Kinda Frustrated With This Site....

hey girls... I haven't posted any stories in awhile because I started my first deployment, and things have sort of all over the place. I'd like to ask a question to everyone.. what is this site becoming to all of you?

 

I feel alot like this used to be an uplifting place. A place that was nice to come at the end of long days to socialize etc. LATELY all I ever seem to read (about 87% of the stories) are bitching and whining and complaining! Now I know you have bad days I mean we all do but can we please begin to look at the bigger picture. Can someone please take some initiative to be positive!

About 7 or 8 of us girls have men in the surge happening right now in Marjah. I know we always say to not compare etc and I'm not trying to. But I mean DAMN we're going through a rough time and not hearing from our men and this site is just f*cking annoying. Like is anyone reading the news? Do any of you care your men may be going there soon?

 Which in case any of you didn't know Marjah is being compared to or is said to be the fallujah of iraq!! It is not good and it is freaking stressful! WE understand boot camp is hard GOT IT! We understand not seeing your guy this weekend must be REAL TOUGH but understand what/ where are men are. Our men that went to camp leatherneck and then shipped out with NO LEAVE to afghan. Our men that are facing one of the biggest problem areas in afgan. The biggest challenge since the war began!!!

So when you have read this story and read the news stories and see what's happening currently, have some compassion for me and the other girls going through this. Realize that somethings just are not that big right now in the big scheme of things. For example, like not seeing him in a week or a little fight you got in to over facebook.  Other girls men are at war and a war that is getting worse before it gets better!  SOOO if you want to ***** about anything I said, go ahead. This is not directed at any one person and I tried not to use specific examples of people. But if you still feel this is a call out then whatever, because most of the girls that have men that are part of this offensive right now will gladly stand behind me.

 

I do hope things become more positive around here.

JustsGirl JustsGirl
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44 Responses Feb 12, 2010

I can sum this up in 12 words: If you can't take the heat, get yer *** outta the kitchen.<br />
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I think the point of this post (what I got from it), is that there are REAL problems going on here. There are men over there fighting their balls off for us. The reality is that there are some who will get killed or injured. Duh. And if you can't accept that, or don't want to hear those kinds of words, then, perhaps you should reconsider your relationship with a US Marine. Just saying.<br />
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Now, yes sometimes I do see stories about someone's bf who's being mean, or bummed about fiance leaving for boot, etc. and you know what I do when I see them and are just not in the mood to hear b*tching and moaning? I don't read them. <br />
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Everyone has their own unique ways of dealing with a relationship w/ a marine. There are many levels of maturity here. <br />
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Isn't help and emotional support the point of this site?

i wasn't trying to stir the pot about this... i have only been on this site for a month maybe, so i don't know all the history of it, and i was in no way attempting to be more negative when replying<br />
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i'm not sure what you all think, but i'm a very compassionate person that just wants everyone to get along whenever possible, so if you got anything out of my post besides that i think everyone should try to get along with each other and be more positive, it's what i really was trying to say...

Thanks :) and believe me that is one thing i know haha i've learned to just keep my mouth shut if the majority of what i have to say is negative. I'm just saying no one is ever going to be able to stop people from posting negative stories. I wasn't trying to argue with you or anything cause I do agree with you. Its just some things are out of our hands!

Lexi, thanks for the post! I have been following your story and considering the circumstance you are in, yo have been extremely positive and it has been an encouragement! You've been in my prayers and your family too. I do hope things work out well for you. I think you've been dealing with things wonderfully!<br />
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Kaitlyn- you're totally right it was pointless going back n forth, I just refuse to have people comment and tell me what I mean when some of the stuff they're saying I NEVER said. It's over n done with though. People don't get it. <br />
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Amber- I know its rough since Trey just left again, but we are all here for you!!<br />
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Liz thanks for understanding this post. It wasn't meant to ever be a downer in the first place. I just want positivity thats all. Not comparisons, not fighting, just a positive story to encourage the site to be a place of positive energy rather than downers!<br />
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Kaleigh (thats a pretty name btw) I know no one can control what is posted on this site and that's not my intentions with this post. The goal is to have some girls realize they are negative all the time and a positive story wouldn't kill them. I mean you can't be negative the majority of the time in this kind of a relationship. If you are it will fail miserably.

