The Saga Continues...

So here I am just a couple of weeks (i think) after ending my emotional affair with a married man. I speak to people on here who are in a similar situation to myself. The support they have given me is incredible and I don't think I could of done it without them. It is so hard to explain how I'm feeling, in one sense I feel elated that I am finally free from this affair. The fact that I did it for the right reasons can only make me stronger. I'm trying not to hate myself for the pain I have caused yet that is easier said than done. I don't know I guess I just feel alone, sad and miserable that I don't have him to comfort me anymore. Yet I shouldn't be second best to anyone. I may be young but I am mature for my age and this wasn't just a crush.

Well the last couple of days have been full of drama. In less detail his wife basically have him two options, fire me or walk out of their house and never go back. Lucky for me he cannot fire me as I have been there for eight years. So he had no choice but to leave his house, and the first thing he did was come running to me. Yes I felt guilty and I felt it was my responsibility to offer him my spare room however continue to not have an affair with him. However after talking to a good friend on here I decided that, that was not the best option, it could only make matters worse. So after my day in London for work reasons I decided to fly off to Paris for the day and night. (Sunday) Paris is a great escape
For me and made me see things more

Today (Tuesday) I went into work acting as professionally as I normally do. To my surprise him and his wife spent the whole day in our office. It was incredibly uncomfortable, however this women has a right to hate me as I do myself. As soon as his wife left to go get coffee he rushed to talk to me, he said that he is sorry for ignoring me all day but he wouldn't be a man if he didn't try to make his marriage work. And then he went on to express his love for me.
I think I can finally say I am done, a man doesn't play with a woman's emotions in such a devastation way, he doesn't go hot and cold on a woman he declares to love. One minute he's telling me he would loose everything to be with me even though I never asked him too and then the next he's telling me we never had a future due to our age difference. Sorry for the rant guys I guess you don't know someone's true colours untill faced with a difficult situations. But now I know that I definatly have to move on, I am not willing to wait for him and I deserve to be someone's number ones in life.

We shall see what continues as I have two more days at work. Thankyou for listening.
Seekingadvise Seekingadvise
22-25, F
6 Responses Jun 12, 2012

Girl stay strong ..... & stay away from married men!!! It's just never a good.idea.

I have definatly learned it is not a good idea. He pursued me for five years and I just gave in. I have definatly learnt a lesson from this.

Good 4 u!!! Move on and enjoy your 20s. I had so much fun back then!!! Still haven fun now but your 20s r so cool. Go to Paris ..go to where ever u can! Don't worry about boys ..wait ...they're. So much more fun when ur all grown up. Make urself some kickass memories to look back on when ur old!!! Good. Luck sweetie is short & drama isn't as much fun as reality. Tv makes it out to be!!

Thankyou :)

I totally agree life is too short. I plan from now on to make every moment count and be a positive one!!!

SA:<br />
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I'm very proud of your courage & inner takes a strong woman to do, be firm & committed to her beliefs.<br />
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Continue to stand by them, stand up for yourself & be HAPPY!

Thankyou so much for you kind words. It's nice to be reminded that I am doing to right thing.

It may not be a bad idea to keep an eye out for other jobs. Not that you will be forced out, not that you need to run away and leave your old life behind you, but just have your options open.

Thankyou :) I actually have an interview for Friday!! I know in my head it is time to move on and even though I'll miss him as I have known him for 8 years it will do me the world of good to have a fresh start and not end up resenting him for me hating my job.

I know you hurt, and of course you're hurting even now as I write this, but you know it for yourself that as time passes by, you'll be fine and happier without this relationship. And yes, you'll find someone to love who'll love you back with same intensity as you do if not more. And just what you did proves what a strong woman you are. :)

Thankyou for your supportive words!! I just have to keep reminding myself that time is a great healer. Things will get better. I'm currently in the office with him and his wife isn't here. He's gone back to his normal self yet I'm just being professional and keeping conversations short and purely about work. Thankyou again

I'm sure I will be. Time is a great healer!! <br />
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Paris is a beautiful place. I live in the uk and from my local airport it is only 1 and a half hours away.

Thanks for the update. It sounds like you will be fine. <br />
On a side note, I live in America, so running off to Paris sounds so wonderful.