.<br />
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I wish you the best...take care of yourself.

you have to do the DNA test that tells you who is the father so u dont lie to either of Cyrus or Dominik you have to do the test to see who u must be with and merry if u dont want to put the baby for adoption and i actually dont agree the adoption thing !! u have to be responsible for ur mistakes !! and live with the father of the baby !! <br />
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im sorry for everything happend to you :)<br />
take care !!

if you didnt cheat on your boyfriend in the first place you wouldnt be in this mess. i have no sympathy for u.

Beyond everything else that is totally effed about this story.... I just have one question- then I'm sure I'll finish reading the rest of this later....<br />
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Who did your mom tell you your daddy was? If its such great advice who's to say she didn't use it herself.....

WOW i missed everything...dang its only been a few hours! haha..idk if this is fake or not but it if its real..its pretty ****** up.

ok and as for ur mistake and spoiled rich girls comments. <br />
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My parents have a LOT of money. My guys parents have a LOT of money and yet me and Jay are just barely making it. Our parents said that we made grown up decisions so we get to live like adults and thats what we do. <br />
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And yes i think that having sex so young was a mistake but i would NEVER cal my children a mistake they are my life. you have to be a ****** up person to call ur baby a mistake. your a *****. you dont deserve Cyrus. Go back to ur drug dealin, abusive, slacker dead beat and leave the Marine the **** alone. HE trusted you and u ****** him over. You only care about yourself. You just want him to marry you so that he'll take care of ur kid for you. Go play stepmom and get the **** off this site. you dont belong here. We're almost the same age but these ladies dont call me a kid becuz i stepped up to the plate and im takin care of me own kids. ive made mistakes but i handle my business. When i had my kids i didnt get to still be a little kid. I had to grow up. Im a child but i act like a grown woman. You need to just sit ur little *** down. ur kid might be better off in foster care. It will probally get takin away anyways. Cuz i know the Marine wont be that stupid. And he WONT stick around.<br />
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But sweetie come back in 10 years and tell us how being on welfare is while ur baby daddy is sitting in jail and we'll tell you how life with are Marines is soooo great because we never cheated. <br />
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So bye little girl. Go play with ur little wanna be thugs.

ok first little girl, grow the **** up!!!<br />
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Now just to let you know, if your not married when you get pregnant there is a HUGE chance that his command will make him get a paternity test in order to claim that child as a dependant, its a way to protect their marines from lieing little *****. <br />
I am having to get a paternity test done on my son so mine can claim him but i guess the difference between me and you is im not a lieing little ***** and my son is actually his son. <br />
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Its a horrible thing to let your boyfriend think its his just so YOU can have a better life, calling you child a mistake is a horrible thing to do, you are pathetic and immature, you cant raise a child with your mentality, if you do your child is gonna come out even more ****** up then you are. <br />
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You wont let anyone else have your child because your a selfish little girl, you are a gold digging *****, but guess what sweetie marines dont make alot of money!!!

Look sweetie. I'm 17. I have 2 kids. A 3 year old and a new born. I know who the fathers of my children are so i dont know exactly where you're coming from but really hun. If you're pregnant you better man up cuz ur gonna have to be VERY strong. I was not prepared for the emotional place i was in when he left. But i dont run of and screw my ex(mainly becuz i looked like a hippo) but i loved him with all my heart and no matter how depressed i got cheating was never an option. You need to find out who the baby belongs to and WHEN HE GETS HOME you need to tell him that you cheated and if the baby is his or not. But dont ***** about not being able to do it. I've been doing it since i was 14. I CANT feel sorry for you. You have to be VERY strong to be a Marines wife or girlfriend but you have to be like wonder woman to do it and me a mommy. So man up chicka.

Dear Crazeeinluv,<br />
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Sorry to hear about you have to make such a tough decision and no one else around you can be truly helpful to you. Your decision to ask our advices means that you really care about your baby and your life. I have seen some of the advices, some good and some inconsiderate and some you don't need. Hope you won't be discouraged or offended by some of them but they are saying what is in their hearts. But doesn't mean they are right, or wrong or better than you. In my opinion, find some social worker related to this field in your area, they will have all the connections and some supports you need. Then, you will learn you are not alone. I believe you will get through this if you keep trying. Your mom is amazing about how she raised you up and you surely can do it too. <br />
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Keep me post or send me a personal message if you like.