Okay so first off, this comment is not meant to start any problems. I don't get on this website much anymore, but I do agree with this post. There is a lot of whining on here. But JustsGirl (im not sure what your name is, sorry!) you said "girls are free to vent not B*TCH 24/7." I know everyone gets sick of it.. but you can't control what other people come on here and say, you know? No one on here can. I have only been through one deployment myself, and it wasn't a bad one. But it was still hard for ME, because it was new to me. And I didn't go through boot camp with him either, so I can't say I've been there. But for some girls, they aren't used to not seeing their man, or not being able to talk to him. Its all new to them. And there are a lot of us that have been there and we are all guilty of b*tching and whining over stuff that we think is stupid now that we look back.<br />
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This site is supposed to be a support group where you support each other through good times and bad. That is what friends do. Does there need to be less negativity? Absolutely. We all need to realize that what we consider to be huge problems, aren't really that big compared to what other girls are going through. We all need to think about what if we were in one of their shoes? And our man was gone and a part of this surge. If that was the case, you would probably all be just as upset about listening to everyone complain about not seeing their boyfriend in a week. These girls have a lot more to worry about.<br />
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Like I said, this comment was not meant to be offensive to anyone or start any more fights. But honestly, I do think this post has started more negativity, which is what you all are wanting to eliminate. Just my opinion. Anyway, I'm sorry if this was all over the place, I was just trying to get all the thoughts I had out so it might be kind of jumbled!<br />
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Tracy, Caitlin, Leah and whoever else I missed that is dealing with their man being a part of this surge.. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your men. I don't know what you are going through right now, but I know it has to be hard for you. But you ladies are all strong and you can make it through this. Its just one more obstacle the USMC is throwing your way! I don't really know any of you (my name is Kaleigh, btw) but if you ever need to talk, whine, b*tch or anything, feel free to send me a message!

i do agree with this story, i do see a lot of whining and complaining on this site, ME INCLUDED! i do honestly want to try to be more positive because i know a lot of girls on here are going through way more then me. i really want to say how amazed i am at some of you girls who havent seen your guys in 10 months and are going through your first deployment but you dont complain as much as a lot of the girls on here, including me. justsgirl im really glad u shared this story and i know its giving me a new perspective and i hope it has given other girls one to. i also hope i can be as strong as you girls when brandon is in camp leatherneck in a month, ill try to keep the whining to a minimum lol. to be honest ive been trying to stay away from the news because i thought not knowing would make me feel better about it but i really cant close my eyes to whats happening now and what will be happening to him over there in a month. well i hope you girls didnt get a lot of **** for this story and once again thanx!!

Ok i went to bed way to early last night!!!!! <br />
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AShley #1 you said somthing towards me and i think i need to address thoughs i never said dont talk about boot mct or MOS i said you got it its hard on you but this before you ******* post some bullshit about worry and what not bc it gets worse i said dont worry about a deployment "he heard through the grapevine about" until hes in the fleet and knows for you. I have sympathy for the girls not in my situation bc i have been there and i have been on 2 deployments like caitlin and i am on a year long deployment and i do not believe i said one damn thing about complareing the lengths of the deployment and i was infact pissed as hell about your story oo not that long ago about your 10 days leave for you waht 7 months deployment im sorry but im about to be a ***** so excuse me ..... YOU ARE A LUCKY ******* *****.... one bcause you get 10 day with YOUR S/O i got like a half weekend bc he had to work on sunday and you deployment of 7/8 months booo ******* hoo trey a ******* year which no sweet little 10 day leave. yeah at this point i am comparing the only reason some what compared situations was to gain perspective. i have been married for almost a year and i have seem my husband a total of one month out the that year and IT SUCKS i am angry bc my husband was just home on R&R and guess what right when all this **** is happening trey had to go back im not a happy camper even this morning im not i still havent heard from my husband i understand you have gone trough deployment but also realize and think back would you have rather heard a stroy that was happy and uplifting during a bad day or some girl BITCHING about not getting to see you boyfriend im sorry i have been nice since my hiatus but last night was the wrong day to BIT*H and try to tell us we are in the wrong we never said dont vent there is a way to vent with out B*TCHING and COMPLAINING believe me it is possible vent tell us about you day good and bad but dont complain and said **** the marine corp bc you havent seen him in 2 days bc thats a tad rediculous. and panada again im horrible with names i know for a fact you have gotten into with all of us and the fact that this turned a light bulb on in your head means a alot bc it did its job. <br />
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all of us are a tad sick of this S*it and we should have to skem stories bc well this is a support site and like leah said when is the support gonna start coming our way?????? yeah we support most girls on the site give great advice but then when we have a night of bitc*ing we get sh*t no thats bullshit i love this site i love helping other girls but can i please tell someone that we all had a hard night and now that i read the rest of these comment it just ruined my morning and yeah soo find me on facebook and weshall vent and have ice cream :) <br />
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love you leah caitlin and tracy we gotta stick together :)

