Grrrr....

Okay so, my husband is a Marine and he has been out in 29 stumps for the last 3 1/2 weeks. Over the course of the last few days the date for them to come home has changed only about 5 million times... I realize that the military can never make up its mind and it is in love with the game of hurry up and wait but I swear if they change the date one more time I am going to scream. Oh and to top it all off, the date right now is next thurday and he is supposed to have duty for 24 hrs on friday and then they are marching in the swallos parade on Saturday so I pretty much have no time with him when he gets back and they deployment is in 6 1/2 weeks...

 

Sorry for ranting but I needed to vent before I went nuts lol!

MrsLucas MrsLucas
22-25, F
9 Responses Mar 12, 2010

What unit is he with?

I totally know what you mean, my boyfriends in 29 stumps to (and has been for a few weeks) Im really hoping I get to spend time with him, but like you said they keep changing the dates.

Ya I know what you mean. My husband is my family. My family back home is really unhealthy for me to deal with and so not having my husband here is hard. And I am talking to someone at the deployment health clinic on base. <br />
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Where are you and your husband stationed?

Yeah, I am sure it sucks. I am not looking forward to the deployment either. Matt is my best friend and the only family that I really talk to so I know its going to be hard for me too. If you ever need someone to talk to you can talk to me! Also, just in case you didn't know, militaryonesource.com will give you an 800 number that will hook you up with a counselor in your area for 3 months and then tricare will pay for the rest if you continue to go. I have already started going because it helps to have someone to talk to about all the things you can't worry your husband with.

Ha ha my husband hasnt been gone for long. Just a month. And honestly I hate the deployment so much already. I'm used to seeing my husband every day and getting to talk to him about everything and thats just not possible now. I've gotten 1 call since he's been in Afghanistan. I feel like our communication has gone to crap just because of the limited time they get to communicate. Things have come up since he's left where I wish so badly that I could talk to him about it and have him wrap me in his arms but I know telling him certain things isnt smart because it would worry him and that wont do him any good. As you can tell at the moment I am not liking the deployment so what I have to say isnt the most positive. But even though I am struggling and want my husband home I am already aware of how doing things that are normally my husbands job (like paying the bills, unclogging drains, and other little stuff) makes me feel like I have accomplished something. I like that I have been able to get out more these days too ( because I now have the car). Staying busy has really helped me from being overly emotional. Yes I still break down and cry but I dont dwell constantly on the fact that he's gone.

How long has your husband been gone for? It has been awesome hearing your story or reading it rather! I got to talk to Matt for like 10 min today which totally made my day! I feel so much better after just getting to hear that he loves me. Ah the little things lol!

The only thing good about them coming out here to 29 is that its probably the most like what they'll see overseas. The weather here is similar but I've heard Afghan can get even hotter than it does here. I never want to experience hotter than it gets here. And the constant back and forth with the Marine Corps and the predeplyoment stuff does get exhausting. I had prepared myself for the long days before he left but there were still times where I couldnt help but cry. And every day since my husband left I've hoped that something would come up and they'd have to come home. Deployment is a sucky thing.

Yeah I know! The back and forth of it all gets a bit exhausting at times though. Matt has been working super long days in the middle of no where and I only get phone calls every few days but I know its a good practice for deployment when I only get to talk to him every month or so but It still sucks... I'm sure you know how I feel... He is my world and I just wish I could keep him here. But you are right, I just need to suck it up and enjoy the time we do get before he leaves!

The predeployment work up is very demanding. My husband was working 14-16 hr days for almost the full month before he left. You just have to enjoy and make the best out of the time that you do get together.