This is all soo jacked up.<br />
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If Cyrus really is the dad, good for him. you 2 go ahead and live happily ever after (haha!). but if D is the dad, Cyrus will find out eventually. and dump your ***. Marines dont put up with **** like this. <br />
After boot camp, my Marine didnt put up with ANYTHING. He tells it how it is. They put up with **** from the Drill Instructors for 3 months and cant do anything about it except take it. After boot, they dont put up with it anymore. and i can tell you right now little girl, he wont put up with your ****!!<br />
Grow up you little *****.

yeah im caitlin! thanks heather i just didnt wana guess your name and look like a complete *** saying the wrong name lol<br />
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and girls i think no matter what we say she twisted little girl who i her mind is doing the right thing

hahahaa i know ducky [[whats your real name sorry im asking i cant remember]] our men make tons of money and all that hahaha omg!! iknow chris is really careful with his money...he makeshispaychecks stretch and i know when we are married its gotta be the same way...<br />
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he deff deserves better

Very true. She is starting off on a very bad start. **** my hubs is an Officer and we are still straped for cash at times. Over here in the UK we have to pay for Dental. We do get medical on the NHS National Health Service. However we have to pay a huge some for our house and all our bills. You do not get BHA here and you only get paid once a month so you better be good at budgeting. Even a TV license. Laughing my *** off.x

So true my daughter is 12 almost 13years old and I would do the same. I wouldn't have it. <br />
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One good thing is she has had it hard and seen how much I have struggled to make ends meet and is so thankful for everything I do for her. <br />
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I have had to go without clothing and wearing shoes with holes just to be able to feed my kids and let my daughter go on trips. Its hard but its worth it. Just to see her and her brothers have a smile.<br />
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I have had to work and miss her school plays and such just so I can put food on the table and I have had to row up super fast.<br />
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Now I look back and I wouldn't change having my children young. I would change some of my choices however.x

and no jade that Maine [[idk if its even her man i dont think she deserves that title]] is never going to be good enough for her

ohhh she deff is a tag chaser she fits it to the very letter...<br />
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*she wants his money [[b/c our men make bazillions of dollars]] lmbooooo<br />
*she wants the dental and health coverage<br />
*she might be carrying another man baby but shes just not goin to tell him that<br />
*shes so anxious shes even going to ask him to marry her<br />
*and shes been with a Marine b4 him <br />
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all this and shes only 16...<br />
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god help me if my daughter ends up like this i will beat the living **** out of her....

Ladies she wants to marry for benifits.<br />
What kind of benifits do you think we get? Lmao <br />
Are you ready to be a parent? <br />
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Do you think you would be willing to place a child before yourself? <br />
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I had my first child very young and yes its not to bad at first but it is tough you have to think of your babies needs first and put yourself last. You have to give up things and become an adult.<br />
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Are you ready for a full blown life of marriage and kids and another thing what if your Marine turns around and say he doesn't want you any more than your left. <br />
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Also when your man is away he will hear stories of cheating slags and what if he wants DNA done. <br />
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One day it will come out and you will be in big trouble. If this man loves you as much as he says he does he will forgive you for cheating. Come clean and move on.x<br />
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Can you say Tag Chaser?