This is just proving we need our own side of town! Hah!<br />
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Tracy, Cait, and Leah...I can't believe you guys stressed yourselves and went back and forth with these people, I'm pretty sure its hopeless. I guess the ones that AREN'T dealing with this really dont get it and really dont give a sh*t. I do wish that some of these girls would look at their situations and say "oh crap, I guess my situation really isn't so bad." I know that since Brians been in, I've had that reality check several times. After bootcamp I was happy MCT was only a few weeks of no communication! After MCT I was thrilled we'd get to talk every day while he was at the school house. I wasn't thrilled that he was stationed across the country but we were just happy he wasnt stationed he was in Japan. After the first deployment I was so glad to have him just a phone call away again! I've always taken on the mottos 'Prepare for the worst, hope for the best' and 'Suck it up!'<br />
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We are a strong group of girls and even though we KNEW this was coming, it didn't soften the blow. This isn't just a normal low key deployment, this is undeniably war. With a lot of prayers and standing together, our men, and we will get through this.

Hey I'm Lexi and you make a great point lol. I'm always trying to be optimistic, although some of my stories [the ones not dealing with my marine moreso with my family lol] have not been as optimistic lol. My boyfriend is in MCT and I don't claim to know anything, and I really enjoy getting advice from the girls who have been in this for awhile because sooner than later I'll be you too and I hope I can give some form of advice to a girl in need. <br />
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I think the girls are just getting younger and younger and there in a state of mind where it's all they can do to NOT talk about there Marine lol. I sincerely hope this site does get a little more optimistic and If you girls ever do have a tough day I'm here if you want a pep up :], I can't imagine what a deployment feels like but I'm pretty sure soon I'll know and I'm glad I can ask you girls for some advice on the matter. Semper Fidelis ladies

This is not about cliques, or who has it worse. This is about reality. And all this "they will learn in their own time" is ****. This story was supposed to encourage girls to take some damn initiative and tell fun positive stories even if they're having a "bad day". They have no idea what "bad" is. That is not a comparison. It is so annoying to me that you are encouraging the negative stories. But whatever you weren't here when it was positive so you don't know.

Ashley #2... ok so if this is a support site, when our the other girls gona start supporting us that are doing a deployment. I've supported everyone on this site when they have bad days. When is someone gona support me and support what I'm trying to say? I'm saying, things suck right now. Girls need to read the news before they get on here and complain/*****/whine about the itsy bitsyiest detail. If you wana try to feed me the bs about this being a support group, fine. BUT let me just say, you missed the entire point that this story was written. THE ENTIRE POINT WENT STRAIGHT OVER YOUR HEAD

"i understand it's hard to read about women complaining they don't get to see their boyfriend, etc., because of the unimaginable stress you are going through worrying about your loved ones - but i just don't understand how "whining" about other people on this website will make anyone feel better. "<br />
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you DONT understand...we are trying today is not the day to whine over petty things...this situation is hard enough as is and to come and read about how ****** you feel bc you wont have vday or their bf is at boot...well our bf fiances and husbands are in butt **** no where being shot at....but ya WE shouldnt complain [[which leahs post isnt even complaining shes pointing out the fact that many of you girl who arent doing a deployment ARENT READING THE NEWS AND SEEING WHAT WE ARE DEALING WITH]] this is bullshit im out for awhile too this is crazy...

