Met My Soldier On An On Line Dating Site

If you feel you are being mislead by an online romance - You probably are! If you'd like free help Advice to show you proper search engines, sites you can use to get back Your life!! And a fake guy out..Please feel free to contact me! As I understand very much so this type of emotional pain. I just want to help other women/men avoid this. God Bless!
Sincere & Not fake -Me!! :))

I can relate to your post! This is what my situation now, like he broke up with someone then he calls me like I'm his girl even though we haven't met personally yet... same story like yours. To be honest, you need to tell him to go first in your country just to prove it that he's serious and interested in you and to tell if he's genuine enough. That's what my aunt's advice she gave to me :) God Bless!

I recently ment a military guy online. We chat during his lunch hr almost everyday. I have asked him if he could skype or call me he say's it is not allowed because of security reasons. He has sent lots of pic and even sent me a copy of his military Id I also asked him for a copy of his drivers license. I was not suspious untill he asked for money and that put up a huge red flag. How can I be sure this guy is who he say's he is..yes it is a real Id had an Army friend look at it... I want to trust him but I also don't want to be stupid...Thanks

OMG yr living my dream. I dont know how you first contacted him as I have been trying for over a year to met a usa military personal. Im ex RNZN. tell me the secrete to doing this. My thoughts are no yr not clingy , but feel happy and thats what will make yr mind up for you, yes follow yr heart ok. As he might be the one.

Hello ! I read your story and I met a man exactly like that from a dating site. We spoke for months....and I knew it was hard for us to meet being he was stationed in Alaska and I live in New York. He just recently contacted me and told me he loved me. I was a little freaked out because we never met in person and I do believe love comes in all forms and shapes but I realized he had serious issue's and I backed off. He was stuck in the illusion of wanting a girl being he was so lonely where he was. Now I'm not saying this man doesn't truly care for you...you two might have an extremely special bond..but just be cautious and keep your wits about you. -As for you, it's not clingy, you are also in love with the idea of a military man. I am the same exact way...they are sexy! Don't fall in head over heels because you never know what could happen.

Hi I am from another country and met my soldier in a dating site. He came in one day, left me your email address and left the site the next day. I wrote to him, we exchanged a few photos, nothing sexual, and we exchanged emails over a month, almost daily. We never talk or video chat. We have a time difference of seven hours and I think that confuses a little. But the truth is beginning to like him very much, despite the enormous distance. He was never offensive, never tried anything relating to sex or money. It is always very affectionate and he says being in love. I do not know what to think or how to check if he speaks the truth, even if it is in the army, although he sent me pictures of his uniform. He asks me if I would move to his city to live together. What do you think? I'm afraid to fall in love once and hurt me ...

I MET A SOLDIER ON A DATING WEBSITE. HE SAW ME FIRST AND INITIATED THE CONVERSATION. HE IS DEPLOYED TO AFGHANISTAN FOR TWO YEARS. HE IS DIVORCED AND WE ARE HITTING IT OFF. I AM SCARED IT IS JUST TO GOOD TO BE TRUE. HE HAS NOT ASKED ME FOR MONEY OR SEX AND WE HAVE SENT PIC TO EACH OTHER. HE TELLS ME HE LOVES ME AND I AM STARTING TO REALLY FALL IN LOVE WITH HIM. HE SENDS LOVE POEMS AND HE SENDS EMAILS NUMEROUS TIMES A DAY. I JUST FEEL IT IS TO GOOD TO BE TRUE AND I DO NOT KNOW WHAT TO DO.

I to met a soldier on a dating site Chumads, Jason Adams we kept in contact however he went quite for about a month & suddenly I got another mail from the same guy using a different e mail account. Kinda scary I'm very cautious.

If you have never met in person, be careful with online dating sites.

ive meet my boyfriend in online dating site and he deployed in afghanistan..

and he want to meet me in here in philippines .. this coming march ..

while he is in war zone till now..were still chatting i send him all my pictures and he use my picture as a wallpaper in his iphone.. i really fall inlove with my man.. we are doing cybersex sometimes and there was a time that i saw a tears falling from he's eyes and he told me that he can't wait to see me.. we have 3000 miles away.. and we need to wait untill march but i can wait him .. the problem is what if he can't meet me this coming march and i am hoping to see him also.. i don't know what to do .. i really love him.. i sleepless night .. we still chatting.. he makes me smile.. chat and video chat.. he already meet my parents tru webcam my family and my relatives.. i hope he will not broke his promise .. i am 22 and he is turning 32 this coming december.. wish me luck!