BUT Audrey, she didnt use BC cause her and momma dont believe in it... they only believe in trapping a guy and abortions!

planned parenthood is amazing...ya know they giveyou BC??? for free to stop things like this from hapening?? and if you ont have a planed parenthood near you im sure there is a clinic... you blieve in abortion not BC that makes sense

I think you misunderstood my message to you...<br />
The only thing I said that was in your favor was at 16, people can have a baby and make it work. Do I encourage it? Is it easy? Should YOU be doing it? ABSOLUTELY NOT!!!!! <br />
And trust me, I didnt have to judge you... you put yourself out there for all of us to know. No one had to judge you, you told us EXACTLY how you are (and how your mother is too!)<br />
I NEVERRRR get involved in the stories on here when its a ***** causing drama... but your story made me throw up in my mouth a little... What you and your nut job momma are doing to Cyrus is UNREAL! <br />
Yes, (as sad as it would be) you can raise a baby at your age... However, you have said some things on here that told us what type of person you are... that is how you have been judged. Your a trashy *** ***** and so is your momma... so that should tell you that your baby is going to grow up and be just like you two!!! Seriously... thats SAD!!!!!<br />
Im still amazed that you BLAME Cyrus because he went to better himself and his life! As Audrey told you, he is in a CONTRACT with the gov't!!!! <br />
Now, log off of your computer, get up, and get a job! Cause your *** has a baby to support!!!<br />
Anytime I run into a man named Cyrus in the Corps.... I will ask if he was ever with Hannah the *****... <br />
Someday girl... this will bite you in the ***...<br />
And neverrrr think I would be all for a ***** cheating on someone that defends our country again! Thats the lowest someone can do....

you stil never answered my question, if he cheated on you as you claim he did, why didn't you 2 breakup?

exactly, your mother is NOT a good example. If she was she would realize that kids have sex, they're going to whether you want them too or not. It was her job as your mom to protect you by taking the necessary precautions.

And I'd watch out for your little mess your getting yourself into. If you say the guy in the military is the dad, and he starts getting paid extra because he has a kid, then you find out down the road that the child isn't his..you're gonna be owing the government some big bucks..and I mean it, they will fight you tooth and nail, because they're the government and thats what they do.

"But I can't do it on my own, raise a kid and support it and ****. And I could be faithful to Cyrus this is the first time I ever cheated on anyone one before. Maybe Dominik drugged me or something. I shouldn't have been at Dominik's house I know. But I am good friends with his lil sister. I was crying on her shoulder about how upset I was that Cyrus left. The baby would look like both cuz I forgot how but they are somehow related. So they got familiar features. And oh well yeah I am 16 but I am bout to be 17 and people have done it younger than me. Age ain't nothing but a number baby."<br />
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"Thanks, I guess. My mom said that her first husband got paid on how many were in the family though and she was married to him for ten years. So I bet she would know."<br />
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"Well, w/e it doesn't really matter I guess. W/e he is making is more than I make and better than anything Dominik will/would make. And who knows how long Dominik would be around to hellp out.<br />
if he doesn't know there will be know need for dna test...he will just think the kid is his (it very could be there is only a week in difference between when i last had sex with Cyrus and the accident with Dominik). we will get married and he will automatically be named the father."<br />
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self explanatory.<br />
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you're a dumbass.<br />
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now please, manipulative...lying...deceitful...unfaithful, young lady...go see a dr. get foot stamps, wic...or whatever it is you can do to provide for your baby, or HEY! get a job! :) <br />
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do not live off of a Marine's income, bc for one, they don't make anything...and once he decides to leave you flat on your ***, you won't have an education to provide for that kid. <br />
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go to school, make something of yourself.<br />
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obviously you don't need advice, you already know everything.

it doesn't matter, if he won't work a job job. if he's the dad, he IS responsible. THis is my point, we can if and n but all the options until we're blue in the face. <br />
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get a DNA test, and tell the truth NO MATTER WHAT!!then we can talk about advice for you.

why didnt your mom get you birth control hoping u wouldnt get pregnant?? or why didnt you just get it that way you didnt have to use condoms but hey you wouldnt be prego and freakin ill prepared for life

wow he went to go "play" with DI's??? you are so dumb....he shoulda wated for you to becomfortale with him leaving???hun you seriously got issues!! he is lucky to go when he did, there is a long as waiting list into boot!! <br />
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and you dont know any of our stories i was deff a kid making grown up decisions butyou dont know that....we all have **** in our livesbut we take responsibility for them and are smart enough to think b4 we act

If he cheated on you before you left, why didn't you 2 breakup?<br />
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And a grown up decision is not lying. That's being a little kid and taking the easy way out... grown ups face stuf head on! Admit a mistake was their fault, then deal with the consequences of that action.

