I'm On Two Different Pages...

I love my boyfriend to the end of the earth and I would do anything for him. So far I have supported him as much as I possibly can, and he too has done the same for me. When he came back from boot we began talking much much more about marriage, and moving in together after his MOS school. We just want to be together. He then left for MCT and has been gone most of this month. We've talked a couple times and I miss him to death.

The thing is thinking logically, and not emotionally I genuinely want Alex and I to be a forever. I know in order for that to happen we need to be a real support system to one another, military life is not easy and we all know this. Marriage is not what it's made out to be. Of course there's love and comfort and happiness but at the same time there's new financial stresses, and working each other's lives around one anothers. I NEVER want Alex to look back and say "If we had just waited then...". I am currently in college and it'll be about a year and a half before I graduate with my Associates in Arts. Do you think I should finish school before I go and live with Alex in another state? Will it be easier for us to be together instead? Any advice will really help. How should I bring this topic up with him? In my heart I want to just transfer schools and go be with him and marry him and live together happily but logically speaking I'd be much more of a support with a degree under my belt prior to starting our life together..

What do you ladies think... heart or head? and Why?

LittleDeviant LittleDeviant
18-21, F
9 Responses Feb 16, 2010

Thanks USMCVince, your advice means a lot :P

First, I would like to say congrats on falling in love with a Marine. He needs you more than you know.<br />
While he is out there training and sweating on that training field, believe me, you are on his mind.<br />
Second, your career is just as vital as his. Finish up school where you are, do not go chasing him while he is in training or during his 1st year as a fleet Marine. Why you ask? ok...here it is...<br />
Getting base houseing is not easy. Once he graduates from MCT, then MOS school, he will be assigned a unit and placed on base. Then he has to fill out for base housing. He will then be placed on a list according to "time in service, rank, and location". So it could take 1-2yrs before you and him qualify for bas housing. The other option is to get an apartment off base. He will then received BAH (basic housing allowance).Even that has to be approved, again no gaurantees. These are things the command wont tell him until he is at the desk filling out paper work and/or his CWO denies his package.<br />
I served in the USMC aswell. I was married but my wife and child stayed in NJ while I served. It was much less of a hassel, beleive me..... She attended and graduated from college while i was in. When i was discharged she had her degree and started her career. She held the fort down at home while i was away holding the fort down abroad.<br />
So please think and then re-think before you act. <br />
Let me know how things turn out.....GOOD LUCK!!!!! and GOOD LUCK TO HIM!!!!!

First, I would like to say congrats on falling in love with a Marine. He needs you more than you know.<br />
While he is out there training and sweating on that training field, believe me, you are on his mind.<br />
Second, your career is just as vital as his. Finish up school where you are, do not go chasing him while he is in training or during his 1st year as a fleet Marine. Why you ask? ok...here it is...<br />
Getting base houseing is not easy. Once he graduates from MCT, then MOS school, he will be assigned a unit and placed on base. Then he has to fill out for base housing. He will then be placed on a list according to "time in service, rank, and location". So it could take 1-2yrs before you and him qualify for bas housing. The other option is to get an apartment off base. He will then received BAH (basic housing allowance).Even that has to be approved, again no gaurantees. These are things the command wont tell him until he is at the desk filling out paper work and/or his CWO denies his package.<br />
I served in the USMC aswell. I was married but my wife and child stayed in NJ while I served. It was much less of a hassel, beleive me..... She attended and graduated from college while i was in. When i was discharged she had her degree and started her career. She held the fort down at home while i was away holding the fort down abroad.<br />
So please think and then re-think before you act. <br />
Let me know how things turn out.....GOOD LUCK!!!!! and GOOD LUCK TO HIM!!!!!

Personally, we are thinkers...and we try to plan ahead and do whats going to be best in the future. Sometimes it sucks in the here and now, but it's been worth it and I know the scarifices we make are going to pay off when he's out and we're starting our lives in the real world together. :)

I'd personally wait to finish college before I went. Getting a degree is important. Sometimes other college might not be the BEST choice for you. However, if you wanted to move and be with him, it's all up to you. :)

i was trying to be all deep and helpful and the website was like no **** you! u cant be helpful today. hmph :(

Thanks girls, I've got a lot to think about.<br />
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Liz, I almost fell off my chair laughing at the last comment LMAO!!

holy ******* crap! ok this website hates me lol

haha you know my opinion on the subject! if you