I have met a man who says he is a soilder on deployment says he is widowed an look to love again in the 2 weeks since we met he says he has fallen in love with him and he wants me in his life forever. I am very wary any advice

I met an US Army Sgt online. Immediately knowing my full entire name in one day of chatting, he wanted a full commitment from me. Less than a month of online courting he wanted to marry me

and spend our lives together forever, before ever meeting each other IRL. He was adamant having a quicky ceremony with the Justice of the Peace when he planned to visit me on his military leave.

He told me he would earn an additional $3,000 a month if we were to marry while he is deployed in

Afghanistan. I've reported him to his AIG. Since our split, I've discovered he's been engaged to marriage with 3 different women within last six months. Ladies guard your heart and you wallet.

Pigs! If he really was deployed to a war zone, some guys have no family and no one to write to them to take their minds off their surroundings. We can never imagine what they are going thru. These guys really do need penpals and friends to help them get thru the difficult times. However, sleeze balls treat women like crap only to use them for such attention making them promises that they knkow they wont keep. Some men that are stationed overseas claimed to be "deployed to a war zone" just to keep women states side for sex buddies when they return home. Then when the weekend is over, they return back to their "deployment". The majority of men are good hearted soldiers fighting for our freedom and country who need good women supporting them. I stand by my man! :) Good luck.

Thank you for all your comments.He came to see me recently ,and i went through his personal belongings.He had itenararies to travel to other countries and i saw copies of emails with addresses and long love letters from other women.I also found a usb with pictures of him and another woman.They were both wearing wedding bands.When i questioned him he said they broke up and he said the other women were just friends who kept him company in deployment.I was gutted.What kind of person does that?

I knew my guy from high school.. hadnt seen him in almost 20yrs, started an online relationship, flew to see him, then he deployed. I can tell you that it IS possible for conversations to end abruptly because the internet goes up and down over in iraq, plus some places the generators go up/down at certain times too. There have been times that I havent heard from him for 2-8 wks and all of a sudden he just pops up. We cant speak on the phone, and he told me not to bother writing cause he moves so much between iraq/kuwait and different regions. However, there are many guys out there that are infact scamming women. They try to claim that they need money to get home----they do not. the army will send them anywhere they want to go and back again. So DO NOT send them money. It is a very popular scam where the woman calls a number to send money for him to get the leave to come home---it is bogus. In these situations it is hard to tell. Everyone's job is different therefore the missions are different, so the times that he can write/call WILL be different from someone else's. As for the phone/cybersex---men take what they can get if you let them. If he is TRULY over there, it is possible he is in a desert with a bunch of smelly sweaty men without a woman in sight. Your insecurity shows the type of relationship you have. I would tell him that you are going to see other people til he returns and see what happens.

Hi!

I wanted to comment on your story, because I think I'm in a similar situation....

I've met a deployed soldier via an on-line dating site, and we have been emailing each other as much as possible. I feel like I'm really falling for this man- he's very charming, and great to talk to. We've shared pictures (not sexual at this point), so i don't feel completely blind in all this, but I do sometimes question if he's a player or not. Its too early in the game to truly know! Am I one of several women? I did notice the other day that he took his profile off the dating site, so that was reasurring to me!



He has about 5 months to go with his tour- and says he plans to retire from the military when he gets home. He does live in a another state (not too far- a 2 hour plane trip), but he has assured me he has no ties to his hometown, and that the logistics can be worked out. I've moved a lot in my life,so I do agree the long distance isn't a huge deal breaker for me. If he's really the one (I do hope so!!)- we can work that part out.



But am I being totally naive about this? We are both divorced, and I think both searching for a new love, & start in life. I'm also fine with getting to know him better & emailing over the next 5 months while he's overseas.



Also- I've never dated anyone who is deployed. Is the communication always very sporadic? I never really know when he's going to contact me. I don't like having to constantly wait by the phone...But I understand it must be so hectic every day for him!! I start thinking something either really bad has happened to him. or he's talking to other women if I don't hear from him!!! I don't want to be paranoid about this... We had a conversation last night that abruptly ended- no good byes or anything. He just logged off....And I haven't heard anything from him at all since then!! I guess I just want to know if this is normal.



I do understand your feelings in your relationship- And I kind of disagree with the other comments...I think if you like him, and you're both enjoying the company, I say go with it! I would just be very careful with the cyber sex thing!! That could come back to haunt you later....(that's coming from the Mom in me...)



I would appreciate any comments or advice anyone has!!!



Good luck with your soldier!! :)

Hey there..I don´t want to sound rude but..i bet he´s just using you.Stay out of cyber sex and you will see who cares about you really.



Cheers,

Lady from North