I Was Almost The Other Woman.

He's 36 and I am 20. He is married but separated from his wife, as in they are no longer residing under the same roof. I got out of a relationship about a month ago and he began texting me about two weeks ago. We are friends and co workers so it wasn't random to hear from him because we work in a restaurant that does group things outside of work. The texting turned into flirting and the flirting turned in to hanging out alone together and a lunch date but never more that. One night while star gazing he told me he wanted to kiss me. I didn't respond right away because I really wanted to kiss him too but I knew it was wrong. We never kissed the only thing that happened was he held my hand. I enjoy his company and could talk with him for hours but he is married! I didn't want to be the younger women he left his wife for! I want to keep talking to him but I don't want to be "the other woman" because I hope that if I'm ever in her position that the girl would back off too! What should I do!? I am do the right thing aren't I?!
misgracy misgracy
3 Responses Jul 18, 2010

Cheers to you! You are just only 20 yrs and there are so much to do than to get locked in with a MM, don't sell yourself short. Don't start something that you know will only bring heartacke to you mainly. Enjoy your life to the fullest and over the years you will come incontact with many different types of men and only then you will know who is right for you. Good luck!

I also admire you or doing the right thing. I have a friend that was in this situation and didn't back off and she has never been able to forgive herself for it. What you are doing is good. The feelings for him might not go away right away but they will in time.

Misgracy, I admire you wanting to do the right thing.