If You Love A Married Man, I Feel For You.We met when with were young and carefree. A friend/classmate of mine was dating his best friend/roommate. I was just a waitress and part-time community college student. Proud to have my first apartment. Not too much else going on in my life. He was a Marine stationed here, originally from Montana. He was sexy but also mature and thoughtful.
My friend's date says "K" needs a date to the ball. He had a date, but she canceled and he already bought the tickets. This changes my life forever. We all get together once before the ball and hang out. Then the weekend of the ball comes around, I am nervous and excited! The ball itself was only okay. He is too stoic to dance. We spend most of the time eating, drinking and talking at the table, or outside smoking. Nothing special. But we had a great time at the hotel afterward. And the night was amazing. I feel so much lust for him, something I have never felt before for anyone so strongly.
About 3 years go by and me and K are off and on. He deploys twice during this time. I date other people, finish college and move around the town a bit. While he is deployed we email daily. He never, in all that time, talked about being serious with me. He never saw me like that and I knew it. But in between deployments and training that takes him away we have a blast. We spent weekends at the beach. We go to movies, out to eat, spend hours just talking and spend many, many nights having sex. I meet someone else, things go well, but I can't get K out of my head. The new guy is amazing. He is a high school teacher, kind, attractive and we have so much in common. I get engaged to this other guy. But I cheat on him with K. I lost a great guy because of my feelings for K..
More time goes by. I see K when we can. It is frustrating. We make plans and they either get canceled or cut-short by the increasing demands of his job. (2 wars now in full-swing) Luckily my job has some flexibility (bookkeeping for a nursing home), so we do see each other some. K doesn't really date anyone else. I do. But noting works out. I get increasingly frustrated. I cry a lot. During all this time, I know K did not see me as the "one" for him. Just a friend, a friend that he could also have sex with.
Then he does find someone. It happened so fast. I knew something was up because I haven't seen in so long. Texts and emails between us had really slowed down for about 3 weeks. Then I saw it, (on myspace of all places), he had a girlfriend. Ugh. I instantly hated her. She was from upstate NY. She moved down her to live with her cousin. There is only one reason a 23 year-old single woman moves here, just outside a large Marine ba
I was devastated. But I never told him that. I just congratulated them. I continue on. I work and date some. He becomes a recruiter. He is sent away for training and then sent to Pennsylvanian. I don't hear much from him for 2 years. He takes down his myspace and doesn't have a facebook yet.
Work moves me away from the area during this time. I was glad. That whole place reminded me of him. I was sick of it. I even get into a serious relationship. But nothing works out in the end.
Then one day he gets on AIM, which I haven't seen him on in years. We have an hour long conversation. It was just like old times. I was so happy. They were still married and now had a son. I wasn't seeing anyone. We start texting and email often. Sexual texts and pictures. Over the course of the next year we send thousands of texts. We make plans to meet when he moves back here. Of course it will be harder since I do not live in the same town anymore. Now him and his wife have facebook, I finally get to see what she looks like. She is a little chubby. Kinda looks like she would be mean. I am definitely not impressed with her.
Then, a little more than a year after we reconnected, he comes to see me while he is driving though. It is a short stay, but well worth it. Then I went to see him. I got a hotel room. He faked as though he needed to be on ba
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I do not hate his wife. I do not want her to find out. But I also do not feel guilty. I had, and still have, very strong feelings for K. Those didn't go away because he got married. K and I didn't get a chance to properly say goodbye the first time because she got pregnant so soon. As I type this, I know it sounds selfish. But it is also reality, and I wanted to share my story. My 10 year high school reunion is coming up. Hopefully I will have a date, someone I can actually been seen in public with. It will be nice for a change. I look forward to maybe meeting my " the one" soon.
If you love a married man, I feel for you. It is not easy. There is a lot of potential for somebody to get hurt. You can't help that you love that person, but you can let them go if it is for the best. Good luck to you all.