Ashley #2.....just not today is what I asked....it is apparently too much for some people, you included. I had no problem with you and on any other day I wouldn't have a problem. Leah I agree with you whole-heartedly....only a few of us understand what this is like. I get you hun.....we can just talk on FB because I can't ******* handle this **** right now. I'm gone. Seriously. I may come back but I can't hang right now.....

wow i tried to read all these posts i think i basically got the jist. i think this site is supposed to be for support. and i can understand both sides of this "argument" and let me just say up front that this post is in no way meant to offend anyone, is not directed at anyone in particular... i just want us all to get along and everyone to be happy!<br />
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I think no matter what this site is not about competing about who has it harder. personally i have not yet experienced deployment, but at some point i'm sure i will, and I think we all should have a shared respect for one another, regardless of what stage of training or deployment the other girls on here are. there will ALWAYS be girls on here in each stage, if there wasnt, there'd be no more marines- and to each individual different things may seem like the end of the world, if only for a fleeting moment of a stressful day or being upset over a long deployment.<br />
. I feel for every single woman on here who's having a rough day...if i don't feel like reading someone's post, i just don't read it. <br />
i understand it's hard to read about women complaining they don't get to see their boyfriend, etc., because of the unimaginable stress you are going through worrying about your loved ones - but i just don't understand how "whining" about other people on this website will make anyone feel better. The only way to improve the way this site is run is if the people in the group support each other instead of starting some sort of blog cliques.<br />
If you think that someone should just "suck it up" and notice they're whining a lot lately, maybe take a more productive role and post a productive message or personal message them something like "take the time to put your situation in perspective. you may not get to see him but look at the pros, he still cares about you and you've talked to him recently, you can do this!" instead of "why is everyone on here bitching?" - a comment like that is innately negative and belittling. <br />
a positive comment is a million more times productive than letting someone's post bother you so much that it makes you be negative in return. <br />
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I'm not saying we all have to be kumbaya in love with each other, i just think segregating a support group is just plain drama. i think ALL of us have enough drama in our own lives and we should not have to worry about judging one another. <br />
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isn't it bad enough that people on the outside of our situation judge us?<br />
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noone on here is more important than the other, we should all strive to not be petty and judge each other, it defeats the entire purpose of a support group!<br />
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Everyone is in my thoughts and prayers, especially for those girls with loved ones deployed or in the recent surge. <br />
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Never underestimate the power of positivity!<br />
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Love to you all,<br />
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No you ******* don't get it Ashley or you would have stopped with your high horse " this is what I said this is what I did" bullshit a long time ago. You have to convince yourself you are right. I have begged for you to stop but you just have to keep validating yourself. I hope that helps you sleep at night because I won't be sleeping tonight as I check the news every few minutes to see if there are ANY new developments.I said please don't do this, not today. Apologies are meaningless unless you really mean them....."I'm sorry....but" just doesn't cut it girl....sorry....you have made an enemy out of me because you just couldn't quit when I begged you to. You are incosiderate and heartless....yeah, I said it and I mean every word. If you wouldn't have said things the way Leah or some of the other girls said them, then fine....but you don't have to throw that **** around like you are better than us. Sleep well tonight, my Marine has your back....

a-******-men!!!! tracy...i really was crying at work when i told you...and i went in the big fridge to cry...and will hugged to today and asked if i was okay and i said no and instantly cried...he was like wanna talk? and i said noooo and he said good me neither lol :) but yeah todays been rough for all of us whose men are in this surge, were all freaking out trying to get a handle on what we feel but we all feel soooo many things its hard to sort out....i worked all day babysat all night i move tomm and havent finished packing, have to figure out my phone bill crap im sitting here trying to work out finanaces with someone who cant talk to me at all anymore which is damn near impossible i have to go get my check and write letters and say bye toeveryone and when i get to sd im jobhunting again...and i now am worrying for his safety. but i am IN NO WAY WRONG for feeling this...i am a very strong girl i know it. but this this is ****** someone taking out your knees and not knowing what to do...how to process whats going on...you realize i dont wanna hear a word from chris father, not one...hes is not to contact me by phone he can only text unless its THAT call bc i will flip the **** out. i have a long rough day...as have many of these girls. you cant quite comprehend them being in this surge unless they are there in it. the worst part?? once this starts we dont know how long it will last, chris will be there til nov so im praying super ****** hard!

