I Was The Other Women ... We Got Found Out

Kids..

We get married to have them.

We have secrets to protect them.

We have big dreams for them.

We would give our lives to save them..



Ok, the damage is done.

Right now, you can see absolutely clearly if this guy is yours or not.

Logically, you know that the kids will come around in a few weeks/months/years (depends on their age)...but if you two cannot console each other right now, through this, I think you never will.

I hope you can, and I wish for you to find joy even in these trying times..

sending you fortitude and clarity

Don't be so sure his wife won't take him back, I've seen it happen time after time and done it myself many times when I swore I never would.

I feel what you are going through. Some types of affairs are complicated, dangerous and it can put a lot of hardship on people involved when it is exposed. Nevertheless, there are reasons why affairs happen. Having kids on both sides complicates it more. So what's the best strategy to deal with the post-exposure feelings? If you and John are still in love, you should maintain your communication. However, you should do it as secretly as possible. The idea is to minimize the post-exposure bad feelings and buy time to workout your short term and long term tactics and plans. These are my views. I hope it helps you in some way.

I'm so sorry to hear all this! It was terrible of your girl to do that. On the other hand, she may have had pure intentions when she did it, not realizing what a tornado it would create. Just take it as a blessing. You can heal from it, learn from it, counsel it. See the glass as half full, even if you must move to another city and start fresh, remember that you were given a gift that is this life and even with great human failings, it is precious.

I felt EXACTLY like you did when my life was blown up. I was suicidal (This was just about 6 months ago). My children wouldn't see me, my spouse made sure they stayed mad at me. My lover couldn't see me because his wife was deciding if she wanted to keep him or not. Long story short, things ARE better now. Not at all perfect, but better. My kids, although they don't accept the affair, they still love me. Everyone told me that would come around cuz I'm their mom. Slowly they did. We have alot of issues still. My oldest had turned to drug. I got into counseling and I think it helped keep me from killing myself. My lover is still my best friend. We just can't see each other as much. I just want you to know, that if this is just freshly blown up, take one day at a time. It won't always feel this bad. I still have times where I'm almost unalbe to get out of bed, but overall I am ok. You will be ok too. Take it a day at a time. Lean on your lover if you still can, and let him lean on you. msg me or chat sometime. Be well

Thanks but my whole world is shattered with this I can deal with but knowing how I feel and to put this on innocent children its hard. they are faced with a situation no child needs to go through.

Thank you for your kind words

Damn man ... this is easier then you think .... what is done is done.



Pick up the pieces, make the best of it and be happy!