Wow. This story makes me so sad. Do you realize what you are doing to this child? And you blame this guy for leaving you to go to boot camp? Then you cheat on him? Seriously, there are definitely girls your age that can handle a kid, but after reading what you said. I can't even believe it! Maybe its because I'm pregnant and all I ever think about is my child. But that is how its been since day 1. The child should ALWAYS come first, and the child's welfare should be most important thing to you, no matter what!!! So maybe adoption is the best option, stop being so selfish and make the right decision for your child!<br />
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And about finding out who the father is, I highly suggest you do. Don't put this responsibility on someone's shoulders who isn't the father. That is just inconsiderate and mean. You can't play with someone's feelings like that, making someone think they're the father when they're not. Plus, you do realize your kid is going to look somewhat like the father, right? <br />
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You got yourself into this mess, now you need to fix it. Talk to someone, don't take it into your own hands. There ARE people out there for you to talk to, and I suggest you start looking. 9 months comes A LOT faster than you think! And remember, if you're really willing to raise this child, you're willing to be a mother too. You are taking on the responsibility of raising him, watching out for him, taking care of him, finding the financial means to take care of him, and above all, you need to give him all of your time and love him more than anything else. If you're not ready to dedicate 100% of the next at least 19 years of your life to this baby, you are not ready to be a mother. Adoption. There is somebody out there who wants a baby to do all of those things with who can't have a child of their own. Think of what's best for him, not you, you selfish little girl.

If he cheated on you before you left, why didn't you 2 breakup?<br />
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And a grown up decision is not lying. That's being a little kid and taking the easy way out... grown ups face stuf head on! Admit a mistake was their fault, then deal with the consequences of that action.

I can guarantee he won't want to go to jail. He will pay once he's given an ultimatum

the first kid??? big red flag sweetie he has a kid already wow!!!!<br />
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and yeah whats things on the side??? you are a trip!! you need to cawl outa your whole of la la land and come into the real world!!! <br />
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you asked for this to happen by not being safe, now you deal with the reproussions not force them on someone else

if you go to court and you have a DNA test and PROVE he is the dad. He has to pay you, one way or the other. Its the law everywhere. He is legally responsible for the children he creates. And maybe the other girl didn't go the distance to get the money from him. Once he's proved the dad, its court ordered or he goes to JAIL!! <br />
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COme on now, don't tell me you didn't know any of that.

wow hunny!!! you never use protection...that makes you stupid...gai i will say if you were a big enough girl to have sex and not use protection you are a big enough girl to handle the reprocussions....and do it on your own....<br />
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did no one tell you bout birth control???**** ppl like you shouldnt procriate....you are deff a child...<br />
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and all of us are very dedicated toour men so to believe you will lastlonger..when YOU cheated and YOU are going to take his money...<br />
im willing to bet youtwo wont be together

WOAH, back up.... if you put your kid up for adoption it WOULDN'T go to an orphanage!!!! Are you serious?! It'd go to a foster home dumb ****.. or you could go to an adoption agency today even and go find some couple who longs for a child and give it to them the second you pop it out....... I'm sure if you gave it away it'd have a better home than it'd have with you anyway since you're referring to your unborn child as "the mistake". COOOL.

wow hunny!!! you never use protection...that makes you stupid...again i will say if you were a big enough girl to have sex and not use protection you are a big enough girl to handle the reprocussions....and do it on your own....<br />
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did no one tell you bout birth control???**** ppl like you shouldnt procriate....you are deff a child<br />
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...and all of us are very dedicated to our men so to believe you will lastlonger..when YOU cheated and YOU are going to take his money...im willing to bet youtwo wont be together