QUAAAAAAAAAAAAACCCCCCCCCCKKKKKKKKKKKKKKKK!!!!<br />
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WHERE IS MY DAMN SANDWICH CAITLIN??? WTF????<br />
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Ashley I am done with you. You so don't ******* get it. I have tried to tell you so many damn times and you just don't get it. Your man isn't there NOW during the biggest surge.....so you can't tell me what to say or how to feel or whether or not to be angry.....cuz you know what? I am ******* sad and scared and angry and lonely and worried and nervous and about 100 other feelings.....but I worked all day, drove 2 and a half hours home.....so YEAH I have had a rough day so cut us some ******* slack....

hahaha FTSB FTSB FTSB FTSB....and NTB!!! is for sure!! i love you tracy!! even though your 30 lmaooo!!! quack quack!!! <br />
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who told you to talk NO ONE!!!! make me skittles from scratch!!<br />
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and tracy you are my lil piece of sanity...or insanity depending on how you look at it...bahahah...<br />
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this deployment and today just sucks asss....punch my in the face and kick me in the stomach i bet it feels better than this...

I didn't read your comment before posting... I don't think you're a b*tch. I just think there needs to be some light shed and some positive stories on this site so that when I (and other girls) come on here after hellishly long days of hearing nothing for the 14th day from their man that a story could be fun to read. FOR ONCE!

Last thing before bed, because I don't even wana deal with this bs anymore is this... Ashley, I would think with you having gone through 3 deployments that you may have been sympathetic to what I am trying to convey. I think --and am willing to bet on it-- that you'd be singing a totally different tune if you're man was over there right now in the middle of hell.

And Ashley pleeeeeeeeease forgive me if I misread your comment. You were talking about a comment and not the original post.....dear Lord forgive me.......I am a horrible person......grrrrrrrr..........

I didn't want a fight, I wanted someone to get on this story and say "damn, you're right. things could be alot better on this site." Cause its the truth. There are so many better ways to help/ support people than supporting b*tch fits and hand holding the girls who are always complaining while skipping along like its normal to be negative all the time!!!!!

FTSB FTSB FTSB FTSB.....OH AND NTB.......<br />
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Caitlin make me a sandwich!!! LOL..............<br />
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I LOVE YOU GIRL.......YOU AND ME.....that's all we need.....and Leah and the other ladies who get it....

okay well i was trying to avoid writing on this bc im wayy far past drained emotionally...<br />
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fist off many of you know my as the girl whose a ***** and who will stand up and be loud and say what im thinking bc idgaf who i fight with....99% i dont cry i dont ***** i suck it up and take it...mainly bc my bf doesnt like to hear bitching and i dont feel it get me anywhere in life...BUT today, today is that 1% i jump everytime i hear my phone ring i sit strait up out of bed and freak out. chris and i our doing our second deployment this is the scariest part of any of these deployments.this is SCARY i will down right admitt i ****** cried and cried all day i barely held it together at work, i drove home crying and smoking a cig then at a twix bar...i feel that pit in my stomach that this is not good...getting a email this morning saying" i gotta go all hells about to break loose in afghanistan and we wont be talking til idk when...be strong i love you remember that write me so i know your okay i love you caitlin sue" <br />
end of convo...dont know when we will talk. its scary to think they expect loss and your mans out there...im with tracy im worried about ME not ****** someone else at this point i dont give a sit if you dont get to see him for vday or you are 3 months into your relationship and its perfect or you are getting to move in with him I DONT GIVE A ****!<br />
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im am normally a positve ****** person but this **** is making me wanna throw gasoline on ppl and set them on fire...i hae had THE WORST day. so no i dont wanna hear you botch...and no no one is comparing lengths of deployments bc i support girls who arent doing deployments and who are and who are doing 7 motnh deployments and mines 13 whooptie dooo it sux all the saem with this **** being sooo crazy right now

The pettyness on this site has become outrageous and it is an ongoing thing day in and day out. I refuse to accept it anymore. Our men are the few and the proud and they need strong women. Thats the bottom line. In order to be strong, you have to be realistic. <br />
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In order to be realistic girls need to recognize what our men are doing in afghan right now and start showing some compassion and sympathy when we ask for the site to be a little more positive.

