So i just need to vent really quick.. if you dont want to listen to someone complain.. i understand.. but i just really need to get this off my chest..

I am so sick and tired of people saying that i am to young to be in a committed relationship like this.. that military life is hard.. and that its not what its "cracked up to be". I KNO!!!! umm duh i am the one in the freakin relationship here! how do you know what is best for me? umm.. wouldnt i be the one to know what is best for me! I am not dropping out of school and i am going to get good grades.. i am not stupid people! i know what i want with life.. maybe i dont want what you want for my life.. but thats because we are 2 different people!!! im 19 my goodness!!! yea i know that is still young.. but i do have a good sense of what is good for myself and what isnt good.. ugh!

sorry.. i know this sounds like i am just bitchin.. and i prob am.. but i really needed to get that off my chest.. its totally been messin with me lately..

if anyone has any good advice.. please.. i am all ears to whatever you have to say!!!!

mplen09 mplen09
18-21, F
8 Responses Mar 7, 2010

thanks ladies! you have been such a great help.. it is really nice to have a place to come to and talk to people that know what i am going through.. there are not a lot of places out there where i can do that.. so thanks for all of your help..

all the girls here are right. its your life sweetie, live it that way u want to, respectfully take their opinions but dont freakin listen to them! im 19 too, a lot of the girls on here 18-21 and all of us know what your going through, its not age that should be a concern, its your maturity level and if your mature enough to make a long distance relationship work and you're willing to go through this crazy hard situation then go for it! sorry u have to hear that all the time :( venting is good!

My parents in the beginning of mine and Jason's relationship were exactly the same except he was a policeman and kept saying death is a reality in that career and then became more alright with it. Then he became a marine and they did the same thing i eventually was like hey this is my life i love him and i'm happy i'll still have my career and i'll still be the same person i don't need people constantly telling me not what to do they backed off eventually and we all good!! If u know u can do this then don't let anything hold u back!

You know what if u know u can do it then do it! It sounds like u have your head on your shoulders and u making the right choices what other people think they know means nothing u in they aren't u make your own choices and u live with it in the end. The important thing is that u love him and want to be in it so why does every one else have to put in there two cents worth my advice u know what u more than anything so trust your own instinct its the only thing u can do!

heyyy... i have been in my relationship since i was 17... now im 20.... and we are still going strong... talkin about marriage... and i a DID drop out of school... but not bc of him.. and he is seriously on my case about going back... haha. its not easy... and anyone who has been with a marine for more that a week knows that.... but only the ones that have learned to cope will make it through... i made it very apparent that i wasnt listening about the 5th or 6th time of listening to the lectures.... lol i dont try to be rude but eventually i have to say.... 'HEYYYY. THIS IS MYY LIFE. EITHER SUPPORT ME AND MY CHOICES OR GET OUT OF MY WAY. YOUR NOT GONNA CHANGE WHO I AM OR HOW I FEEL"

Hun, I'm goin through the same thing you are. I'm 17, 18 in a month, and just about to go off to college next year. So i always get the "your still so young" "theres so many other guys out there, why settle now" "why not keep your options open". Some of my best friends don't even understand why I want to stay in a relationship like this, but that's just how it is. No one will actually understand how things are unless they've actually had to deal with it. you just can't let them get to you. which i realize is a lot easier said then done. You just have to show everyone that you've got a good head on your shoulders, you can do that by getting good grades like you've said you will. After awhile people will leave you alone about it. People don't seem to get that this type of relationship is hard enough without their input. So don't worry about feelin like your "bitchin", I think all of us in these kind of situations are entitled to do so every once in a while. haha. I've let what people say get to me and its caused me to look at my relationship and have low confidence in it sometimes and think how can this possibly work? but then i realize i love kieth and WANT to take the risk in trying to make it work. You've just got to remind yourself how much you love him and care about him. Something that always helps me is writing stuff down. Like my goals for what i'm going to do for myself, why i love kieth, etc. maybe that's something you can try? Idk. ha.

Get it out! And let it roll off of you when people say that you are too young... Who cares if they dont get it. You know how you feel and you should feel blessed that it happened at such a young age!!! People are always going to disagree with your decisions, mostly bc they dont want to see you get hurt, what they dont realize is that how ever this situation turns out for you (Im hoping for the absolute best), you still have to make this call. It is a risk to get involved sooo young... but heres the thing. The reward is worth the risk... If it wasnt you wouldnt be taking it... The reward is spending your life with the one who still gives you butterflies and brightens every part of your life... Trust me, I get it. I am 24, people tell me I am too young. They just dont get it. But we do :) Hope things look up soon... and like I said, blow them off!

My ma always said, "Opinions are like ********. Everyone's got them and they all stink.: <br />
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Baz Luhrmann said it even better:<br />
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"Be careful whose advice you buy, but, be patient with those who<br />
supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia, dispensing it is a way of<br />
fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the<br />
ugly parts and recycling it for more than<br />
it’s worth."<br />
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It's the truth. People think they are looking out for you by dispensing advice, based on past experiences, but no two circumstances are identical and only you can decide what's right for you. Politely tell them thank you for your concern, but I have to learn things for myself.<br />
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Have conviction in your own choices. People will eventually back off. :)