no it makes you a CHILD choosing the man who can provide without telling him the truth< I've read this all and it is unbelieveable. This has to be fake to stir all us up. Why would you (hannah) come to a group where marine girlfriends/fiances/wives are staying faithful and day in day out supporting each other so we can get through this hell while our men are away?<br />
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Not being judgmental but re-read what you've said. You've said you're a "grown up," grown ups take responsibility and admit when they did something wrong, you can't even do that!! You are willing to RUIN and completely break a man you "love" because he will support your child. That is not love. <br />
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Love is a relationship built on trust, faithfulness, honesty, communication and passion. Your relationship resembles NONE of those attributes.<br />
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Furthermore, your mother is extremely dishonest and nothing of a rolemodel for you to follow. Lying never leads anywhere good. I recommend BEFORE you make ANY decisions at all, do a DNA test. It is the only fair way in this situation. Not only do you need to know the truth, but the guys do. In any state, lets say Dominik is the dad, he WILL be held responsible and HE WILL be forced to pay you by the courts for support. <br />
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You have to be fair girl, if its not Cyrus' child, tell him. Because like you said if he loves you, it won't matter, he'll stay with you. But D@MN give him the choice if you love him. GIVE HIM A M"****** CHOICE! That would be love.

you're changing your story.

that doesnt make you smart!! that makes you a cold heartless *****!!<br />
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and i garuntee you we will all make it longer than your relationship will...

you're a dumbass.<br />
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"I gurantee we will make it longer than you."<br />
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have you read our stories? if so, then you'd know that we find people like you pathetic. <br />
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i'm pretty sure he'll know whether that kid is his or not. naw, i'm positive. so come back in about 1 month and a half and tell us we were right.<br />
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it will not last. i'd bet my life on it.

you're a dumbass.<br />
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"I gurantee we will make it longer than you."<br />
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have you read our stories? if so, then you'd know that we find people like you pathetic. <br />
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i'm pretty sure he'll know whether that kid is his or not. naw, i'm positive. so come back in about 1 month and a half and tell us we were right.<br />
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it will not last. i'd bet my life on it.

wow you hoestly think secrets stay hidden forever???everything comes out eventually....i hope on of these girls knows someone named cyrus thru theirman and says something about it....i hope to god!!! and wow you are deff delusional and need help bc you are deff stil a child. you arent thinking about the baby you are thinking about you....and how it will be easier for you!! you can get a job and support the kid...but your not going to you are gunna hope and pray he doesnt find out so you can use him...<br />
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he deserves better

wow, oh lord........ you think he's going to want to marry you when he finds out what you did??? He will find out. That's sick, you're a disgrace. You thought that he didn't love you anymore so you went and slept with another dude........ You want to marry him now and lie about that kid being his... How can you live your life like that?? how could you possibly do that to the man you "LOVE" you're sixteen....how in the HELL are you going to survive as a marine wife??? You cheated on him in BOOTCAMP, imagine what you'll do when you think he hates you when he's deployed because you wont be able to hear his voice or hear anything from him for days on end. This is the most idiotic thing I've ever read..... COMMON SENSE IS A BEAUTIFUL THING, I suggest you go and get some.

audrey, i love you. :)

wow you are one psycho delusional child!!!! you are going to trick hi into marrying you so either way you get his money??? i hope to god this isnt his kid!! for his ****** sake...i wish i had cyrus' number or knew him and could show him this **** you deff are still a kid. look at your thought process...<br />
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"if he doesnt know there isnt a need for a DNA test." "we will get married and he will automaticaly be named the father" <br />
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do you not hear yourself?? you are going to ask him to marry yo...you are going to steal his money knowing damn wel you two arent goin to work,your going to lie and not tell him you cheated, you are ****** DIRTBAGGGGG!!! at least think about what yor doing logicaly i know you are 16 you can do it think really hard...

marrying for security. it's such a shame.<br />
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you're worhtless and pathetic. i feel sorry for this kid. and i feel sorry for what you're putting that Marine through, i say that...bc he is in no way YOUR Marine. <br />
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man, what a role model you have to look up to. you're mother is just as manipulative as you are. <br />
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heartless is what it is....<br />
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please think of someone besides yourself for once.

