Freaking Out!

I just found out that I am pregnant.. I haven't told my MM yet. I don't know what to say or do at this point. This wasn't a careless mistake, we used contraception!! Any advice?
lovesick21 lovesick21
18-21, F
6 Responses Jul 10, 2010

Always put your interest firs before anyone. There is no such thing as being selffish OR feeling guilty.. in this situation. You HEAR. Make your decision quick before you have no decision to make but one.

thank you all for your support, I really appreciate it. I have never been someone who is fond of abortion but I have been giving that option a thought. That was until yesterday when I went to my doctor and found out that I am 6 weeks and it appears that there is more than one embryo. My MM has been very supportive and is leaving all the decisions up to me but I don't know what to do. I am a young college student working multiple jobs,who is pregnant by a married man.. If I go through with this pregnancy I feel like I am being selfish. If I have an abortion I don't know if I can handle the guilt..Im at my wits end....

I wish you the best of luck. I had a friend in the same situation you are in. worst part is that they worked together. She ended up having the baby and I am not sure what happened to her MM. It is your choice on what to do, it is your body and your baby. You might have to raise it by yourself, but he does have to pay child support.. <br />
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Keep your head held high and remember its your choice!

I have an appointment scheduled to go to a dr. and have a blood pregnancy test done. I told my MM today and we talked about the options.... He thinks that an abortion is the best route for us due to our situation. I agree but I have always been against abortion personally. We are weighing what few options we have. He says that he can't commit to raising this child with me IF i choose to keep it. He has so much going on in his personal life that I understand this but it still hurts to hear. Im still not sure what we are going to do but we are going to figure it out together..

from a guys standpoint... Unless your commited man is V E R Y understanding and a real family type man, the relationship with him is over. ( and the same thing needs to be asked of the daddy ). This just isn't something that can be recovered from in a relationship. Cheating is something that can be worked through... having to raise a child that is not yours will ALWAYS have resentment attached to it...It's just not the same as a step child ( at least there, the guy is prepared for it in advance ). <br />
AND.... don't try and say that the commited man is the dad to save yourself. He WILL find out eventually and then the sh*t is really going to hit the fan and only bad things will happen at that point for everyone involved. <br />
Take your lumps now and be a responsible parent and raise the beautiful baby the best you can. Being a single mother isn't the worst thing in the world ( I guess...I'm a guy ; ) ) and there is always opportunity to meet the right family man and fulfill that part of your life.

Oh, dear... I'm sorry. What a huge life change this has brought about, eh? You have a lot of things to think about, are you keeping the baby? This is your decision to make, whether your MM agrees or not. I don't want you to do something you regret, like aborting or giving it up, if that's what he wants you to do. I am not saying he does, and I am not saying you want to keep it, I'm just saying that is something you can never take back so you have to think really long & hard about it. Oh gosh, where am I going with this... just... my hope for you is that your MM is happy about it, and you are happy about it, and that he will provide for you & the baby & everything goes smoothly in your life. I will be putting those positive thoughts out there for you, that is if that's what you want. No matter what you choose, I hope everything works out for the best. Good luck with it, and much love to you. :)