I Don't Want Him To Go...

Me and my Fiance Josh have been together for 4 years now. I love him with all of my heart. Around 2 years of being together, I moved to North Carolina with my parents. He still lived back home in Indiana and went to college. After one semester, he said he needed to enlist. It was just something he needed to do. I always stuck by him. Well his unit is locked in to deploy in November of this year. I don't want him to go at all. It would be a 12 month tour. I will go crazy with out for 12 months. I am currently still in North Carolina and he is based in Lousiana. We don't even get to see each other as it is. Its a 15 hour drive and hard to find money and time to see each other with school and work. Any girls on here have their man deploy to afghanistan? What was it like? I want/need all the details you can give. I know November is still far away but i feel as though i need to be prepared for whats coming. Him and I dont like to talk about it because it just makes us sad and pretty much ruins the conversation. We try not to talk about it. Can any of you ladies fill me in please!?!?

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ArmyFianceJess ArmyFianceJess
18-21, F
4 Responses Mar 1, 2010

i love this site cause it's so great to know that there are others out there who know what I'm going through and have yet to go through, i moved from hawaii to NC this august and i met him in hawaii over myyearbook but after i moved i found out he's deploying this coming september/august. I haven't seen him in forever and it feels like my heart is missing ): good luck with your soldier

My boyfriend is based out of Ft. Bragg and he is also being deployed to Afghanistan. This is his first deployment as well. We have been together for 12 months. It's the unknown what really kills me. Will our relationship remain strong. Its going to be very hard for me. Although we live 45 minutes from each other, it will be very hard not being able to talk to him as often. My friends all tell me to move on with my life, but in my heart I know he is the one for me. I don't know how I am going to make it.

Its going to be so hard not seeing him! Do you and your soldier live together? I wish i could live with my soldier. I hardly get to see him as it is. I am just handing it all to God and hoping he can help me get through it!!! Its hard talking to my friends about it because they dont really understand what it feels like. Where is your soldier based? fort bragg?

My soldier is deploying in September/November to go to Afghanistan as well. So I know how you're feeling. This is his first deployment, we're also out of North Carolina. My plan is to get together with army wives and g/f, people that understand and can sympathize with this situation and get through those 15 months without him. Just remember that eventually he'll be coming home and he's not gone forever, and wherever he is he'll be missing you like hell and you're the one he's going to look forward to seeing.