dna testing is great.<br />
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watch that kid pop out and look nothing like him. <br />
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dna test, and bam no child support.<br />
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nice try though. tell your mom she doesn't know everything...and to **** off :)

you are going to end up HIS MISTAKE and HIS PROBLEM if you marry him for his money and benefits

orphanage? Is this cat real?<br />
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i have 4 adopted siblings and they've had better lives for being adopted. DUE FROM they're birth parents being young...dumb, and full of ***. <br />
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don't be selfish.and if i've seen it once, i've seen it 1000 times. once people cheat, they'll never EVER feel the same for that person once they know the truth. i have never and WILL NEVER cheat on my Marine. <br />
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If i were you, i'd either give up for adoption, or raise the kid on your own...marrying for security is down right pathetic.

you just ****** called your kid a MISTAKE and a PROBLEM. you are in no way ready for this but why not at least give that kid a fighting chance?? why abort it??? and saying ohhh he wont find out is just plain wrong!!! what are you hoping you will have this baby and he will love itand years later when he finds out it isnt his and you didnt tell him but he'll just be okay with it??? and you do love him but what you couldnt say no?? he wasnt even gone that long and you did what you did and now you wanna lie?? how can you have a relationship let alone a marraige based on that..sweetie im only 18 but i know better than that. ....come on! find out who the kids dad is, then tell him! tell him that it is his or it isnt and tell him the truth that you dont know whose it is bc you cheated dont lie to him....<br />
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oh and ps if he is a pvt or a pfc bc he just started right?? they make less bc his rank isnt as high...just letting you know hes not rollin in money if thats what you are goin for.

Go to the dr and see if they can be more specific about how far along you are.

WHOA!!! Back up a second... did you BLAME Cyrus because you slept with someone else? No way! First step to make this situation a better one... TAKE THE BLAME FOR YOUR ACTIONS! Cyrus did nothing wrong, all he did was go for training to make a better life for himself. And he gets the blame cause you slept with someone else? <br />
And your mother is wrong also, lying to a man telling him he is the father is totally wrong!!! You need to figure out who babys daddy is and go from there. Dont pin a baby on a man that has no clue!! <br />
You cant build a STRONG and TRUE marriage on lies. So, after Cyrus comes home, you need to be honest with him and tell him what happened and see happens...<br />
And yes, someone CAN be 16 and have a baby! I was 16 when I had my first. And we just celebrated his 15th birthday 2 days ago! He is happy, healthy, and MOUTHY just like every other fun loving 15 year old. lol. And hubby and I are still happily married going on 15 years! So it can be done... BUT NOT BASED ON LIES!!!!! <br />
Good Luck... Hope everything works out for you!<br />
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wow. when reading this story, and all the comments, i could not believe that you actually think that you could do this to your marine. You think Dominik will not find out your pregnant and think its his? he will end up telling your man if you don't! and if he dnesn't your going to look at that baby ever single day and wonder if it its actually his or not. you are making a huge mistake, and you don't even know what love is, if you love him so much why didn't you tell him, why aren't you staying faithful, and why the hell would you want to marry a marine if he was gone for 1 week, and you already ****** cheated on him!!! WOW. and to say he must have drugged you or something HAHAHAHAH what? why would you even go over there, if she is your friend, she can come to your house, you went there KNOWING that Dominik was there, and that there was a possibility that something like this would happen. I HOPE THE "LOVE OF YOUR LIFE" FINDS OUT. to do something like this to a man who is defending your freedom, makes me SICK!

this **** has to be fake!!