You know what Ashley? If he deploys in April he is going to miss the biggest surge very likely....which STARTED TODAY......do you not UNDERSTAND that? Are you seriously understanding that this started less than 10 hours ago? Don't criticize us because right now we can say whatever the **** we want to say. I'm sorry but come on......if you DON'T change during this next deployment then whoop-dee-*******-dooo, but I think that it is natural to become a little crazy especially when wondering about your man's safety. This offensive started TODAY so don't say this could have been said nicer. It was said perfectly and if people are offended, well that is too bad. As a Marine S/O you need to know that things will NOT be sugar-coated.....I SO DID NOT NEED THIS TODAY......

Um Ashley, I know we don't know each other very well yet, but this is my FIRST deployment. This is my very FIRST time separated from the man I love and call my best friend. The FIRST time. You don't see me coming on here posting every other second how life sucks etc. I have done really well I must say. And I do so well for him and with the help from girls that care about me. And I'm sure others would agree that we wouldn't make it by ourselves. <br />
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I'm not bashing or comparing and I don't want people to feel not important. I want them to see these relationships only get harder and if you can't deal with not talking for an hour outa the day or you can't deal with distance for more than a few weeks. You myswell throw in the towel and stop whining because its not gona magically get better

I said them nice. I held my tongue long enough and I do not in any way apologize for my comments or my story.

I NEVER SAID IT WASN'T IMPORTANT!! I am saying if you can't grow up now and start appreciating little things and stop b*itching every day, what the hell are you doing in this kinda of relationship? <br />
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Boot is totally different. It is new and is scary (for girls that haven't done this) and the girls do need guidance. THIS POST HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BOOT.

Ok RaysGal.....let's talk again when your man deploys here soon and he is involved in a major offensive. Would you want to hear about not getting to see your man because he is on duty? Would you want to hear that you can't see your man because he is in training for a month? Would you want to hear that leave didn't get approved or got shortened? You have BEEN through deployments, you KNOW what it is like.......so how could you possibly be so short-sided in your views?? I am losing the energy to argue with you, but I will say a few more things. Nobody said anything about the length of one deployment being worse than another. I think Amber was just trying to make a point. I went through a 7 month deployment last year and just started on my 2nd. This offensive is the biggest military action in a very long time. It is different. You need to realize that and have some sympathy. I ask that you have some compassion for our point. Don't be rude. Not today please. Not today.....

I was raised to to treat others how I would want to be treated. And if I was being petty and dramatic over the littlest things, I would want someone to say "SUCK IT UP!" and the reason why I would want that is because of this, how do you think the girls that are breaking down every other day are gona make it through a deployment? how are they gona survive not hearing from their man for WEEKS on end?

and thank you Tracy!! that is all I'm saying. this is not meant to start fights. this is meant to point out something. EVERY single time the phone rings you feel like puking. EVERY single news post, you wonder should I read, should I not? EVERY single day you don't hear you wonder where your man is, if he's safe, when you will talk. It's more than exhausting and for those working and going to school like myself (and others) it is so hard to be focused and hold tears in and be strong when you want to break down and stay home and in bed. <br />
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Whoever said no news is good news is a freaking liar.

idk your name either so I apologize for that. but don't come on my story and say that I am in any way trying to take away peoples right to speak freely. that is not what was intended at all and I stated that. this post is to open some damn eyes. HOW CAN I JUST NOT READ STORIES WHEN AT LEAST 3 outa 4 is NEGATIVE? you can't avoid the negative anymore and all the whining and unnecessary complaining needs to go. that is the point. girls are free to vent not B*TCH 24/7 that is NOT why this site was created! I just meerly suggested we go back to the way things were. When we actually gave a damn about what went on with other girls and didnt freaking complain about every little detail!

THANK YOU!!! I have talked to some other girls about this very issue recently. I have had the WORST day. I have known that this was coming for about a month, and for the past week it has been that it is going to happen today, no today, no today.....well now it IS today. And M IS part of the offensive. And I AM worried if he is going to make it home. Thank you for saying something. Everytime my phone rings my heart stops. It is exhausting and it has only been a day. So for right now I don't care if you can't see your man this weekend. I don't care that he didn't get stationed where you wanted him to. I don't care if his leave didn't approve. I DON'T CARE. Have your feelings hurt. I DON'T CARE. What I do care about is the internal struggle to watch the news or not watch the news. Check the casualty website or don't check the casualty website. THESE are the problems I (and many of the other ladies) are having. This is the biggest offensive in YEARS. I would have hoped that as Marine S/O's more women would be more sympathetic or at least aware of what is going on and have some respect. I thought wrong. <br />
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To all you ladies with men in Afghan, specifically the ones involved in Operation Moshtarak.......my thoughts and prayers are with you and your men.........we can get through this. We WILL get through this. Cry, scream, eat, drink, laugh, sleep......whatever you need to do.....especially tonight. We deserve it. <br />
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Semper Fidelis ladies.....has many meanings......I believe it means keep the faith....that they will get in and get out......let the Army do the occupying..... :)

