I notice a lot of girls refer to their military relationship or this life style as a Dear John life. Everytime I see this I can't help but think they don't really truly understand what a Dear John is. It's not something you should refer yourself to, it's not a title to proudly boast. A Dear John is a break up letter. And to be honest that really makes me angry, because the girls who do this put the military girlfriends in a category that many of us struggle to stay out of. So please if you love your soldier and want to spend the rest of your life with him DO NOT REFER TO DEAR JOHN. I must take three seconds to roll my eyes at these girls. I'm sorry if his offends any of you, but honestly think about what you're saying!