Your name says it all. Need I say more. x

There is NOTHING right about this post. it screams FAKE.<br />
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1. WHY WOULDN'T YOU TELL HIM? If you loved him as much as you said you did, you would tell him anything. He deserves to know! What kind of question is this??????? OF COURSE YOU SHOULD TELL HIM- YOU'VE ALREADY CHEATED ON HIM. Are you trying to win the award for biggest ******* ***** in America????<br />
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2. Your "mom" says everything Marine s/o HATE. What the hell, you should LIE to your "love" because of the benefits???????? what the hell is that?????<br />
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3. Let me quote you: "Cuz Dominik is a dead beat. Been in and out of jail for domestics and robbery, but I know he would take care of the kid."<br />
..........You are so naive or just really stupid. No really, I am sorry you think we should feel bad for you because you're in a "situation" BUT ALL OF IT IS YOUR FAULT. Why were you even with a guy who did all of that **** in the first place? THEN WENT BACK TO HIM???<br />
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4. This is the worst. You would get an abortion because you don't want anyone else to have the baby????? **** you. No really. I actually agree on Pro-Choice ONLY because I don't think the government should have to tell us what to do with our bodies, but you are the reason so many people are against pro-choice. YOU ABUSE THE PRIVALAGE.<br />
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I don't even care if you're "not going to do, you just thought about it".... either way you thought about it, and that's the way you feel. My mom was 17 when she had me and gave me up for adoption. You need to sit the **** back and learn some things little girl. I have a GREAT life that I wouldn't have ever had if my birth mother was a selfish *** ***** like you and took my life away from me! How could you just say "If I can't have it, I don't want anyone else too" IT'S YOUR MISTAKE, and you know I'm all for people making mistakes- as long as they are responsible about them. <br />
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YOU ARE SUCH A ******* PIG, and I wish I could spit on people like you, damn you just pissed me off with that ****.<br />
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Tell your man the truth. Own up to your ****. Either clean your act up and raise your kid the best you can OR let someone else who can't have a kid enjoy that chance, instead of killing it off.

wow you are ****** dirtbag!! you want to marry your marine bc he has a good job and you can use is benifits??? you arent in love you are looking for the easy way out!!! and to not tell him that would make ou a liar...you were a big enough girl to have sex and not have protection then you are a big enough girl to do whats right and tell him!! and you are a big enough girl to do whats right for this kid...with out the marine!! i cant believe you are seriously looking for advice

Dude this is so ****** up it's gotta be fake?

amen Jessie!!

okay so first of all, you cheated on your boyfriend while he's in bootcamp. and then blaming him for leaving and saying it wouldn't have happened if he hadn't left is by far the most immature thing anyone could ever say. second of all, your boyfriend is becoming one of the few and proud men to serve this country and has quite a responsibility on his hands already as it is and now he's gotta deal with something like this, wow. you got yourself into this situation and now its up to you on figuring out how to get yourself out. its pretty shady of you to do something like that all because you thought he didn't "love" you all because he left for bootcamp. i'm sorry for what happened, but this is all up to you. i have no advice, just concern.

it seriously does cuz this is pathetic. how could you be so stupid!

this **** has to be fake!!?!??!

The fact that you wont let a worthy family raise your child might be the most self centered thing I have ever heard. <br />
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Ur right. Its much better to just kill the kid, who would want it to grow up with a real family?? Thats just silly.

well that's your own damn fault for even getting involved with Dominik!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

yes but you could have chose to stop what you were doing. but you didnt

accident.... <br />
you CHOSE to do what you did with Dominik, darling.

hmmm well maybe you shouldnt have gotten prego in the first place!!

and its real immature of you to cheat on your boyfriend because you think he's cheating on you.

He can't screw some other girl while he's in basic? They can't do anything in basic... Why do you think he can't call you.<br />
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& the past is the past... You could have been a big girl and stuck it out while your marine was away. But you didn't. So that makes you the immature one.

HE CANT SCREW WITH GIRLS THERE! there are no girls!! AND he has no time to!!!!!!!

No girl. I'm not immature. I'm just telling you how it is. You're immature. You dont love Cyrus. You're not ready. You had sex with your ex-boyfriend and you blame it on Cyrus. Who is at boot camp. becoming a Marine. to defend our country... yepp. its all his fault.

Call your local recruiting office, get your info from those currently in the Marine Corps! If you don't trust me, fine, but educate yourself.

haha! okay have fun lying to your Marine boyfriend. I hope he finds out that you cheated and dumps your ***!!!

By the way, he will not get paid based on how many are in his family, his pay is based on if he marries you (it's called BAH) and his rank.

HAHA you're grown ups huh?

And don't sit and say that yellowmermaid attacked your situation because she was just trying to help that's why she commented.<br />
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She wants you to realize that you have no idea what you're getting into being a military wife.