Yea well I just want positive stories and stuff thats uplifting and not ***** central. If we can get the site back to how it was a year ago when I joined, I will be a happy girl!<br />
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I totally knew your name was Amanda! UGH sorry bad memory!

ok Panda<br />
please dont mention me and women dying we dont like putting that up bc its hard on us that have men over there like me i stress everday about my husbands saftey and you girls just need to realize when you put stupid bit*hing post its ****** us off to NOOO end we all go on facebook and facebook chat about how stupid and whining and bitc*y girls are being for the stupidest stuff its ridiulous most of you girls have it good i mean really good and you need to realize that before you have a harder situation thrown at you and see maybe we where right maybe what i went through wasnt that bad. im not here to be a ***** to anyone but i go a tad cray when my hubby is gone i try to stop myself but the last 2 days some of the stories are RIDICULOUS.

sorry girl idk your name! but I appreciate the post. I'm not trying to make any one feel insignificant. just trying to make a long over due point!

yeah i think soo to but it needs to be done it neede to be said!

EXACTLY Amber!! hit nail on head :) people are gona be pissy when they read I think..

yeah i didnt want to compare either but sometimes they need a tad bit of perspective you know. and i wish it would too they need to wake up and smell the roses...

Amber I do love you too. I still don't want to compare by any means. But if you do get deployment leave, that is soo lucky and I am totally jealous. Justin worked straight up til the day he left. If you hear from your man every night, it truly is a blessing and I just want you girls to recognize it. Appreciate the small things before the rug gets pulled out from under you. <br />
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I wish this post would shed some light for the girls that are being totally unrealistic!

YES GIRLS PLEASE ***** SOME MORE BC MOJORITY OF US KNOW HOW TO ***** BETTER!!!!!<br />
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Life sucks the marine corp sucks but let me tell you something 10 days leave.... YOU ARE A LUCKY BI*CH..... 3 days leave .... YOU ARE STILL A LUCKY B*TCH i mean seriously girls my husband went on a year long deployment with none yeah you want more time but dont ***** to us please i know we are your outlet we understand but it erks us more then anything how would you like NO days to 10 i would take 10... <br />
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if you havent seen your man in a week you are F*CKING LUCKY. wanna know why before last week i hadnt seen my HUSBAND IN 10 F*CKING MONTHS guess where he was AFGHAN where lets just say ALL THE **** YOU SEE ON THE NEWS IS GOING DOWN. my husband prays ever night that he gets to coem home and start a family with his wife to see his new puppies and be able to play with them again he kisses his ring and falls asleep he whiphers i love you and just wishes i hear him. So when you get a phone call tonight and he actually says I LOVE YOU to you and you get to hear his voice thank god bc hes safe!!!!!!<br />
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When your mans at boot camp STOP F*CKING COMPLAINING..... Hes safe hes not in harms way yeah it hard no comtact but letter but why r u worrying why are you stressing why are you B*TCHING i would love to know that!!!!!<br />
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When your mans at MCT, SOI Why are you B*TCHING???? hes also safe yeah he hears rumors of deployment but learn this from someone who has had 5 deployment scares and only 2 deployment dont stress till they tell you when they are in the fleet and know for SURE that he is going.... <br />
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Ultimatly we are dealing with **** that alot of you can not imagine and seriously you need to watch what you say before you get a b*tch on your tail who will make you feel like **** bc you should when you complain about STUPID F*CKING ****...... <br />
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LOVE YOU LEAH

I love you too dear! and I agree. at the moment, its looking like it'll be without EP!

I love you ma'am! <br />
We'll get through this together...w/ or w/e EP!